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What would you do if this happen to you?
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Posted 6/22/12
What would you do if lets say someone you knew for some time and like ended up asking you out and you start to make plans to when you will go out and then you find out behind your back he/she also ask someone else out as well?


What would you do? How would you handle it? Has this happen to you before?



It did happen to me what I did was with out saying anything I just got rid of him by deleting him off my friends list, off of skype and deleting his number Do you think I did the right thing?



Whats your thoughts on something like this? Why do you think someone would do that?
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Posted 6/22/12 , edited 6/22/12
That sounds messed up if that happen to me I would be pissed as hell I don't understand why someone would do that when all it does is hurt the person my guess the reason why he did that was b/c he thought you would not find out and thinking he all that getting to date two girls he sounds like a player to me I would do the same by deleting him and move on there more better guys out there
Posted 6/22/12
People have different beliefs when it comes to dating. Some people find nothing wrong with dating several people at once to be out there and increasing the odds of finding someone you like. He might just be that type of person and if you are against it then yes I would say you did the right thing but if that is his belief then maybe not being that harsh about it and just explaining that you don't agree with it. If it is obvious that it wasn't like that then doing what you did is fine.
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Posted 6/22/12
Maybe you should have just gone up to him and LET HIM HAVE IT!!! as in using words not vilonce but still poor u
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Ok, as a guy I really think you did the wrong thing. There's nothing more annoying than when a girl starts ignoring you without reason. And like justanotherguy up there said the person you are talking about probably wants to date different people. If it's not too late I would add him back, ask him his intentions, apologize and then give him a chance. One date can't hurt, can it? Just go have fun and you never know maybe it will lead to something good. Just try to be optimistic.
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Well, I would ask him for his side of the story first. Just so I understand his reasoning behind the act. Depending on his answer, I may agree to date him anyway, just for a while, so I can judge his personality better. If you know him well enough already, you should be able to tell if he's just messing around with a bunch of girls or if he's sincerely looking for a girlfriend.


Xmas_Hat wrote:

Ok, as a guy I really think you did the wrong thing. There's nothing more annoying than when a girl starts ignoring you without reason. And like justanotherguy up there said the person you are talking about probably wants to date different people. If it's not too late I would add him back, ask him his intentions, apologize and then give him a chance. One date can't hurt, can it? Just go have fun and you never know maybe it will lead to something good. Just try to be optimistic. :)


I understand that people have differences on how they date people, but personally, being a girl, if a guy were to be dating another girl while dating me, I would be a little upset. I may understand if he explained to me that he just wants to expand his options, but still. I'd feel a bit jaded about it. I personally would never date multiple people at once -- it does make one come off as a 'player' and makes me feel that he doesn't really care for me -- he's just messing around. This is especially hurtful if you've liked the person for a while, as ninjagirls said she felt.
Posted 6/22/12

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Well, I would ask him for his side of the story first. Just so I understand his reasoning behind the act. Depending on his answer, I may agree to date him anyway, just for a while, so I can judge his personality better. If you know him well enough already, you should be able to tell if he's just messing around with a bunch of girls or if he's sincerely looking for a girlfriend.


Xmas_Hat wrote:

Ok, as a guy I really think you did the wrong thing. There's nothing more annoying than when a girl starts ignoring you without reason. And like justanotherguy up there said the person you are talking about probably wants to date different people. If it's not too late I would add him back, ask him his intentions, apologize and then give him a chance. One date can't hurt, can it? Just go have fun and you never know maybe it will lead to something good. Just try to be optimistic. :)


I understand that people have differences on how they date people, but personally, being a girl, if a guy were to be dating another girl while dating me, I would be a little upset. I may understand if he explained to me that he just wants to expand his options, but still. I'd feel a bit jaded about it. I personally would never date multiple people at once -- it does make one come off as a 'player' and makes me feel that he doesn't really care for me -- he's just messing around. This is especially hurtful if you've liked the person for a while, as ninjagirls said she felt.


