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Posted 7/7/12 , edited 7/7/12
I believe so. When a person gives you eye contact he is showing that you that he wants you to acknowledge him/her and what they have to say. Lack of eye contact can show that you are either nervous, shy, or just not interested in what the person has to say.
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Posted 7/8/12
It makes it awkward for me.
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Posted 7/14/12
I used to hate having to make eye contact not because of being bashful but I have really really I mean really bad eye sight so looking people in the eye makes me have to focus inturn making me feel crossed eyed, not that I have glasses its no prob & dont care about having to
Posted 7/14/12
many people find it disrespectful not to have eye contact when a person is talking to you, i dont do lots of eye contacting, but when i do its because i do
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Posted 7/14/12

hollowHERO wrote:

I was just curious about something so I thought I'd ask..

Is eye contact difficult for you? Is it even anything you really notice or think about? Whether it's easy for you or torture, I'd really like to know why?

I know that it can be a completely personal experience between two people. Well, at least that's what it looks like in these shows (anime or otherwise). Personally, I can't really do it. It terrifies me to no end. I guess I just don't want to actually see them when they look down on me or judge me. In the end it just sorta leaves me by myself (insert forever alone.jpg) but I'm fine with that. Can a person's confidence really be measured by the amount of eye contact they can maintain?

Anyway, that's how I feel about the subject. Lemme know what you think about it.


I do avoid eye contact most of the time unless I'm talking with someone. I don't want my eye contact to be misread as an interest to talk to some weirdos on the street.

A fun game I like to play though is to hold eye contact with a female you I don't know for as long as possible. See who looks away first. You can also kinda-ish read her opinion of you in those seconds. One time I held contact with a girl at the mall while I was standing there listening to my earphones and after she left my sight I went back to looking at nothing then after like 10 seconds she stepped back into view and asked if I wanted to hang out... I was actually waiting for someone so I told her no thank you.. I truly believe confidence is a sexy thing so even if you are shy you can at least attempt to be confident at times just to see the outcome.

P.S. If you choose to ignore everything I ever type PLEASE at least take this advice for your own good... ALLOW yourself to be embarrassed and rejected. Once you accept that as a part of life, you'll see it's nothing to fear any longer.

I know a lot of people on these forums are awkward and loners and that's fine but don't EVER let fear of being judged or insulted stop you from living. Someone may dislike you for 10 reasons but 50 more people will love you for 100 reasons. No one is perfect and everything in life is based on taste and opinion. You cannot gain everyones acceptance. Even the sexiest and brightest people have a million haters.

Take a deep breath...now live
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Posted 7/14/12
it's really weird but i can't make eye contact when talking about my feelings my girlfriend finds it funny
Posted 7/14/12

raintaster wrote:

it's really weird but i can't make eye contact when talking about my feelings my girlfriend finds it funny


That sounds normal to me, I find it hard to make I contact when talking about anything personal.

The only situations I make a conscious effort to make eye contact is:

1. I'm angry with someone or in an argument with them.

2. When I'm talking to someone with a position of authority over me. ( I'm not sure why, to show respect or just to let them know I don't fear them or something).

3. Impromptu staring contests with random people. The are fairly common. o_O
Posted 7/23/12
I stare into their eyes very.. VERY intently saying "Sex sex sex" in my mind. Just kidding.
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Posted 7/23/12
I use eye contact diplomatically. If I'm talking to someone who is attempting to engage me in their ideas, who I respect, or should respect, I give them direct eye contact, only breaking it briefly when they say something interesting or ask a question to indicate my thinking and then I re-engage when I begin to speak.
With people who I am giving advice to/comforting/consoling I make little eye contact, and when I do its brief and only when they look towards me.
When I am dealing with an aggressive person, I look at their eyes directly, and then I "look beyond" them until they have finished ranting, and I re-engage non-threatening eye contact when I begin to speak.

ect. ect.

Knowing your own body language can be very important to communicating effectively.
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Posted 7/23/12
I can make eye contact in a conversation easily but that's only because I feel if I am not making eye contact during a convo I feel rude, but for example when I am taking a walk I usually don't make eye contact with other people longer then a few sec because you never know how some people may react when a stranger keeps making eye contact lol
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Posted 7/23/12 , edited 7/23/12
Depends on my mood. Sometimes I don't want to look anyone in the eye. At other times I'll stare at people until they're uncomfortable. Like when they have leprechauns dancing on their head.
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Posted 7/24/12 , edited 7/24/12
When I go out shopping.. I'm either looking at the merchandise, what's in my cart, the floor, etc. As for eyes, I just can't do it. I feel so.. exposed if it happens =\

Eye contact with people I know is fine if I'm talking to them, but otherwise, even that can be awkward.

I can only keep eye contact with my family.
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Posted 7/24/12
giiiiiiiii haha
Posted 7/24/12
Yeah its pretty easy but it get weird when there talking about something I don't care about so I have try to maintain eye contact so I seem interested in what there instead of just walking away. So no eye contact isn't a problem for me.
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Posted 7/24/12
yep, i can maintain eye contact
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