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Post Reply Can men and women be "just friends"?
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Yes. If it's a not for you, then you're going to cheat on your lover.
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Posted 7/29/13
I think so, most of my friends are boys. ^-^
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Well, I have several female friends. Some I find attractive, some not, but does attraction mean you can't be "just" friends? There's a big difference between finding someone attractive and actually having romantic feelings for them. Of course, if any of them were single and showed an interest, I'd pursue it and from there those feelings would probably develop.

Granted, this is coming from a 20 year old man that's only ever had one kiss, though I would assume it strengthens my point rather than acting against it.
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I guess it can work.
But based on experience I have other some guy friends who really end up thinking the other way.
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No shit they can.
Unless you're the kind of person who mistakes kindness for love :v
Then I wish you good luck with finding a suitable gf/bf
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Of course you can.
My best friend is a woman.
However, I assume that a lot of guys cannot handle having that sort of connection with the opposite sex without getting all creepy and weird about it.
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"Friend Zoned" Life
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Posted 8/30/13
My best friend is a guy xD So yes of course.
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Posted 8/30/13

MitsukiGoddess wrote:

My best friend is a guy xD So yes of course.


How do you know he feels the same way though?
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Posted 8/30/13 , edited 8/30/13
Well only if its friends with benefits. : D
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19 / M / Ireland
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Yeah
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Yeah, my best friend is a girl.
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Yes
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scottRabara wrote:

I've gone back and forth on this with a couple of my friends and to the irony of my own thoughts and philosophy on the topic, the majority of people that I have spoken with happen to women.

But I feel that women and men can't be "just friends". Close friendships between women and men always have one end wanting more than just friendship whether it be hidden or known. My explanation for the men-women friendships that are strictly platonic is that one point in time one of them had an attraction for each other and by attraction I mean physical or emotional.

I bring this up solely because I'm kind of in this situation that has been happening for more than 3 months.. To put it bluntly: I'm interested in this girl that has a boyfriend. How we became close is both of our faults because we are past the level of "just friends." She refers to me as her best friend, but we both know deep down that we're both attracted to each other. And now that her boyfriend is back in town (he went 3 hours north for college and had been gone for 9 months. So the last 3 months he was gone, that when me and her had met and started getting to know each other) I haven't talked to her since.

The friendship started out as a friendship, but as we spent more time together and got to know each other and eventually, let each other gravitate towards one another things got out of hand. And now.. I believe that I can't be her friend anymore solely because I believe that women and men can't be "just friends." And it sucks because she was my best friend.

But enough about that, what do you guys think on the topic? I'm interested in what everyone has to say.


All I can say is that I would never be able to live through that. I'm already in a similar situation, except the girl I'm interested in is single. All sorts of complicated crap has happened, mainly because of me and every time it's been me trying to keep our friendship together. Part of me wants to be in an intimate relationship with her but at the same time I'm afraid any attempts like that will forever shatter what we have right now, regardless on whether or not it works out at the start or even in the end. I don't really know what I'm saying as a kissless 17-year-old virgin
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Posted 8/30/13
Yes, they can simply just be friends but it takes a lot of "Will" power to keep it at that. Well, at least for typical males. Maybe even women.
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