Unfortunately the problem comes from people just assuming others have the same dating rules as they do. I don't think people would get hurt as often if they went into it knowing that they had to ask questions like "Are we going to be exclusive?". These days especially dating is becoming much more relaxed and so I believe people are thinking more and more that unless it is stated otherwise the relationship isn't exclusive. It is hard to keep that kind of thing in mind though when you like the person a lot and finally see yourself possibly having a relationship that you wanted with them. It is hard but I think people need to keep that kind of stuff in mind a lot more.
Posted 6/22/12
i would of done the same thing
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Posted 6/22/12
Well most guys are scum same goes for some girls I think you the right thing but you have to remember s**t like this happens to the best of us just keep your chin up and if you see this person again don't act mad or like a b**ch just ignore what he did to you move on and that will let him know that your above his childish behavior and that he does not matter,
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Posted 6/22/12

justanotherguy_2005 wrote:


Aokidanza wrote:

Well, I would ask him for his side of the story first. Just so I understand his reasoning behind the act. Depending on his answer, I may agree to date him anyway, just for a while, so I can judge his personality better. If you know him well enough already, you should be able to tell if he's just messing around with a bunch of girls or if he's sincerely looking for a girlfriend.


Xmas_Hat wrote:

Ok, as a guy I really think you did the wrong thing. There's nothing more annoying than when a girl starts ignoring you without reason. And like justanotherguy up there said the person you are talking about probably wants to date different people. If it's not too late I would add him back, ask him his intentions, apologize and then give him a chance. One date can't hurt, can it? Just go have fun and you never know maybe it will lead to something good. Just try to be optimistic. :)


I understand that people have differences on how they date people, but personally, being a girl, if a guy were to be dating another girl while dating me, I would be a little upset. I may understand if he explained to me that he just wants to expand his options, but still. I'd feel a bit jaded about it. I personally would never date multiple people at once -- it does make one come off as a 'player' and makes me feel that he doesn't really care for me -- he's just messing around. This is especially hurtful if you've liked the person for a while, as ninjagirls said she felt.


Unfortunately the problem comes from people just assuming others have the same dating rules as they do. I don't think people would get hurt as often if they went into it knowing that they had to ask questions like "Are we going to be exclusive?". These days especially dating is becoming much more relaxed and so I believe people are thinking more and more that unless it is stated otherwise the relationship isn't exclusive. It is hard to keep that kind of thing in mind though when you like the person a lot and finally see yourself possibly having a relationship that you wanted with them. It is hard but I think people need to keep that kind of stuff in mind a lot more.


I agree. Being a teenager, I more expect to be dating exclusively, since teen relationships are already complicated enough dating one person XD And I would prefer an exclusive kind of thing myself. But I do understand other preferences -- just because they date more than one person at a time does make them "a bad person". Which is why I would just straight-up ask if I were in such a position as ninjagirls and give the guy a chance.

@ninjagirls Btw, I wouldn't have all-out blocked the guy straight away. That seemed a bit of a premature reaction, albeit an understandable one if your really liked him. Really, you should talk to him. That's the only way you can understand the reason behind the act. Even if you still don't want to date him anymore. You could still take it as a learning experience :)
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Posted 6/22/12
I'd say you did the right thing because my philosophy is, "Once a cheater always a cheater". Not sure why you would need to date multiple people at once to see which one of them that you "liked" more. If you are having trouble considering who you like more out of a group of candidates, then its possible you don't like any of them if you're not willing to take a relationship seriously.
Posted 6/22/12
why didn't you post put "CHEATED" on you.

That first line was so difficult to read. O.o
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Posted 6/22/12
You did the right thing! at least in my perspective
loyalty is extremely important when it comes to relationship
and what u did avoided drama which is good
it might be weird for him at first not knowing why you started ignoring him
but he's most likely to figure out the reason...
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suixingseki wrote:
it might be weird for him at first not knowing why you started ignoring him
but he's most likely to figure out the reason...

Boys aren't that smart.
He most likely won't.

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Posted 6/22/12

Xmas_Hat wrote:


suixingseki wrote:
it might be weird for him at first not knowing why you started ignoring him
but he's most likely to figure out the reason...

Boys aren't that smart.
He most likely won't.



true! XD
but if he really has NO CLUE wat so ever, then he's a douche
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