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(FOR BOTH GENDERS) Does "fat" turn you off when looking for a mate?
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Posted 6/15/12
AS LONG as it's not excessively chubby... I like my guys tall, but average build. Not skinny at
all, but not fat... yet not too muscular
Posted 6/15/12
Like others have said, if it's in the right places then it's just fine.
If it's morbidly obese then that just shows a lack of care in taking care of oneself
and if you can't love yourself first then well..

Personally I used to weigh like 275 lbs and Im down to 215 so I know all too well
about being "fat". It's all on the person to ultimately want to change their own life.
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nope. it shouldn't matter if you're looking for a 'mate'. people have their preferences, but im not too picky when it comes to weight. as long as they're not a douche.
Posted 6/15/12

squirrel3d wrote:

Nope if the "fat" is in the right places and she's attractive looking. However, for me she must also have a personality that makes her stand out. So she can be chubby and still look beautiful. It's true, you can search many big looking beauties on google.

Yes I am that sweet of a guy to give a chubby looking lady a chance. So you, don't worry about your looks. If you think you need to lose a little weight to look better, go for it.

But if you know that you look good now, then don't change who you are just to please some shallow dude who'll only like you if you have the figure of a popcicle stick to get inside your pants.

You want a guy in your life that loves you the way you are now. He sees past your faults. Being yourself and having individuality that truly makes you stand out from everyone else is key. And plus, there's plenty of chubby looking ladies out there that has boyfriends....don't forget that.


I wish there were more guys like you in the world.

Posted 6/15/12
In my dating experiences I dated a guy that was fit, but a narcissist. The relationship wasn't enjoyable, although he made me laugh pretty easily.

I've fallen for a scrawny guy and a chubby guy, so really personality is what matters to me.
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I used to have a shirt that said "Chicks dig scrawny pale guys" and I did until I realized men's hipbones are lame to keep getting stabbed with. Dated one fat guy too.

I choose average build... and guys always look so fucking hot with some muscles too...

*shudder* I DO know 400 lb girl... okay there's "normal"-fat and then there's "MAN THE HARPOONS!!"-fat... she is definitely the latter... honestly she's so unhealthy, /I/ became a health nut.

If you're so fat, you make other people want to go workout... here's your sign.

On the other hand, I have a 300 lb female friend and she is unstoppable... she can bag any guy at the bar, its truly amazing to watch, young hot guys too. Just boils down to confidence.
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EvilBunnyFluff wrote:

I used to have a shirt that said "Chicks dig scrawny pale guys" and I did until I realized men's hipbones are lame to keep getting stabbed with. Dated one fat guy too.

I choose average build... and guys always look so fucking hot with some muscles too...

*shudder* I DO know 400 lb girl... okay there's "normal"-fat and then there's "MAN THE HARPOONS!!"-fat... she is definitely the latter... honestly she's so unhealthy, /I/ became a health nut.

If you're so fat, you make other people want to go workout... here's your sign.

On the other hand, I have a 300 lb female friend and she is unstoppable... she can bag any guy at the bar, its truly amazing to watch, young hot guys too. Just boils down to confidence.


Hahaha I love this post, your humor tickles my funny bone!
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On one hand, I've been attracted to heavy guys who make me laugh and are sweet. So I can see them as a boyfriend. But on the other hand, I can't imagine them naked and being extremely turned on by it. So it's hard. I don't know :/
Posted 6/15/12
I am one and I think yeah, it is a turn off <.<;;;;
Posted 6/15/12
Not sure if I should laugh or point out some hypocrisy in this thread.

Don't get fat. Most people think it's just shallowness to avoid fat girls, but there are plenty of reasons. It shows that you're obviously obsessed with food, and at least in my mind you'd pick food over me. The other is that it could be showing a very weak state of mind, or lack of awareness of such a state. It will require a lot of support and fine maneuvering. To begin with, how many of you are willing to spend the rest of your lives with someone fat? And if you ask them to lose weight after getting in a relationship, they'll most likely just say you never liked them to begin with. That's not to say if the person is happy with her or his weight, then it truly is a nightmare.

Another turn off could be if the guy's penis is too small to get through all the fat. Considering that girls have no muscles, 300 lbs is shitloads. Saying that you don't mind going out with a woman like that would most likely mean 1 or more of 3 things:
a - it's a fetish.
b - you've never been near a woman that fat... you might have, but assumed that she was far heavier than 300 (no woman goes around telling you their weight).
c - you may be thinking that she's one of those 6.5-7 feet long rare female creatures with outstanding weight distribution.


Keep it simple. Don't get fat people.
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Posted 6/15/12

SilverxButterfly wrote:


squirrel3d wrote:

Nope if the "fat" is in the right places and she's attractive looking. However, for me she must also have a personality that makes her stand out. So she can be chubby and still look beautiful. It's true, you can search many big looking beauties on google.

Yes I am that sweet of a guy to give a chubby looking lady a chance. So you, don't worry about your looks. If you think you need to lose a little weight to look better, go for it.

But if you know that you look good now, then don't change who you are just to please some shallow dude who'll only like you if you have the figure of a popcicle stick to get inside your pants.

You want a guy in your life that loves you the way you are now. He sees past your faults. Being yourself and having individuality that truly makes you stand out from everyone else is key. And plus, there's plenty of chubby looking ladies out there that has boyfriends....don't forget that.


I wish there were more guys like you in the world.



Thank you. Seriously that means a lot to me.

It's just that I see myself being with a lovely lady with some chubbiness on her. You don't need to look like a popcicle stick to be beautiful. That look turns me off.
Posted 6/15/12

squirrel3d wrote:



Thank you. Seriously that means a lot to me.

It's just that I see myself being with a lovely lady with some chubbiness on her. You don't need to look like a popcicle stick to be beautiful. That look turns me off.


Your welcome, and I could also add to your last statement.


You want a guy in your life that loves you the way you are now. He sees past your faults. Being yourself and having individuality that truly makes you stand out from everyone else is key. And plus, there's plenty of chubby looking ladies out there that has boyfriends....don't forget that.


I'm actually living proof that you can be in a relationship and not be model thin. I have never been model thin in my life. I'd always been on the chubby side, and when I was fourteen a guy approached me sincerely asking me to be his girlfriend. We had only had about two or three encounters before and he said he enjoyed being around me.

In a way how you responded was what he would have said as well, so I am really glad that there are men like you that don't ask for perfection. It's the same for men as well, would you want a woman to tell you that you need to have a six pack and huge guns to be in a relationship with them? Since both male and females have feelings it would obviously hurt to hear that we don't reach the requirements to be in any relationship.

Personally I have fallen for a guy's personality, not their looks. When you sincerely enjoy being around them and you can trust them with your heart is when you truly understand what love is. Looks don't last forever, but your personality does.

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Yeah if they're THAT fat, I think they are not taking care of themselves meaning they cant take care of their gf/bf too.
Posted 6/15/12
I'm not shallow but there's a limit. If they're really obese and don't look after themselves then it would put me off. As a fitness freak I want a healthy partner who can go on walks and jogs with me.
Posted 6/15/12
of course
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