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Anybody here been through a divorce?
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I was curious if anyone here has been through a divorce. I'm not talking about living in a family where the parents are divorced, but you are divorced yourself. I went through a divorce 3 years ago after being married for 5 years. Nothing crazy, we just realized we no longer loved each other and did each other a favor and split. We married fairly young and pretty soon after dating, but unfortunately didn't realize that we should not have done it till we were already married.

Since my divorce I've only gone out with one person, and that was only for a few dates before realizing it didn't work.

If the divorce taught me anything, is to be more aware of a potential relationship's chance of succeeding.

What about any of you?
Posted 3/22/12
Looks blinking. I have not
Posted 3/22/12
I married a chicken pie and we divorced as soon as I ate it.

I don't think we married prematurely. It was perfectly baked after all.
Posted 3/22/12
I hope when I get married we never get divorced
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underlock wrote:

I married a chicken pie and we divorced as soon as I ate it.

I don't think we married prematurely. It was perfectly baked after all.


I liked ice cream so much I married it. But then the bastard melted all over me. Since then, I have been hungrily chasing men to fill his place, but I don't think I'll ever find another guy like him.
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Not me and I hope i won't
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I haven't experienced divorce, i'm only 20 myself - though it is something that's been on my mind. Mainly because I see it happening more and more, what's the divorce rate now? It's just about to overtake the "married for more than a decade" group I think. To be honest, I think a lot of people my age look at marriage negatively altogether, and all that moral pressure from society to stay together hasn't been relevant for some years now.

Just co-habitate, thats my choice for right now anyway.
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Posted 3/22/12
Well, most of the people here are grown adults who pay for premium and little 13 year old girls... So I would have to say yes? Somebody here has been through a divorce?
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My claim to fame along this line goes something like this: until I met my current wife Marty a few years ago thanks to eHarmony.com I had the dubious distinction of knowing what divorce was like as a single person. I met someone who was very intelligent, very knowledgeable about domesticity once upon a time, somewhat charming, and hawt (oh, so hot). She possessed qualities I had been searching for in a soul mate most of my life. And she was available.

I should have asked myself more intently why anyone this fantastic at age 50 was not "taken", was "available". While we dated we sized up each other's potential as a partner. I chose to ignore certain warning signs from the beginning about our mutual incompatibility because I felt somewhere between us there had to be common ground for building a wonderful relationship. If anything, the potential was there, we just had to find it together and harness it. Long story shortened, it didn't work out, ever. Had we opted to remain in separate quarters the parting would not have been so troublesome. But no, I had compounded that error by having this lady move in.

One of the residual effects marrying someone who suffers from Manic-Depression is living in virtual uncertainty for the remainder of your natural life. If abuse and humiliation are your forte then this type personality is who you should seek. I chose to call off our wedding 5 days before the event was to take place. Whenever old insecurities subsided with Janice over time new ones would bubble up to the surface overnight to take their place. Many normal relationships suffer from 1 or 2 over-riding issues (money, fidelity, etc) but each partner, given time, love, and respect can come to terms with their common demons and arrive at a decent compromise for the benefit of the partnership. But not when 1 party is a raging alcoholic who opts to disappear for days on end over dashed expectations because my response or action did not mimic a pre-determined script once seen on an episode of Sex and the City. There was no trust present in this relationship and we both knew it.

The parting would take many paragraphs to detail and I don't wish to bore you with that though parts of it would make for good TV drama. The relief after she was out of my life was great. A tremendous weight had been removed from both my psyche and shoulders. The fiscal cost to me for the six months we were together amounted to $15000 USD, much of it for Zoloft, doctor visits, kited checks, marriage counselor visits, therapist consultations. The emotional toll was much greater. I have communicated with her twice since that parting back in 2003 only because she called first. Unlike the other 5 suitors before me I wanted nothing to do with all her hotness. I suppose it was because the head I was using for decision-making this time was between my ears instead of elsewhere. And if it's of any interest Janice quickly lost that hourglass figure I had been attracted to while we were "existing" together. She gained 95 lbs....yes, not a typo....95 lbs.

Before the climactic departure we did talk, on friendly terms, about our respective futures once apart. I knew I would eventually find someone but just didn't know when (I did 2 years later, thanks to the internet). She decided after 10 years of false hopes and starts she was quitting men. Female companionship held great promise and that direction would be the new course for her life. Though I wished her well on that endeavor I felt deeply that it wouldn't matter which gender she aligned herself with because her pattern sabotaging relationships seemed to stem from her own self-loathing. I also felt with her psychological liabilities there just might be a guy for her somewhere but not this lifetime nor on this planet.

I don't hate Janice but do hope she did take action finding relief beneficial to her from this debilitating affliction through therapy instead of relying on the bottle.
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Bravo on the essay, yo. I know it wasn't a school assignment (:P) but I did like what I read. : )
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I hope you know that half of crunchyroll aren't even the age of consent. Unless some mormon shit is happening
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@bemused_bohemian Thanks for sharing that story with us. I hope you have a wonderful life with your wife Marty
Posted 3/23/12
Yeah. I split the turkey legs.
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Posted 3/23/12
Nope, and I probably never will.
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Posted 3/23/12
Nope. And hope it never happens. Love is a stange thing...
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