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Girls what to you think of your bf adding random girls on facebook?
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Posted 6/27/12
i'd get a bit jealous and would wonder about it, cuz i cant help it. but i'll just ask him but then again it would seem like im stalking but whatevs
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This issue goes beyond trust I think. Online social media plays quite a major role in our lives now that doing that is similar or equatable to surrounding himself with random girls in real life or at the very least, making new friends with random girls. I think that if he is exclusively doing that to random girls, then there lies an issue that must be cleared between you and him. I mean, would he be willing to simply add random guys to his facebook too?

Communication is key in any relationship so I would advise you talk with him about how you feel. I think that people who simply brand this as a trust/jealousy issue do not see beyond the upfront implications of such a situation.

That's my two cents. I hope you get things figured out! :]
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Posted 6/28/12
Mine doesn't, but I don't see how accepted FB requests are something too get too bothered over. And I choose to be in relationships with people I know I can trust.
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It depends for me too.. My bf doesn't go around adding random girls on FB (he deleted his FB recently too! that shows how much he doesn't give a shit about people whom he doesn't really know) but there are lots of girls adding him on FB randomly.. I don't mind so much but I do get bothered when they are looking hot in pictures and trying to contact him.. After all, I'm not one who is very confident in my own looks.. I tend to feel inferior very easily.. hate that habit but maybe cos of my past relationships..

I have some weird experiences with my own "friends" adding my bf.. I don't mean literally my friend.. for example, once this girl was my friend but she back stabbed me and talk shit about me behind my back and we have not spoken for YEARS!!!! then she just suddenly added my bf.. and she's known to have lots of short term relationships with foreigners.. soooo yea.. That one made me kinda pist with her.... after that incident, my bf would always ask me if a girl adds him on FB if I knew her... (he declined her add after that too) there are some who I don't know who added him but that was before I even know him.. so those don't count I guess.. and sometimes he feels irritated with their constant postings, even tho the girl looks hot, sooo yea... as long as your bf sows u that he really don't give two shits about those girls, then who cares?! I only care about the ones texting and trying to call him at 3am in the mornin to meet up! that one I'm MAJOR!! pist off.. well, hope this helps.. I understand your feelings tho.. Hope things work out for both of u so you both can trust and be honest with each other always..
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Posted 6/28/12
sounds like alarm bells should be ringing. why would he have to add random girls on fb if he already has a girlfriend.
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Posted 6/28/12
If I was a girl, I would not like that. I would actually hate it.
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Posted 6/28/12
facebook...
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23 / M / Nova Scotia, Canada
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Posted 6/28/12
"Because both the men and women I'm adding are the ones playing videogames and watching anime with me while you talk about wedding beach ceremonies and romance. Does that answer your question, princess-hime-rama-san?"

Pretty much my internal reaction.

My real reaction ..

"She totally helped me score a piece of iLvL 378 gear!"
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25 / F / Canada
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Posted 6/28/12
People are so insecure these days.

I trust mine 100%, he trusts me 100%. We never had any problems with "random" guys/girls. We have a great relationship.
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If you're obsessed with fidelity, dump him. He clearly has options and you're clearly aware of them. But personally, I wouldn't really be all that surprised no matter what someone did behind my back. I have an acute understanding of how the mind works and I don't expect anyone to act in contradiction to their own selfish desires, especially when it comes to a biological imperative like sex. Pretending otherwise is just wishful thinking.

It's best to just enjoy the hell out of people while you have them and if they seem eager to swim off, let them go. You don't want to get into the habit of playing detective. It just leads to asking paranoid questions, and acting hurt and irritable when they're around and that jazz alone can push them into someone else's arms. Instead of wasting energy fretting over who they know, use it to be as much fun as you can be and with that approach ward off potential rivals by being far more pleasant and pleasurable company.
Posted 7/7/12 , edited 7/7/12

alicia-m wrote:

I trust mine 100%, he trusts me 100%. We never had any problems with "random" guys/girls. We have a great relationship.


Boooooooooring. Laaaaaaaaaame.

You're like a couple of 70 year olds.


Is this when you say I'm just jealous?



AshRandom wrote:

It's best to just enjoy the hell out of people while you have them and if they seem eager to swim off, let them go. You don't want to get into the habit of playing detective. It just leads to asking paranoid questions, and acting hurt and irritable when they're around and that jazz alone can push them into someone else's arms. Instead of wasting energy fretting over who they know, use it to be as much fun as you can be and with that approach ward off potential rivals by being far more pleasant and pleasurable company.


This is the ideal. But I keep forgetting.
Posted 7/7/12
It's okay with me, I trust him :3
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21 / M / Finland, city of...
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Posted 7/7/12
Paranoid much?you shouldn't be so jealous.it spoils everything~~
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27 / M / Gotham City
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Posted 7/7/12
I feel like if a chick's bf was adding girls on facebook who were a bit "homely" then there wouldn't be much of an issue. It's mostly when the beau is having interactions with a bangin' hot girl on facebook when things start to become ugly...
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Posted 7/7/12
i'd care if i had one. x)
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