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I think my EX is planning to kill me.
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Posted 3/22/12
Run fast and hide! Well, get some help from cops if it gets too serious.

Posted 3/22/12 , edited 3/22/12
How do you know she's not trying to kill herself?

Yet if what you're saying is true, I advise that you do not meet with her. That will probably only make the situation worst. If she's as unstable as you claim, than talking to her will probably make no difference. And just because you're around a crowd of people, doesn't mean a situation can't get ugly. I've seen people shot in broad day light, it can happen.

Also, look out for signs of her stalking you and make sure to write down everything that happens. If you have enough evidence, you can use it to convict her.

This kind of reminds me of a situation a friend of mine is going through, only not to this extent.
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Do you know her parents? Contact them, tell them she is suicidal and said she wanted to kill herself. Show them the emails about the gun if you have to and get them to call the police on her. She needs to be mentally evaluated anyway and my guess is that a psychiatrist will see that she is a psycho and admit her >.>
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Don't worry you're in good hands now
Live life like it's your last and everything will be fine, jukebox
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For some actual relevant advice... Which is sad for you... But you actually cannot get a restraining order until something has happened. Soooooo, as much as that sucks to hear.. You can't legally get her to stay away from you, although, once a person goes too far over board, "legalities" really don't mean much to them.

Best of luck to you my friend...
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well if u watched school days................yea
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well id say tell a few select ppl u trust about the situation,an tell them to b alert an if something happens to u then ppl will know,or instead of callin the police,if u have any friends wit relatives or friends its good to ask questions witout it being all on the legal privacy thing,kuz the law will fuck u over quick....or jus b on ur guard an have a blade wit u or something,ik a gun is more of an advantage but if something do go dwn at least u can have the evidence on ur side,wit her having a gun an u having a knife,but it could b the opposite an she jus might commit suicide....think this over an over b4 u act.... but b prepared to kill that chick,ik it sound cold but ur safety is more important then hers since shes the crazy one
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i pissed myself on that one cecil.

Goto the cops stop being scared. break through the mental barricade.
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Man...I feels bad for you like seriously , you really got your self into some crazy girl (If she turn out to be like the girl from the 4Th comment -_-) So you should bring your friend with you like keep him or her very near by, but don't let her know though in case she might get even more worse and your life will be doom...and gosh! This is life safety I don't think you should be afraid of being sue at this rate because of the privacy invasion you have to choose it, will it be your life or being sued (and of course you can fight back!) I will pick number two!. Now about the E-mail thingy, you are the one who also have the right to use it since you are the one who created that account in the first place, oh! maybe you could even say that IS your E-mail, I bet you knows every bits of the information in there lol Cause your Ex is sounds like my mother who doesn't know much or doesn't care about IT stuffs. This is the great consequence of your lifetime so next step you won't falling into the wrong person again! So yeah I wishes you are safe man!
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You do need to talk to the police as soon as possible, but the first thing you should do is go see a lawyer. Find a lawyer practicing Criminal Law in the area in the phone book or online and schedule a consultation with him. Most initial consultations with lawyers are free, actually, and I think that's all you really need. Why is seeing a lawyer important? Because he can tell you how to frame your story to the police so that you don't get in trouble. For instance, the lawyer might say something like, "no big deal, just tell them she gave the password to you and you're all set" or something like that. NOTE that's not good advice, and I'm no lawyer, and the laws of each state differ for privacy, but it works as an example. So: find time to just talk to a lawyer and tell him (or her) exactly what you said on here. If you have any relatives in law enforcement or law you wanna talk to them too. Even post this story on a few legal blogs. The point is to cover your ass, and you need to, because the police are not there to help you, and you will get f--ed over if given the opportunity.

If things become very urgent you'll have to go right to the police and take your chances. Do NOT contact her, do NOT meet her. If she's crazy enough to buy a handgun on craigslist to murder you with, she is crazy enough to put a bullet between your eyes in public with people watching. Do not underestimate her. If you need to buy time plan a time to meet with her and then keep pushing it back by a couple days. Talk to mutual friends or acquaintances to see what her mental state is (what number the crazy meter has been getting to recently) and if she has been making any plans figured out where you live.



