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how to convience parents ... general advice for me please :3
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Posted 4/15/12 , edited 4/16/12
Edit: i did not ask my parents yet


I will be 21 this year, i will be a senior in college and i would like to visit my boyfriend overseas in Egypt. He is planning to stay over there till the summer (he is there now) and he invited me to visit him and his family. We have been together for 3 years he is 26yrs old. I'm not going to get into detail but my parents don't really fancy him much.(for reasons that aren't valid ) They are overly protective. Its not a money issue i can afford it, but i know this will be hard because i will travel by myself for the first time especially since its overseas. Im Greek/Iranian . My boyfriend wants me to stay as a guest in his home with his parents of course and after that we will go places and take a tour around. I would like to convince my father but i dont know how. I really do want to go and i know im responsible if it means anything i have never smoked once, or drank with friends,(boyfriend is the same we dont take interest in it) Oh and i never been to a club with friends Im not interested in those things im always back home at 12am latest was 1am. But im still daddy's little girl.

Egypt is an Islamic country and if i want to get a hotel room it just has to be me only females and it cant be an Egyptian man unless we are married and show proof ...so this can put at ease with my father if he thinks things will happen. (Which is ridiculous because ive been with him for so long if we wanted to do something we can do it anytime we are together) My mom will defiantly say No right away my father is more lenient . He tells me all the time that i should go and enjoy my age and life , and this is something i really want to do... I want to make great memories and have a fun summer for once in my life. how can go about it? Also as a family we might go to Iran (for first time) since my father is from there if we do i want to say if i can stop by for a week or so in Egypt. I don't want my dad to say there is to much trouble in Egypt with the government right now because its the same for Iran.
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I say, learn how to fly.
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i rather learn how to teleport more better i wish lol
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You're 21, I don't think there is any need for permission from the parents.. But honestly, just guilt trip your dad. Sadly thats all men's weak spot when it comes to women... the guilt trip.
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ChaseTheCase wrote:

You're 21, I don't think there is any need for permission from the parents.. But honestly, just guilt trip your dad. Sadly thats all men's weak spot when it comes to women... the guilt trip.


i know i shouldn't ill be 21 soon but they are overly protective since im a girl.. you men have it different from us lol i will try thxx
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ChaseTheCase wrote:

You're 21, I don't think there is any need for permission from the parents.. But honestly, just guilt trip your dad. Sadly thats all men's weak spot when it comes to women... the guilt trip.


i know i shouldn't ill be 21 soon but they are overly protective since im a girl.. you men have it different from us lol i will try thxx


No problem. Enjoy your stay in egypt.
Im still suffering from my ex's guilt trips.
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ChaseTheCase wrote:


yoshi3782 wrote:


ChaseTheCase wrote:

You're 21, I don't think there is any need for permission from the parents.. But honestly, just guilt trip your dad. Sadly thats all men's weak spot when it comes to women... the guilt trip.


i know i shouldn't ill be 21 soon but they are overly protective since im a girl.. you men have it different from us lol i will try thxx


No problem. Enjoy your stay in egypt.
Im still suffering from my ex's guilt trips.


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yoshi3782 wrote:


ChaseTheCase wrote:


yoshi3782 wrote:


ChaseTheCase wrote:

You're 21, I don't think there is any need for permission from the parents.. But honestly, just guilt trip your dad. Sadly thats all men's weak spot when it comes to women... the guilt trip.


i know i shouldn't ill be 21 soon but they are overly protective since im a girl.. you men have it different from us lol i will try thxx


No problem. Enjoy your stay in egypt.
Im still suffering from my ex's guilt trips.


:(


But seriously, you have never smoked or drank? and you're a law abiding citizen? + you will follow your loved one to the end of the world?

YOU GOTA SISTER WITH THOSE QUALITIES?
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I can defiantly relate to your troubles most of my family lives in Athens and i live over here in the states and not able to travel over their is quite troublesome given the rioting and general pessimism the country is feeling ( for which i don't blame anyone over their). Correct me if i am wrong but i am guessing your family is Islamic and if so i would wait till your 21 then take your trip over their but don't do anything to upset your family. But you have to make them understand that you are a independent person and can make responsible decisions as you said you don't drink or smoke. I hope that helped. probably not....
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You may have to bargain a little, even though they are being a bit too controlling for your age.
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lol ur 21? and eygpt? wtf is goin on there dude
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Posted 4/15/12

ChaseTheCase wrote:


yoshi3782 wrote:


ChaseTheCase wrote:


yoshi3782 wrote:


ChaseTheCase wrote:

You're 21, I don't think there is any need for permission from the parents.. But honestly, just guilt trip your dad. Sadly thats all men's weak spot when it comes to women... the guilt trip.


i know i shouldn't ill be 21 soon but they are overly protective since im a girl.. you men have it different from us lol i will try thxx


No problem. Enjoy your stay in egypt.
Im still suffering from my ex's guilt trips.


:(


But seriously, you have never smoked or drank? and you're a law abiding citizen? + you will follow your loved one to the end of the world?

YOU GOTA SISTER WITH THOSE QUALITIES?


lol no i have never smoked not interested in it and i have drank but only on holidays and its not even a full glass like half or less haha nah i got a brother lmaooooo you can say anime has kept me as a very nice girl lol
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It's your life, your parents love you ( I assume anyway), do whatever you want, parents will just get over it.
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I can defiantly relate to your troubles most of my family lives in Athens and i live over here in the states and not able to travel over their is quite troublesome given the rioting and general pessimism the country is feeling ( for which i don't blame anyone over their). Correct me if i am wrong but i am guessing your family is Islamic and if so i would wait till your 21 then take your trip over their but don't do anything to upset your family. But you have to make them understand that you are a independent person and can make responsible decisions as you said you don't drink or smoke. I hope that helped. probably not....


Your greek too? im actually half greek :)! No im not Muslim im Greek orthodox so happy easter! lol ... Thats why my mother is against me going if i would ask her but my father side is muslim and hes more lenient i have convince him first... 21 or 20 doesnt make a difference to my family its just a few months 18 is legal and i dont want to put a rift in my relationship i dont want my boyfriend to think im a baby since my parents always keep me at bay
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I'm a parent myself so I can kinda understand a little of how your parents may feel. If my little boy ("they'll always be your little ones") ever came up to me and said, "Hey mom. I'm going to Egypt and Iran on vacation!" I would hear, "Hey mom. I'm going to a war-torn country to have a little fun!" Omg I would die! (It's not that bad right?! Yeah, I don't watch the news.) But you say he and his parents/family are over there. When it comes to getting a parent to relax a little, parent to parent communication is big. Maybe get his parents to talk to yours about what can be expected during your trip--where you'll be staying, safety, etc. It will show that you respect your parents opinions and that you respect his parents, as well. It's just one idea. I honestly think it would be a great experience if it's planned out carefully--with all the laws/customs you'll need to know, insurances (health & travel) in place, etc. If you approach them having "done your homework" for such a big trip it will also show initiative and responsibilty. Hope this helps even a little. Best of luck!
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