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How can you tell if someone is single?
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Posted 5/20/12 , edited 6/12/12
How can you tell if someone is single vs being take? Lets say you like to ask someone out but you don't know if he/she is single or not. What are some best ways to tell if a person is single?


I am asking this well b/c I like this guy who works at the mall every time I go there I see him. He works at the food cort but the thing is b/c it's so busy at the mall it really is hard to talk with him if am lucky I get a hey what's up how are you? The only fear I have is that he might have a gf and I don't want to go up to him and ask him out if he taken that would sux

So how do you know if somone is single? Did you ever see a cute guy/girl that you wanted to ask out but had no clue if he/she was taken? How did you handle it?



If this has been done before plz lock up
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Ok... fair enough... The only thing you have to do is spark a conversation with him/her about something you both have in common... like a good one i like to use is music because that's something that i know a lot about. But you could pick anything. Then maybe talk about hanging out (but not right away or you will look like a stalker) and get their number. And BOOM there you go. From there you can ask right out if they are single or not.
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Best way for there to not be any misunderstandings is to not assume. Sure there are rules of thumb but what it sounds like is that you want to be sure.

If it's too busy during a particular time, try to catch him during an off-peak hour and just start a friendly conversation with him. Share things about your life and he'll likely tell you about his life in return. If you do this for a while and establish a rapport you can ask to hang out, etc.

You can look at his ring finger to see whether he's married or not, but food workers do have a tendency to take off their rings while they're handling food. It goes back to just taking the time to get to know him, and having some bravery and confidence in yourself.

Good luck to you.
Posted 5/20/12

Winterfells wrote:

Best way for there to not be any misunderstandings is to not assume. Sure there are rules of thumb but what it sounds like is that you want to be sure.

If it's too busy during a particular time, try to catch him during an off-peak hour and just start a friendly conversation with him. Share things about your life and he'll likely tell you about his life in return. If you do this for a while and establish a rapport you can ask to hang out, etc.

You can look at his ring finger to see whether he's married or not, but food workers do have a tendency to take off their rings while they're handling food. It goes back to just taking the time to get to know him, and having some bravery and confidence in yourself.

Good luck to you. :)


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it doesnt matter if he's single or not! just flirt with him. by the time you find out whether he's single or not, you'll already know if he likes you! then its just a matter of getting rid of the other girl
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gaara wrote:

How can you tell if someone is single vs being take? Lets say you like to ask someone out but you don't know if he/she is single or not. What are some best ways to tell if a person is single?


I am asking this well b/c I like this guy who works at the mall every time I go there I see him. He works at the food cort but the thing is b/c it's so busy at the mall it really is hard to talk with him if am lucky I get a hey what's up how are you? The only fear I have is that he might have a gf and I don't want to go up to him and ask him out if he taken that would sux

So how do you know if somone is single? Did you ever see a cute guy/girl that you wanted to ask out but had no clue if he/she was taken? How did you handle it?



If this has been done before plz lock up


be blunt and just ask whether he/she is dating anyone?
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Posted 5/20/12
just ask
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People act differently, so what "single behavior" is for some people, it may not be for others. There's no sure way to tell without asking.


theagemaway wrote:

it doesnt matter if he's single or not! just flirt with him. by the time you find out whether he's single or not, you'll already know if he likes you! then its just a matter of getting rid of the other girl ;)
This is a terrible idea.

You never, ever, EVER want to enter a relationship as "the other woman"; it's awful in plenty of ways, but first and foremost: "if he'll do it to her, he'll do it to you."

As the above poster said, just ask him. You'll never get anywhere if you don't take a chance! Heck, he might even ask if you're single!
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Here's what I came up with.
Ask him for his facebook account name thingy and find out if he's single or not that way. Not to mention, you can find out more about him via his facebook. That's the best I got. And good luck!
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ok, completely ignore Tununias advice. That will make him suspicious that you're a stalker. Also, it's not a guaranteed solution. Some people have Facebook but don't update it that often, so his page could say he's in a relationship but he broke up with the girl months ago. And vice versa.

Just ask him if he has a girlfriend. I mean, work it into conversation, don't just walk up and ask out of the blue, but just be blunt. And why do I say this? Because men are not normally as good at subterfuge as women.

I've heard my women friends complain time and time again that guys they try to attract never seem to pick up the signals they are sending (well, not never, but rarely). And it's not always because the guy isn't interested, sometimes the guy just doesn't realize the girl is genuinely interested, or are not sure. Asking out a girl is very difficult for some guys, because rejection is something that weighs so heavily on some guys that they'd rather not even take the chance of succeeding , for fear of the pain of rejection.
Posted 5/21/12
If they are horny as hell, you got the deal.
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D01BCDN3 wrote:

If they are horny as hell, you got the deal.


By definition, if there horny as hell... There only interested in one thing only (sex) and usually don't actually care about the person. Basically in other words, the person ends up being hurt.
Posted 5/21/12

meman887 wrote:


D01BCDN3 wrote:

If they are horny as hell, you got the deal.


By definition, if there horny as hell... There only interested in one thing only (sex) and usually don't actually care about the person. Basically in other words, the person ends up being hurt.


Your experiences are by far not bad.
Posted 5/21/12
Awww how cute ^.^ well some guys if they have a girlfriend they might have hickeys or kiss marks on there neck or if u happen to see him always on his cell reading or talking to someone while laughing . but like everyone in this post said just whenever u get a chance talk to him make the conversation long then see where it goes from there u might end up being friends or who knows bf and gf soon. so good luck to u and hope for u to tell us how it went for u n.n
Posted 5/21/12
They aren't exhausted when they go to places and don't smile every three seconds because they have a new text. :|
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