TL;DR: Treat this shit seriously, cover your ass, see a lawyer for a free consultation to avoid getting in trouble for getting into her email, and then go to the police. And stay away from her.







ChaseTheCase wrote:

This has been troubling me lately, but I just went through a pretty disturbing break up not too long ago, im sure most of you notice I mention my EX in my posts a lot. Well, the main reason is because she was pretty unstable in the head. After she stole my Social security card in a vain attempt to keep me around under the threat of "ruining my life", I finally gave up and just walked away. it just wasn't working. I live with no regrets, I don't care for "What ifs" "What can be" and "What could have been". She doesn't understand this, and wont move on. I have.

Regarding the whole Social card incident, I have life lock, and various other protection systems so im not really worried if she tries to ruin my credit, its virtually impossible without valid information that only I know.

Anyways, I logged into her email the other day to delete some messages I had sent her that I hope she forgot about regarding some very sensitive information. The reason I even have access to her email is because I was the one who set her password, she is one of those people who use stupid easy passwords such as "password", "123456" or her name..etc, so I took the liberty of helping her with a pretty secure password. Thats when I noticed a couple emails to and from Craigslist regarding her haggling and purchasing a 9 MM Hi- Point pistol, with a clip worth of ammunition from some dude for 130$ Shes never been into guns. And the emails started right after the day we broke up.

Lately shes been pretty eager to find out where I live now since I moved, and has even gotten a hold of my new cellphone number. Im kinda worried actually, the whole scenario has me tripping balls really. I got a pretty disturbing text from her saying "I have nothing to lose now."

I honestly have no idea what to do, if I goto the cops I can actually get sued for privacy invasion, I think, because a guy who caught his wife cheating ended up going to jail because he got into her email to get the proof for his divorce case..

Anyways Im thinking of trying to meet her in a public place tomorrow, or later on (downtown), being the weekend and theres tons of people around I doubt she'd try to pop me off then, she can't be that crazy (Atleast I hope not). Im going to try and talk some sense into her. Think that was a good idea? I don't want to tell any of the people I know because thats just doing too much, and I have no time for rumors or people spreading things.

Be careful of who you get yourselves involved with.



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Posted 3/22/12 , edited 3/22/12
Guess my best bet will be to visit the police dept tomorrow as everyone is mentioning. No idea what the police can really do in terms of protection. What about afterwards? Am I really going to have to move out of state because of this?
I really wish things didn't have to turn out like this, what I don't get is, why the fuck DO I have to die? why cant she just move the fuck on. This is the shit you see in the movies, but knowing someone who fakes a pregnancy and steals someone private information as a contingency plan to keep them around probably knows no limits anyways. If everything doesn't turn to the worst case scenario, I hope this can just end as one of those "Crazy girl I used to know" stories.

that being said, I no longer want to actually try to meet her, paranoia or not, I don't want to risk having my brains splattered all on some random sidewalk. I still have things I need to accomplish in life.
Theres no winning in this it seems, strange. I am at risk of privacy invasion, by complete accident and greater risk of my life being taken away. Law is funny at times. I have the urge to text or call her though rather, and ask about the gun. I have a feeling its just going to turn into a argument - it always does.

with that im off to bed, long day tomorrow

Thanks everyone. Much appreciated.
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Will...peoples' mind are not the same lol so maybe she's too hopeless without you then it dived her to insane and can't move on!! You bet was right go ahead and do what you thinks it's right and good luck dude! Continue with my project dang tomorrow it's due whythehell am I here ?
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RumicoFiasceyZ wrote:

Will...peoples' mind are not the same lol so maybe she's too hopeless without you then it dived her to insane and can't move on!! You bet was right go ahead and do what you thinks it's right and good luck dude! Continue with my project dang tomorrow it's due whythehell am I here ?


Procrastination. Ive been trying to sleep for the past 2 hours, can't find it though.
Posted 3/23/12
Crikey aye! You need to take some self defense sessions mate, or the porky mite lose ya!
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Posted 3/23/12
I think thats she's going to try to kill herself. im pretty mentally stable and thats what i wanted to do so maybe she'll kill you and then commit suicide
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