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would you ever date someone that has a disabilty?
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Posted 6/10/12 , edited 6/10/12

Morbidhanson wrote:

I have dated someone with a physical disability. It makes me feel bad for them and want to take care of them more.


Feeling bad for them could make it all the more worse because they may feel like the only reason you're there is cause of their condition. Hopefully that wasn't the case and even if it was everyone handles things differently. Lots of people have disabilities some noticeable some not, including me heh. If I offended you in any way I didn't mean to, by the way.
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Shrapnel893 wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:

I have dated someone with a physical disability. It makes me feel bad for them and want to take care of them more.


Feeling bad for them could make it all the more worse because they may feel like the only reason you're there is cause of their condition. Hopefully that wasn't the case and even if it was everyone handles things differently. Lots of people have disabilities some noticeable some not, including me heh. If I offended you in any way I didn't mean to, by the way.



Nah, neither of us thought that way. No offense taken lol
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Posted 6/10/12

Morbidhanson wrote:


Shrapnel893 wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:

I have dated someone with a physical disability. It makes me feel bad for them and want to take care of them more.


Feeling bad for them could make it all the more worse because they may feel like the only reason you're there is cause of their condition. Hopefully that wasn't the case and even if it was everyone handles things differently. Lots of people have disabilities some noticeable some not, including me heh. If I offended you in any way I didn't mean to, by the way.



Nah, neither of us thought that way. No offense taken lol


Yeah, heh. Well that's good to hear
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I really don't know if I could, but you never know. Feelings are strong and mysterious. This topic reminds me of a movie called Love and Other Drugs where the main guy falls in love with someone who has parkinsons disease.. Its unfortunate that he did, but the passion and emotion in the movie made me believe that if I ever did fall in love with someone who had a terminal disease or disability I'd want to ride it out because that would be what my heart would want
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Posted 6/10/12
Of course I would.
Posted 6/11/12
depends, prolly no though.


Because I'm such a bitch.
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Posted 6/11/12
depends on the disability and if I could deal with it such as a lost limb/eye but braindamaged to one of the worst extents probably not unless I had been with them some time before their illness then I would stand by my man
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I'll admit I'm selfish...

I need someone that would be able to protect me and take care of me when I am sick/hurt... and someone that is mentally able to connect with me...

I know it sounds wrong, but I don't think I could spend my forever with someone who couldn't do that for me. But you never know, I don't think I'll rule disabled people out, but I guess there's less of a chance?
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Posted 6/12/12
It depends on the disability..if we can communicate and feel happy together then yes, if we cant communicate and do anything together i dont think so..
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Posted 6/12/12
As somebody with a physical disability i think it's an interesting subject when it comes to dating.

I have had people who i connect with turn me down and just want to stay friends for mysterious reasons where i feel like it's because i have a disability but i guess without developing psychic powers i'll never truely know their reasons. And honestly if it is the reason i can understand that. We as humans are pretty paranoid creatures. We worry about what others will think of us. A person with a disability knows that all too well. But since we live with it and have had many years to get used to it we sometimes wonder why others are uncomfortable with it. But when i sit back and think about it it's simply something i would do for different reasons.

I might question how unfair it is to be turned down because i have a disability but then turn a girl down because she has an awfully distracting mole or something and i'd be worried in my own little weird human world of paranoia and caring what others think that people would laugh at me and her.

So in all i think who we date is a personal choice. Some might be more fine with the idea of dating somebody with a disability than others. Sometimes we want different things out of a relationship than we could get with a person with a disability. There are all sorts of considerations depending on the disability they may not be able to provide things some would want in an adult relationship like children for example.

So it's hard to generalise on just "Would you date somebody with a disability" because that's a wide open subject with lots of posibilities.

I don't personally think less of somebody who turns somebody down because they are uncomfortable with a disability even if it's me. Personally i'd rather be with somebody who is comfortable being with me than somebody who dates me because they feel sorry for me or because they don't want to seem like a bitch for turning me down simply for shallow reasons.
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Posted 6/12/12
It really has to depend on the sort of disability? And also the looks? And the chemistry? And the entire situation? I probably wouldn't meet too many disabled people unless I worked in a hospital or something though... so it's not about being prejudiced.
Posted 6/12/12
I couldn't support someone with a mental disability, yet.

If the person I love is missing her legs, arms, or both, I'll gladly lend mine. If she's blind, I'm willing to narrate our surroundings. If she's deaf or mute, I can learn the sign language. But I don't know what to do if she had all of those.
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Posted 6/12/12
Can't say it's something I've ever thought about. I'm married now though, so it's not something that has the possibility of happening.
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Posted 6/12/12
It really depends on the disability and how severe it is..

My parents are deaf, so for me that type of disability is no problem at all, but I don't have the knowledge or ability to care for someone with an mental/physical disability that makes them unable to live a "normal" day-to-day life without extensive aid.
Posted 7/17/12
Sure. I've gone out with two that had mental disabilities.
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