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How you deal with shyness?
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Posted 3/20/12
Are you shy or sometimes shy person? Do you ever or have been shy before? How you deal with being shy? Do you know anyone who is shy? How do they deal with being shy?



I sometimes am shy but only when I try to talk to a new guy that I just met like for example there a cute asian guy he is Japaneses and he works at the mall he the guy that gives out the free food samples at the Japanese food place. Well anyway every time I see him I try to talk with him my shyness comes over so I dont say much only thing I end up saying to him is thanks for the food Also reason I get shy around him is I keep thinking he might have a gf there are a lot of girls at the mall and i bet he been ask out before so with my luck he has a gf



So how would you deal with shyness? If this topic been done already lock it up
Posted 3/20/12
You go out naked at least once.
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I go into another mind frame like an alternative personality.
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Just calm down and breathe, lol... Stay out of your head and don't over anazlyze yourself or worry about what he is thinking about you.
If there are people around you, try talking about them so you'll stop focusing so much on yourself looking like a fool. Try asking HIM questions so you can focus on what he has to say and try letting him take control of the conversation so that you won't have to worry about talking yourself.

The way to get over shyness is to bring up a subject you know is interesting and easy for you to talk about since you know a lot about it. Bring up sports, anime, TV shows, random facts, movies, or start with something simple like school. You have to get out of your comfort zone in order to not be shy, which is easier said than done but is true. Just don't freak out that its a guy, they are simple people who like a joke every now and then, plus its a good way to break the ice.
Posted 3/20/12
I've been shy all my 8355 days of living. It was much worse in my youth though. I try dealing with it by forcing myself to be a little more social and to expect the rejections so no feelings are hurt, but that was years ago. I embrace it now for an unspecific reason. :3
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Might be a dupe, whatever. Probably isn't. To deal with shyness, I Skullfuck my own pet dog. Really gives me dat self esteem, yo.


Larliet wrote:

I go into another mind frame like an alternative personality.


You don't have a personality disorder, stop it.
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Everyone gets shy once in awhile but if you have extreme shyness or shyness on meeting new people try imagining the person you are shy about like a friend. Imagining them as a friend helps you calm down, maybe but that's how I deal with it because my best friend(girl) along with my groupies. I get shy around her but I try to think of her as one of my groupy/friend even though I like her and it helps me calm down a bit although sometimes I stutter or get quiet. And I'm a enthusiastic guy and some of my friends have figured it out that I like her because I'm more quiet around her compared to anyone. Well yeah, just try put yourself in a mindset like that.
@ninjagirls try asking him if he has a gf, it won't hurt but it may hurt if he has one. Atleast try if you are comfortable.
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Dealing with shyness? Anonymity. I know that doesn't help the situation .... but the only true way to completely deal with it is that.
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That's what I do to deal with shyness.
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TheAnimeGamer wrote:

Everyone gets shy once in awhile but if you have extreme shyness or shyness on meeting new people try imagining the person you are shy about like a friend. Imagining them as a friend helps you calm down, maybe but that's how I deal with it because my best friend(girl) along with my groupies. I get shy around her but I try to think of her as one of my groupy/friend even though I like her and it helps me calm down a bit although sometimes I stutter or get quiet. And I'm a enthusiastic guy and some of my friends have figured it out that I like her because I'm more quiet around her compared to anyone. Well yeah, just try put yourself in a mindset like that.
@ninjagirls try asking him if he has a gf, it won't hurt but it may hurt if he has one. Atleast try if you are comfortable.




Wow there a lot of good answers on how to deal with shyness so far and thank will try my best and good luck with the girl you like
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Posted 3/20/12
get self confidence and self esteem it will help you loose the shyness go away. and you'll find more than a few dudes who are just as shy as you are. And believe me, it's easier to talk to people who are just as shy as you are
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I'm a naturally shy person. But I got over that pretty quickly, because in business you can't be shy. The main thing that gets a lot of shy people I think is internal dialogue. I used to freak myself out a lot by overthinking situations too much. The best way I've found to remedy that is to shut off all of those thoughts as quickly as possible and just dive into the situation before you have a chance to talk yourself out of it. It's going to be pretty awkward at first, but if you keep practicing it gets better. After a while, you'll become more comfortable with situations like those and handle them a lot better. As with many improvements, it just takes patience, practice, and consistency.
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Hm, not sure ... I suppose I just find the nearest 'sanctuary' zone, which is usually a person I know to hang out with to regain my cool, until I'm good to go, and go at the thing that made me shy in the first place again.
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Posted 3/20/12
Not very well. Although I totally snapped at one point today but that wasn;t good
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