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Forever Alone?
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Thanks to dissociative identity disorder i'm never alone.
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It takes a lot of effort and patience and time to meet people and keep them in your life. If you don't put in enough work to build relationships whether it's family, personal, romantic, friendship, etc. they'll eventually drift away.

Frankly, I think most people who say they're "forever alone" haven't put in the necessary work or sacrifice to bring people into their lives.


I agree completely that effort and sacrifice are necessary, and I've personally suffered from the drift. I sometimes think "What if I tried harder to stay friends?" I've been trying harder on the friendship front; I don't think I have any hope on the romance front, but maybe it is that attitude that is holding me back.
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Dissociative identity disorder or schizophrenia? Hallucinations and voices are only attributed to the latter.
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karmacide wrote:

Dissociative identity disorder or schizophrenia? Hallucinations and voices are only attributed to the latter.


Either one I think leads to alone-ism and possibly not caring...
Posted 8/31/12

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karmacide wrote:

Dissociative identity disorder or schizophrenia? Hallucinations and voices are only attributed to the latter.


Either one I think leads to alone-ism and possibly not caring...


I was just curious. He said that he is never alone and that is more reflective of the delusions of schizophrenia. Either one would suck probably, yeah.
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Um.
I dunno.
I don't care.
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I'm forever a stone.

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*wonders if Kogarasumaru meant to put an r on the end of that statement*
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forever snow cone
Posted 8/31/12
Hahaa.. a other forum i found 2 day that is interesting one..

(forever alone)? Uhm "yyeeesss" that is my life, no1 in front nether n right or left or behind me, no where, anywhere.. no1 cares.. hey! Is not that bad.......
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I turn down everyone to be alone. But sometimes, even if you don't feel like it, it's fun to hang out and do different stuff.
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Tim_The_Enchanter wrote:

forever snow cone


Yummy :3
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justinitsu wrote:

Buck up guys. There's someone out there for all of us. It's not a bad thing to be single. Don't forget that relationships aren't some perfect world. There are fights, things that will bother you, jealousy, paranoia, limitations and a whole mess of other things. Enjoy your freedom, don't sulk in it!

I've known people that once they finally find somebody, all they do is complain about how they can't hit on other girls/guys or that they don't like how they have to do another persons dishes and it goes on and on.


There's much truth in this, however, it's not 100% true.
I know people in their 40s who have never dated, and to be honest, likely never will.
I myself have been single for 4 years, and I'm finding it likely I'll be like them 20 years down the line.
I'm too shy to make the first move, I'm too shy to really flirt a bunch, I get nervous, when someone starts getting too close I get nervous and wonder to myself why they would be interested. Aside from my jobs, and my card tournys (Weiss Schwarz) I don't do TONS of socializing, and I prefer staying at home by myself watching anime over clubbing, partying, and that hooking up crap.
Besides, all the girls that get interested in me irl get interested off of me being a firefighter, as soon as they find out I'm into anime I get the "You watch cartoons....?" response, and that is that.

So in reality, it is entirely possible for me to be forever alone.
Does this bother me? A little bit, deep down I think I desire someone to share my emotions with and love fully.
But do I spend every day sulking about it? Absolutely not.
Perhaps someone may come my way.
Perhaps not.
Either way is a possibility.

There is no reason to sulk.
The is only reason to hope, and keep on livin.


If that's their response to you liking anime, then fuck them. Be proud of it, tell them you love anime and you don't give a fuck what they think. You're a firefighter, they have nothing on you. You'll find someone, just believe it.


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justinitsu wrote:

Buck up guys. There's someone out there for all of us. It's not a bad thing to be single. Don't forget that relationships aren't some perfect world. There are fights, things that will bother you, jealousy, paranoia, limitations and a whole mess of other things. Enjoy your freedom, don't sulk in it!

I've known people that once they finally find somebody, all they do is complain about how they can't hit on other girls/guys or that they don't like how they have to do another persons dishes and it goes on and on.


Heh, I used to think that there was someone out there for all of us, now I kinda halfheartedly believe that there is someone out there for everyone but me. I know that relationships aren't perfect, but I'd rather experience something that is imperfect rather than nothing at all. "Tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all." -Don't know who originally said that.

I don't really "hit" on people anyway, so I don't think it'd be something that I'd miss. Back when I was younger if I ever tried something like that people would see me as a creep or something and it would always have the opposite effect than what was intended. I learned quickly to not do it anymore.

I boil down my solitude to two major factors:

One: My life doesn't allow me the opportunities to meet and interact with members of the opposite sex on a regular basis and on equal social footing. (Example: I see and interact with many women at work, but trying to get a customer's phone number or trying to ask a customer out on a date is generally frowned upon.)

Two: I am what I call a "defective male."

When you look at any species on the planet that reproduces sexually, there are basic biological mechanisms in place that ensure female attracts male and male attracts female. This ensures that any given species propagates to the next generation. You'll find this in the smallest to the largest and the simplest to the most complex creatures. This even exists in humans. Human females attract human males and human males attract human females on a basic biological level, even putting societal factors aside. It's part of natural evolution that has kept life going on this planet for hundreds of millions of years.

All I know about my specific case is that whatever mechanism that's supposed to be inside me, to allow me to attract the interest of a member of the opposite sex, must be broken, hence the term "defective male." It's definitely not normal to get up to the age I'm at and not even have a single woman be even mildly interested or even show the slightest hint of passing interest. Maybe I'm missing a chromosome or something.





Defective male? You have confidence issues. You're only broken because you think you're broken. You are you and that's normal. There is no such thing as a defective person in this sense. There is nothing anyone can say to change this if you won't change it. If you say you're defective, then you must know what's wrong which means you can fix it. If you don't know, then you can't say you know you're defective.

As far as opportunities go, don't look at work then. Join a gym. Go to the park. Go to conventions. Find things to do. I belong to a rock climbing gym and it is overflowing with hot girls in spandex every time I go. Put yourself out there, be vulnerable and take risks. Nothing bad can happen to you. You might get rejected, but what's bad about that? They're the ones missing out you, it's their loss.

When you think negatively like this, then that's how you come across and nobody wants a negative person.
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Forever a scone, please.

Scones are delectable.
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justinitsu wrote:

When you think negatively like this, then that's how you come across and nobody wants a negative person.


Perhaps, but with me, I think negatively in my head about myself, but it generally doesn't come out IRL. I'm too concerned with the emotions of people around me, and me being depressed openly would depress others, which is something I wouldn't want to do. I slouch, which I guess is the only visible sign of my low self esteem and negative thoughts. Aside from that I try to portray a positive image.
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