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(FOR BOTH GENDERS) Does "fat" turn you off when looking for a mate?
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22 / F / Edina, MN, USA
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Posted 6/14/12
I'm mostly just curious since I haven't found any forums that talked about this. Also because I'm kind "chubby" myself.
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For me specifically .. It used to a lot more than it does now. It still does. Overcoming vanity entirely is quite difficult, as it turns out.

Chubby is attractive in its own right, I'd say. Obese makes me stand in silence. Leviathan class 400+ pound women scare the ever merciful living hell out of me, and so do the men. Anything past that and I'll make the argument they clearly need to do some cardio.

I mean, a person can't starve themselves. But god damn. Some people need to think of their health ..
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It depends. If it is healthy looking than it isn't a turn off. It's when the person's fat has zero support and is hanging all about the place then it is a turn off. The other big factor is confidence. There are many women I know who are overweight, but are still very confident in themselves and it reflects on their appearance. They stand straighter, look happier, and have a nice aura about them, which is a big turn on. There are those who are absolutely sullen because they are overweight which is a turn off since they tend to look sloppier.
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Yes. It does. A lot.
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28 / M / Behind You
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It depends on how much fat there is.
I'm in shape and work hard to stay that way, so I expect some type of effort from a prospective mate. I'm not going to complain about 5 extra pounds, but if she looks like she let herself go or is obese, its just a turn off.

That being said, being too skinny can be a turn off as well.

Posted 6/14/12
Not really. It wouldn't bother me.
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AmaraEveinson wrote:

I'm mostly just curious since I haven't found any forums that talked about this. Also because I'm kind "chubby" myself.


Nope if the "fat" is in the right places and she's attractive looking. However, for me she must also have a personality that makes her stand out. So she can be chubby and still look beautiful. It's true, you can search many big looking beauties on google.

Yes I am that sweet of a guy to give a chubby looking lady a chance. So you, don't worry about your looks. If you think you need to lose a little weight to look better, go for it.

But if you know that you look good now, then don't change who you are just to please some shallow dude who'll only like you if you have the figure of a popcicle stick to get inside your pants.

You want a guy in your life that loves you the way you are now. He sees past your faults. Being yourself and having individuality that truly makes you stand out from everyone else is key. And plus, there's plenty of chubby looking ladies out there that has boyfriends....don't forget that.
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I work hard to keep myself in shape, so it's pretty cool if I can find a girl who also keeps herself in shape. But honestly, I've dated and been with girls who were more shapely, some might even say chubby.

I do like some softness, full breasts, plump butt from time to time, so it's not a big deal.

If she was 400 pounds? Well I just don't think I could overlook that.
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Nope if the "fat" is in the right places and she's attractive looking. However, for me she must also have a personality that makes her stand out. So she can be chubby and still look beautiful. It's true, you can search many big looking beauties on google.

Yes I am that sweet of a guy to give a chubby looking lady a chance. So you, don't worry about your looks. If you think you need to lose a little weight to look better, go for it.

But if you know that you look good now, then don't change who you are just to please some shallow dude who'll only like you if you have the figure of a popcicle stick to get inside your pants.

You want a guy in your life that loves you the way you are now. He sees past your faults. Being yourself and having individuality that truly makes you stand out from everyone else is key. And plus, there's plenty of chubby looking ladies out there that has boyfriends....don't forget that.
Thank you very much for that, it was very sweet of you to say it. I'm honestly happy with who I am, but I know a lot of girls who didn't feel the same so I wanted to get some proof for them. And I think what you said will really help.
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Well, I don't really care much about weight and so on. I care more about if the person can hold a proper conversation with me. I find intelligence and geekiness a turn on. HYGIENE, though, is extremely important!
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Yes, I have a problem with it...

I just can't find a woman attractive if she doesn't take care of herself, and as much as I want to say "Its all about personality" a relationship is a bit more difficult without that strong physical attraction and desire to reproduce with said female.

Having said that, yes I have actually dated "bigger" girls.
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Posted 6/14/12

AmaraEveinson wrote:

I'm mostly just curious since I haven't found any forums that talked about this. Also because I'm kind "chubby" myself.


I wouldn't worry too much, especially since I think people tend to be too hard on themselves. Besides, being a little chubby can actually be pretty attractive on certain women. Think of Christina Hendricks from Mad Men, she's obviously isn't skinny, but she has her weight in all the right places. She's seen as attractive by a lot of guys.

Also chubbiness is not a permanent condition. You can always lose some of that weight later on if you so desire.
Posted 6/14/12 , edited 6/14/12
lots of people say that personality is what matters and i agree with them but please, no one wants to date a fate hairy girl only for her personality, dating someone based on looks only is a really bad thing to do, i would like a nice looking girl WITH a good personality, only having one of the two is a bad balance. I also think being too skinny is a turn off, but being chubby is also a turn off.
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Winterfells wrote:


AmaraEveinson wrote:

I'm mostly just curious since I haven't found any forums that talked about this. Also because I'm kind "chubby" myself.


... Also chubbiness is not a permanent condition. You can always lose some of that weight later on if you so desire.


Not necessarily, I've known people who have had massive issues with their thyroid that refused to let them lose weight. On the other hand, I myself am in a situation where I cannot GAIN weight though I've been trying for years, seriously if I lose any more I will be considered underweight.

As for the question at hand ... a little fat on a woman is a good thing (to me), though excess amounts can turn me right around. I think my body naturally attunes itself to women with desirable genetics or something. Skinny as a rail could mean an eating disorder or health issues, and the same goes for too much.
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