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Are christians generally nicer people?
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Uh, I think most pretend to be nice because they think it's the right thing to do in order to go to heaven *shrugs* just a theory. My family is Christian and I go to church every weekend, meh. I've been to different churches, and almost all the people are smiling, huggy, handshakey, and so eager to say "good morning! how are you?". It's creepy to me.. I mostly glare at everyone and avoid anyone touching or talking to me.
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I think any gods that organized religion follows are stupid and don't really help the world at all, I feel it only makes religious people ignorant of the stuff going on around them. As an atheist I am obviously not close to God and I am a very nice and caring person. So I do not believe that Christians are generally nicer. It really depends on the person. I know a lot of Christians that seem nice but when you talk about gay rights and their right to adopt and get married they turn into pretty bigoted people. Spending 30 minutes trying to convince me that its ok if they get married but should not have kids cause they will be raised "gay". I always feel like saying "well you are raising your kids Christian whats the difference?" and "Straight parents have gay kids, explain that?" Sorry if that came off like a rant but I live around a lot of religious people and do not personally know many people who share my beliefs.
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Sammy_Doo wrote:

Uh, I think most pretend to be nice because they think it's the right thing to do in order to go to heaven *shrugs* just a theory. My family is Christian and I go to church every weekend, meh. I've been to different churches, and almost all the people are smiling, huggy, handshakey, and so eager to say "good morning! how are you?". It's creepy to me.. I mostly glare at everyone and avoid anyone touching or talking to me.


Most of my family does not know that I don't believe in god or at least any god that humans made up. So I know how you feel when you say that. I just wanna avoid the long talks that would come from them figuring it out. So at christmas I just shake my head and say merry christmas and divert the conversation. Eventually I will have to tell them when I can't take it any more. Needless to say a LOT of eye rolling for me.
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I think it should be clarified that there is a difference between a practicing Christian and one that just says "I'm a Christian" but does nothing the Bible instructs them too.

Than to further make a mess of things Christians in general are lumped together when there are some big doctrinal differences between which can create confusion for people unfamiliar with the Bible in general.

I would say in general a practicing Christian is nicer than average. That doesn't mean they have a exclusivity on being nice and that there aren't any non Christians that are nice it just means that God doesn't call you to be a jerk.

Now before you say "Why do Christian's hate homosexuals or hate this person or that person" the answer is they shouldn't. So those with signs like "God hates fags" etc are incorrect. What God hates and what Christians should hate is the sin and not the actual person. Sort of like if someone you loved was on drugs you would hate the fact the person was on drugs but you wouldn't actually hate that person.

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Sammy_Doo wrote:

Uh, I think most pretend to be nice because they think it's the right thing to do in order to go to heaven *shrugs* just a theory. My family is Christian and I go to church every weekend, meh. I've been to different churches, and almost all the people are smiling, huggy, handshakey, and so eager to say "good morning! how are you?". It's creepy to me.. I mostly glare at everyone and avoid anyone touching or talking to me.


yea i never really liked that either. i haven't been to church in a while (though i do still believe). i remember that there were always also people in every church i've been too that were actually that way normally and were sincere in their greetings and not just doing it out of habit or out of some sense of obligation.
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Hmm... At its heart Christianity is not a religion based on a moral credo or a system of ethics, nor must you adhere to one to be a Christian. The very idea is anathema and antithetical to the base line of what constitutes Christianity. While it is impossible for me to speak on the part of every denomination within Christianity, in which many moralistic social structures can be found, there are a base requirement to be a Christian.
1.) Romans 10:9 "If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"
This and this alone assures salvation. Now, as a Christian there are many things that are required for good fellowship, and not all Christians agree on what those things are. Regardless of what the particulars of a Christian's faith are, its not about being nice and neither are they required to be at all times. To any faithful (practicing and not just habitual or dynastic Christian) Christian, their goal is to further the Kingdom of God on this earth in expectation of the coming Kingdom. It is the highest duty of a Christian to pursue what they understand to be God's will, whether or not that seems nice to the person on the receiving end has little consequence.
Unfortunately, while there are lines of continuity among Christians, no two people have exactly the same paradigm of God or His Will. In these gaps of theology there arise many different behavioral standards and expressions.

