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Posted 3/12/12
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Individually? That depends.
Collectively the whole sex as one group? Yes extremely.
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Im not at all its just ppl have told me that women like guys who are A-HOLES than guys who are nice. I dont really believe that but I have seen some guys who are jerks who show no respect half the time and they have been in more relationships with women than I have.


Ah, I see. You should have mentioned that in the first post. In my honest opinion, I think it's just because those are the women who get stared at half of the time =_= The materialistic ones who look the greatest (they work out a lot, know how to do their make up really well, etc.) want them because the materialistc stuff is what they're interested in. So, if you have a good heart, good intentions, care more about the little things, those girls will most likely not be interested in you. And it sucks because I see men chasing after those SAME GIRLS ALL OF THE TIME. Then they wonder why they so easily threw them away for someone they feel presented a better IMAGE versus a better heart. I think a lot of those girls are just as materialistic as the men you call "assholes" - the same thing you see in those women, they see in those men. That's why, when the tables are turned, you might hear a lot of women asking others, "Why does he like her? She's such a bitch." when it comes to the women a lot of men typically go for. Is it possible for them to change their ways? Yeah, if they feel like it's something they want and/or need to do. Until then, if then ever occurs, I wouldn't hold my breath. Also, I'd like to point out that those women are not out of anyone's league - they just aren't on your wavelength.

I suggest trying to meet someone with a similar personality to yours - maybey the put the same amount of care you do into their appearance and such. If they don't like you as much, that's one thing, but I'm guessing those women are probably less likely to drop you for someone based on imagery since you would never do that to them.



Thank you for this post! It is extremely well thought out and revealing, very good job =D
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There are a few girls that I know but from my experience in the past several years I see that alot of women have such high standards. I'm a nice guy with a gentleman personality always giving women as much respect as I can. It seems no matter what I do its never good enough. I've liked women who are smart and pretty and the same time but they're stuck up as heck. I've liked women who are pretty but arent as smart but they're still stuck up as heck.

So now I'm asking everyone why are women so complicated?


Maybe looking at the wrong ones? not evry woman is like that.. haha.. gosh talking about gather all in one box.. even females have diffrent personalitys.. if you want a "prinsess" stamp on the woman.. then feel free to suffer by their ideals.. just your grief..
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Okay, I relate to the OP almost 100%, the only difference is one year in age and it seems he has actually had a relationship with someone, if I am not mistaken.

I have gone my entire life only having one girl give me the time of day, and that was in first grade, she was my first, and only crush. Due to "life" happening, I have been raised solely by my Mother, at least since nine years old. So, because of that I seem to have a different perspective on the fairer sex than my peers. My Mother raised me to always in any circumstance be a gentleman, never belittle or judge someone based on appearance or social status (male or female). I'm not saying being raised this way was a bad thing or that I wish she hadn't, that isn't it at all. But, I have found that I have become the prototypical "nice guy." The guy that is thrown immediately into the friend-zone. It is rather disheartening that most of my female friends have told me that I would make such a good boyfriend, or that the girl that "gets" me is going to be so lucky. And I hate to even say this because it sounds abhorrently egotistical, but, I'm not the worst looking guy ever, I have actually been asked out by more men than I have women, which I have been told should be flattering. Though when you've never been asked out by a girl before it doesn't really help that ratio.

Now, I refuse to change being a gentleman, because I have seen firsthand that guys who are jerks get the girl. I've watched quite a few of my friends wreck themselves mentally and emotionally by going out with guys who are just scum. Many times I have been the shoulder they have cried on when something happened, and even with a few relationships I have had to bring to an end for them because they were scared to leave by themselves. None of those ended pretty. It has actually come to a point where I'm wondering if I'll ever be in a relationship with someone.

Sorry for such a long post, I'll end it here so I don't just start writing a book... though I have made pretty good headway it seems. (lol)
Posted 3/12/12

h202 wrote:

There are a few girls that I know but from my experience in the past several years I see that alot of women have such high standards. I'm a nice guy with a gentleman personality always giving women as much respect as I can. It seems no matter what I do its never good enough. I've liked women who are smart and pretty and the same time but they're stuck up as heck. I've liked women who are pretty but arent as smart but they're still stuck up as heck.

So now I'm asking everyone why are women so complicated?


Keep respecting women like you do because its probably more a case of them not respecting you, therefore they are not worth knowing. Simply something that has come in and out of your life to learn from.
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It could be that they just aren't interested in you. Ever think of that?


Being nice or being a gentleman doesn't make you attractive to a woman. So many men ( 'm using the term "men" loosely here) think that by being submissive and telling women that they're great, or by doing nice things for them, they'll magically become interesting.

Sorry, but it doesn't. That doesn't mean you can't be "nice", it just means it takes more than that.

I wouldn't worry about it too much yet. At your age you probably have more experience with girls rather than actual women.

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You know this thread gives me a different perspective about women. The funny story is that girls who had a crush on me or found me very attractive looking were women who were a few years younger than me. Women who are in my age group never told me these things its amazing you think I would catch some woman's eye but I guess whoever she is, she must be a shy person or is getting the wrong perspective about but still likes me for some reason.
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Zeronite wrote:

It could be that they just aren't interested in you. Ever think of that?


Being nice or being a gentleman doesn't make you attractive to a woman. So many men ( I'm using the term "men" loosely here) think that by being submissive and telling women that they're great, or by doing nice things for them, they'll magically become interesting.

Sorry, but it doesn't. That doesn't mean you can't be "nice", it just means it takes more than that.



I'm not a submissive type of man at all. I'm the type of guy that doesnt play games and my persona is serious at a point. I dont put up with crap at all cause you know its nothing but bull.......


Unlucky then. Not every girl you like is gonna like you back.
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h202 wrote:


Zeronite wrote:

It could be that they just aren't interested in you. Ever think of that?


Being nice or being a gentleman doesn't make you attractive to a woman. So many men ( I'm using the term "men" loosely here) think that by being submissive and telling women that they're great, or by doing nice things for them, they'll magically become interesting.

Sorry, but it doesn't. That doesn't mean you can't be "nice", it just means it takes more than that.



I'm not a submissive type of man at all. I'm the type of guy that doesnt play games and my persona is serious at a point. I dont put up with crap at all cause you know its nothing but bull.......


Unlucky then. Not every girl you like is gonna like you back.


How Am I unlucky? I mean I will do things for a lady but only at a certain point. I'm not gonna be some woman's toy boy thats all I'm just saying. If she wants my help I will lend it to her if she needs me then I'll make myself available.
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You're the one saying they're complicated for not dating you, not me.
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Yeah well maybe I took your message the wrong way or something. I was really trying to say how some types of women are just complicated but now I see that they arent complicated some women are just best not to be known if they dont respect or cherish who you are
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