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Post Reply Can men and women be "just friends"?
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yes
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My quick and dirty answer without reading a whole lot, but yes, they can be friends. Even if sexual feelings develop and they act on those feelings, yes, they can be friends. It's because people often over-think things that happen or associate sex with love when sometimes it doesn't have to be. Or there could be love there, but there is still a universal maturity and understanding about the two people. Most people do not and cannot understand that though... still, I've seen plenty of guy / girl friendships and have several girl friends I see even though I'm married.
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Yeah they can. A good number of my friends are girls. Sure, attraction is an inevitable thing in all people, but its not like a man and a women can't coexist without escalation.
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Sorry but I don't think so every female I have had has either secretly or openly wanted me or the opposite. It's so hard because on one hand she's a great person who has a lot in common with you and you get each other's jokes, are playful at times, but then some thing eventually happens: be it the comfort level, them being there for you on a bad day, the smell of the other persons perfume-cologne , the way they smile....any number of things simple or complicated can change it all. Then that person is all you think about....yes you then find that your in love with them. Do I think men and women can be friends....very very un-likely.


angelwiththescabbedwings wrote:

yea. i have guy friends that i would never consider as anything more than friends.


Umm... the key word(letter) in what you said was that "I" would never consider as anything more than friends.

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Well most of my friends are women... but I suppose my I'm not the type of guy this is referring to.
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angelwiththescabbedwings wrote:


marcel20 wrote:


angelwiththescabbedwings wrote:

yea. i have guy friends that i would never consider as anything more than friends.


Umm... the key word(letter) in what you said was that "I" would never consider as anything more than friends.


true, you're right. what i meant to say was that other women and "I" can be friends with men without having feelings for them.


Yes, that was the point I was making, Yet it can happen both ways: like this girl I worked with was crazy , but I only viewed her as a friend trust me it happens to women too especially when it's a really nice guy...he may seem like he likes her but he's really just being nice.
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I think that it's possible, but not common.
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well, i dunno. it depends on the situation.
i don't usually fall in love with a guy who is younger than me unless it was something that caught my attention.
i usually have more guy friends than anybody is and i think it's possible.
you can be just friends and nothing else. i only got work relationships at work but there's nothing to fancy at because i'm not single and i only look at my lover. usually my erratic behaviour drives a guy away but it's my maturity that pulls them into me.
i am usually single but due to being a nerd myself and i'm swamped with good looking guys at work, they only see me as their lil sister and i see them as my idiotic brothers.

but anybody else, i'm really not attracted with.
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it seems like it's mostly guys saying no and girls saying yes. how about them apples

anyway i'm going to go ahead and say yes, they definitely can
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I have a few female friends that I've known since high school (look at my age, lol) so my answer is a definite yes. Of course with every opposite sex friendship (save for homosexuality) there's a degree of sexual tension.

I've had my share of "what if?" thoughts with a few of my female friends but there are different circumstances that can keep things in the friend zone. In my case, one girl was already involved in another relationship so it was easy to stay friends. A few other situations I just wasn't attracted to them enough to pursue being more than friends.

The only thing with opposite sex friendships is they could get awkward really fast if it turns into an unrequited love. Just look at what happens in anime. It's not too different than reality sometimes. I've been put in the "friend zone" by a girl before and to be honest it wasn't a friendship I maintained.
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Mostly everything is possible in life. The problems lie within the details though. I personally have had acquaintances who were females and I've found it much easier to keep a certain distance if you truly want to be just friends.

I had 1 close female friend for a long time...i had no interest in her sexually and I considered her my best friend. The problem we had was that she was lonely. She had an internet boyfriend but they didn't see each other in real life very often. She always had an interest in me because I was closer than her boyfriend. When she got drunk she always came onto me and said very vulgar things to me. I eventually stopped being her friend for this reason. It hurt me to lose a friend but I grew tired of how she made me feel and how she didn't seem to care about her boyfriend when she did and said those things.

I think if you are both at least semi attractive and have good personalities there will always be some thought about what could be but you can definitely be just friends if you choose to be.
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Posted 7/14/12 , edited 7/13/13

Shrapnel893 wrote:

You never know, maybe one could have underlying feelings beyond mere friendship for the other but decides to keep it to themselves for their friends'/siblings' sake. Maybe not necessary that but perhaps something similar or even totally different.


I agree :)
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i have had females who are just friends, but in the back of my mind i do think about sleeping these girls occasionally, but that doesnt mean we cant be just friends, it just means i have to keep it together when she sleeps over....in my bed....and backs into me until i have no choice but to spoon with her.....now that i think of it, im in the hardcore friends zone, or she wants me....fuck
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Can't happen unless the guy is gay and yes it has to be the guy cuz a guy will still try to have sex with a lesbian
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of course men and women can be just friends, little kids, teens, adults, and even the elderly have just friends of the opposite sex. Because they need someone to talk to from a different point of view ^.^ i have a best friend that a girl, and one that's a boy, all three of us get along and ask each other for advise when it comes to the opposite sex. it comes i handy at time too (///~) whether feeling have a turning point is up too you not the rules of gender ~kay
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16 / F / shioshishio ♥
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Posted 12/15/12
Who said men and women couldn't be friends? Of course they can.
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Posted 12/15/12
Of you course they can.
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