However as to the question of whether or not Christians tend to be nice people, I end with a hypothetical: If you believed that there were two ultimate destinations, one of splendor (eternal, personal, and communal) and another of agony (eternal, isolated, and unyielding), and if you were aware that all people are destined for the latter and there was only one way out, wouldn't it be the ultimate action of kindness and love to share that method, and the epitome of hatred to withhold it?
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I became a Christian when I was 9 years old, only because my dad told me I had to. I didn't care about church or god but my dad gave me the guilt trip whenever I wasn't singing during church or reading my bible. When I turned 18 I finally told my dad I didn't believe in god. He looked sad and just said, "I guess satan will have another one of my children". And that was that. But.. my family still wants me to marry a Christian man, I don't know why.. since they know I don't believe in god. Anyways, good luck telling your family..

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What of those in remote lands who never heard of Christ, they have no fault for being born in remote areas,now they automatically go to hell? Does this make any sense?! I don't think Christians think they are perfect, but they do believe their religion is the only correct one and if you don't follow it you are doomed. So if I am not a Christian, I am unapreciative of Christs sacrifice, unapreciative of God's love- a sinner and doomed to suffer for eternity. This is a way of looking down on others, I don't believe your book so I am not as good as you, in fact there is nothing lower then me, I am a low miserable wretch. Personally I would never think that of anyone regardless of their beliefs. Christians are close to God, the only ones- everyone else is so low! What an awful way to look at the vast majority of the people of this world.
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I find the question to be demeaning, devalued, and of no importance whatsoever. I think it divides us. People are complicated. We can leave it at that.

Besides, this person is nice because Jesus is watching them? Give me the person that's nice because they value that quality....
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crunchyskylion wrote:

I find the question to be demeaning, devalued, and of no importance whatsoever. I think it divides us. People are complicated. We can leave it at that.

Besides, this person is nice because Jesus is watching them? Give me the person that's nice because they value that quality....


^This!

Well said.
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It depends on the person's overall temperament and life experiences. If someone isn't Christian but is still taught to respect others from a young age, that person will probably end up being a nicer person, though the opposite is possible as well. Someone could be 'Christian' in upbringing but so loosely following the teachings that is is only Christian in name only.
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One of my best friends is very religious. She is very helpful and polite to people -- she always wants to better the world. But she is also very pessimistic and is fully capable of hating people. She has told me on numerous occasions that I am too positive and nice to everyone, and I am the complete opposite of her when it comes to religion (I have none).

Religion doesn't dictate how "nice" a person is, or any of their personality, for that matter. There are some very hateful Christians out there, just as there are some very loving Christians. It all depends on the person, not the religion. People will interpret things like religion based on their own personality, after all...
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tedn wrote:

What of those in remote lands who never heard of Christ, they have no fault for being born in remote areas,now they automatically go to hell? Does this make any sense?!


That's not true, at least in Catholic Christianity. Can't speak for others. But Catholic doctrine teaches you have to have full knowledge and actually deny Christ (so not knowing about him does not send you to hell), and you're also not allowed to make judgments about the future or state of someone else's soul.

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Hmmm. There's lot of variation out there that can go against this, but to a significant degree I would say yes. Many churchgoing christians are nice and would do marginally better in friendliness as a population.
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That's interesting and makes alot more sense.
So what happens to your soul if you have never heard of Christ?
I am guessing Purgatory. Which if you have a good, loving heart seems quite unfair.

I don't think you need to make a judgement. It is a critical analysis based on religious doctrine- that if I am not a Christian there is no way
I am going to heaven, be close to God or be in any other way as good as someone who is. You don't have to "judge" someone to criticize
them. If you hurt other people it is not a judgment to say it is bad. It is discernment, criticism, intelligent analysis.
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