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Rejection
Posted 4/26/12
Is it better to be rejected then to keep your feelings on the inside?
My friend likes this guy and they chat sometimes but he's not into her at all.
He can be cruel and I'm afraid he will break her heart into pieces if she ever confesses >.>

I mean maybe there is no point to it, but for her sake I wanna be able to give good advice.

Yeaaaaah.


A friend. *cough*


& don't let this Ipooch distract you :]
Posted 4/26/12 , edited 4/26/12
Tell her straight up, ''the man ain't like you, dammit!".
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Posted 4/26/12 , edited 4/26/12
Depends on the person. If it's eating you alive just take the rejection and move on. If you want to bottle up your emotions it's your choice and your funeral with pretty flowers. Oh look roses!
Posted 4/26/12
It's up to each and every person to decide for themselves whether or not they want to pursue a relationship and risk being rejected. I know people that have chosen both paths but are equally happy. In the case of your friend... Even though you think your friend might be hurt, it really isn't up to you to make the decision for her. All you can do is try to be there for her as a friend regardless of the outcome. The outcome of her actions might not even be apparent to ; maybe he isn't interested in her now but might be later, or she could meet someone else through him, etc, Trying to intervene in someone else's choices is like telling them they aren't intelligent or responsible enough to make them for themselves, and that can be a lot more hurtful and cause longer lasting damage than being rejected by a crush. Tread wisely.
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Posted 4/26/12
She needs to know the truth. Although the truth may hurt it's worse when the guy plays along with no real feelings, she will be hurt more in the end when he throws her away like a toy.
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Posted 4/27/12
Best advice for you is don't get involved.
Posted 4/27/12
I agree with SecondLife. Being honest will be better.
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Posted 4/27/12
Killbethy pretty much nailed it..

If it was(is?) you then how would you react to someone involving themselves into your life like that?
And also what "proof" do you have that the guy doesn't actually like her? Because there's always the chance that he does, but for some reason choses to take the kindergarden approach and act like a douche..

If you decide to tell her, then at least make damned sure that you're right.. Otherwise you risk doing far more harm than good..
Posted 4/27/12
what was the point of the picture?
Posted 4/27/12
Be cruel as in tell her he doesn't like her coldly instead of being a pussy and leaving it half answered?

Or cruel as in punching her in the face for it?
Posted 4/27/12
It may be difficult to confess, but if you don't you'll always wonder about it and ask yourself "what if?" No matter what happens after you tell him; you'll feel relieved getting it off your chest.
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-Distracted by the iPooch-
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Posted 4/27/12 , edited 4/27/12
Make one of his friends ask him out, what he thinks about her ? Someone he tells his true feelings to/is open with.

If she can handle bad news, well then go for it. Good to get it out, rather then going around wondering and regretting not telling. If she might break apart, then leave it.

And ever heard about the "bad guy" character ? he might act tough on the outside, but might really care inside.


The right place to start, is to have a really good friend of him to ask him out about his feelings for her. Someone you can trust it to, and I wouldn't have a girl to ask him out. Has to be a guy.
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Posted 4/27/12
Some of this advice is straight up junior high school.

Maybe you should try the note:

DO YOU LIKE HER? CIRCLE ONE: YES NO
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Posted 4/27/12 , edited 4/27/12
Being rejected makes you feel like your heart is being literally torn into two, you are falling into a deep dark abyss that's not ending and keeps going on and on and on and you wish someone would mash your brains in with an egg beater. You go numb for a few hours and lapse into denial. "WTF I HAD NO FEELINGS FOR YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE HAHA. HAHAHAHAHAHA". And the next day you wake up feeling like you've been run over by a truck, it's gut wrenching pain in your chest, it would feel so much better to RIP out the damn thing than have it twist and pull and stab at your chest but life isn't so kind as to let you drop dead on the spot... oh noooo, so you live on, with this gaping hole in you and you bleed and you bleed and you bleed until there's nothing left.

MAN, THERE'S NOTHING LIKE REJECTION, TELL HER TO GO FOR IT.
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