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I searched for similar threads and the closest to it was the topic on what we hate about ourselves, but I wanted to take a different approach.

We all have qualities, characteristics, features, and things that we hate about ourselves. But have we ever tried to look at it differently?

So pretty simple. Write something you absolutely hate about yourself with a passion, and then mention at least one good thing that came from it, or why sometimes it's really not so bad.

For me:

I hate my inability for follow through, and jumping from project to project, hobby to hobby without fully learning what I started with BUT....if I didn't switch from learning French to Swedish I never would have met that cute Swedish guy and ruin his language by telling him that I'm using the bathroom instead of a normal greeting by accident. And if that never happened I would never have that story to tell my friends and make them laugh and go "Oh Raya." Because everytime they shake their head and say that in exasperated fondness, makes me realize how much my friends love me even when I'm doing and saying crazy things.

So I want you to really think about it. You will be surprised to find out that the very thing you hate about yourself had an affect or even a small connection to something you love.

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i hate that when things get hard or if it takes too long my determination slowly dies an its really annoying,kuz most of the stuff i really b wanting to do
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I hate how I'm always nice to people, even if I really don't like them... but the benefits are pretty obvious
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nonsense90 wrote:

i hate that when things get hard or if it takes too long my determination slowly dies an its really annoying,kuz most of the stuff i really b wanting to do


But is it connected to something that made you happy or an experience you enjoy? This is supposed to be positive, seeing the worst of ourselves and trying to see how maybe at some point in our life it was okay.

And for future posts,don't just list what you hate without saying something positive about it as well. If you want to list what you hate about yourself there is another thread for that.
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I hate I don't have big boobs, That i don't have a perfect clear face, or perfect hair.
I hate that I let people take advantage of me.
And I hate that I don't have strong enough will power or discipline to get 100 percent on every test...of course....I feel like I don't have to prove myself.

I like that I stand up for what's right and try to do what's right-- even though I fail sometimes.
and I like that i'm not a boring person.
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I won't say anything until I get a lawyer.
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I hate my hyperactive disorder, but at least I'm not a boring person. People get scared away by my hyper nature but those people aren't worth knowing anyway.
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its jus interests that catch my eye an some thing i enjoy,which is rare kuz im not interested in much, an the good part about that is that i know what im interested in in the long run incase i wanna pick it back up an start over or something
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I absolutely hate my curly hair because it is so difficult to manage BUT...if I had perfect hair than I never would have discovered how awesome wigs are :-P
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I don't like that I am always nice to people, even when they take advantage of me. I can't find the middle ground.
I also get obsessive about finishing a task, even if my mind or body gives out. Its a bit self destructive.

I like the fact I am disciplined, even when I feel criticized. People never expect me to take advice well, because they think I am timid, when I'm not.

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I have to say also, that I like the fact I can make friends easily, dispite a past of much turmoil and seclusion. It just takes a bit of work to become more confident. I'm 22 and still have trouble keeping the friends I make because I shut myself out.
My kindness is genuine. If I have it in me to be considerate I will.
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I hate that I'm too nice of a person. It infuriates me because I watch guys who are total assholes score amazing chicks they don't deserve, and then watch those chicks get left in a crying mess when the guy finishes using them. And all the while I get ignored even though I look better than those assholes (tall, muscled, clear skin, etc etc), dress incredibly well, I'm richer than average, have better grades, go to the most prestigious school in my country, and am the NICEST, KINDEST, MOST LOYAL guy you will ever meet. Yet I get friendzoned every time because I'm nice. Go fucking figure.

Has it brought me anything good? Maybe. Doubt it.

EDIT: Realized that I have to post something good that happened because of it. Well, I'm generally able to make friends with anyone I want. I have yet to meet someone that hates me. I can be in any group or clique because I'm incredibly frictionless to deal with and can put up with pretty much anyone with a smile on my face. I'm able to completely ignore drama and not even see it happening (so I don't respond to it) so I don't end up in drama scenarios unless I deliberately get myself into them. Quite simply, I'm just too damn nice to dislike.
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Dan_Holmes wrote:


I hate that I'm too nice of a person. It infuriates me because I watch guys who are total assholes score amazing chicks they don't deserve, and then watch those chicks get left in a crying mess when the guy finishes using them. And all the while I get ignored even though I look better than those assholes (tall, muscled, clear skin, etc etc), dress incredibly well, I'm richer than average, have better grades, go to the most prestigious school in my country, and am the NICEST, KINDEST, MOST LOYAL guy you will ever meet. Yet I get friendzoned every time because I'm nice. Go fucking figure.

Has it brought me anything good? Maybe. Doubt it.


I kind of know where you're coming from. I used to be a nice person but I'm not any more. Take a look at this article I like to share with people, and it has helped many change how they feel and interact with other people. You can still be a KIND person without being nice.

http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/marcia-sirota/too-nice_b_946956.html

Hopefully and maybe one day something nice you did will make a difference for someone. Or it works out for you in the end, and you become happy that you are kind.
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i hate how i get so paranoid yet when ever i dont listen to the paranoid feelings my paranoia is always correct
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I kind of know where you're coming from. I used to be a nice person but I'm not any more. Take a look at this article I like to share with people, and it has helped many change how they feel and interact with other people. You can still be a KIND person without being nice.

http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/marcia-sirota/too-nice_b_946956.html

Hopefully and maybe one day something nice you did will make a difference for someone. Or it works out for you in the end, and you become happy that you are kind.


Thanks alot. I've printed out that article and I'm going to try to keep it in mind. It kind of describes me, but I'm able to avoid getting used and I only treat those that I know deserve it with my especially nice side. The reason why I hate being nice/kind is not because I end up feeling resentful, I'm nice because of who I am - not because I want to be recognized for it. Instead, I hate being nice because I feel as though I'm ignored by girls and friendzoned in favor of asshole guys, and it especially aggravates me when those asshole guys aren't worth half what I am. Makes me feel like being nice isn't worth it. I feel as though I have to turn myself into an asshole so I can stop being friendzoned and start being actually appreciated by girls. Maybe being a male tsundere might work - asshole on the outside but nice on the inside. Who knows.

On a side note, it makes me feel like girls don't know what they want. They say they want the nice guy. And I think "OK, makes sense". And then guys in general say "Girls don't like the nice guy", and I think "OK, maybe its just the needy nice guys, or the nice guys that have no self-respect or confidence". But then when my experience comes in, of a nice guy who has self-respect and self-confidence and who is worth more than the asshole guys I see getting girls, but those asshole guys still get chosen over me... Well, that makes zero sense. So now I'm getting to the point where its like "Fuck it, you want an asshole, you've got it."

Anyways, THAT'S what I hate about being nice. It's not that I feel bad for not being recognized for it, it's that I am negatively impacted by being it versus being an asshole.

On a side note, girls, if you wonder why guys are assholes - maybe this is it. Because the nice guys got sick and tired of being ignored, said "fuck it", and turned into assholes. Maybe if girls appreciated the nice guys and shunned the assholes, then guys wouldn't be assholes.
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I hate how I have no motivation to do something important with my life BUT because of that I have found this site and met some cool people

and not to get too far off topic but the post above mine speaks the TRUTH!! I will say that sometimes it is about physical attraction rather than anything else lol.
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