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What do you think of a forced marriage?
Posted 4/22/12
no, never ever
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Posted 4/22/12
i don't like the idea of arranged marriage... like both sides are unhappy, and in most cases, the female in the marriage is just being auctioned off like an object.

but i know if my parents set up and arranged marriage exactly who i'd be marrying.
>/////////////< and i like him.
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Posted 4/22/12
>However a lot of parents want whats "best" for their children's future be it telling them to go to college for a certain job or marrying someone from a prominent family and any acts agains those wishes are viewed as a betrayal.

Well, not entirely... 'romantic' marriage as a predominant social/economic bonding is relatively recent, as compared to 'arranged' marriages. The point of an arranged marriage is to improve the financial/political/social standing of the families involved, not the individuals being married. Many families make the initial contract at a young age, and often do allow the couple to 'opt out' if it's clear that the two just aren't suitable.

Let's remember as well that 'romantic' marriage is basically selfish, as opposed to 'arranged' marriage which is done for the good of the family. That doesn't make one version 'better' than the other, but it does explain why the elders get upset when the bride or groom takes a look and says "Not a chance!".

It would be an interesting research project to see how 'romantic' marriages compare to 'arranged' marriages in terms of longevity. Given that over half of US marriages end in divorce in less than 5 years, I'd be curious to see if arranged marriages actually last longer.
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Posted 4/22/12
I am not against arranged marriages if both sides agree and no one is forced.
Posted 4/22/12
weird topic is weird. every civilization has its own traditions. be thankful you wasn't born there. nuff said.
Posted 4/22/12 , edited 4/22/12

FullMoon91 wrote:


Okay.. So this random thing just pop out in my mind....
What do you think of it? Will you against it?
If yes, what will you do to persuade your parents??. What will you do to prevent it???


There are some religious beliefs that people still believe and perform arranged marriage for many reasons I don't know all. One of the things I have learned about it is that parents who perform arranged marriage believe it is in their children's best interest to marry a spouse that is able to cover the financial part of the relationship because money is seen as a higher importance than the relationship of love built by both partners. I have read and heard mix reviews of how successful or failed the arranged marriage turned out to be.


MeanderCat wrote:

>However a lot of parents want whats "best" for their children's future be it telling them to go to college for a certain job or marrying someone from a prominent family and any acts agains those wishes are viewed as a betrayal.

Well, not entirely... 'romantic' marriage as a predominant social/economic bonding is relatively recent, as compared to 'arranged' marriages. The point of an arranged marriage is to improve the financial/political/social standing of the families involved, not the individuals being married. Many families make the initial contract at a young age, and often do allow the couple to 'opt out' if it's clear that the two just aren't suitable.

Let's remember as well that 'romantic' marriage is basically selfish, as opposed to 'arranged' marriage which is done for the good of the family. That doesn't make one version 'better' than the other, but it does explain why the elders get upset when the bride or groom takes a look and says "Not a chance!".

It would be an interesting research project to see how 'romantic' marriages compare to 'arranged' marriages in terms of longevity. Given that over half of US marriages end in divorce in less than 5 years, I'd be curious to see if arranged marriages actually last longer.


^ What he said!
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Posted 4/22/12
Saves you the trouble of searching for someone to marry
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