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Why Are all The Good Guys Either Taken Or Gay??
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Posted 9/9/12

optimistic-pessimistic-girl wrote:


magicalgirl24 wrote:



Sorry for this long drawn out crap! I was just trying to give some advice! I hope you read it!

You or your friend cannot come to the conclusion that all guys are gay or taken just by judging a few. I cannot really relate to your friend but I can try to give her the best advice possible. I'm guessing that she is in her 20's (If not that why does she want "love" at her age) so she should have met many guys and rejected many guys, am I right! Sometimes is just means she is looking in the wrong places and falling for the wrong guys. It takes a lot of pain and heart break to find the right guy! My dad dated many girls before my mom, and they are perfect for each other. However, it took them about 10 years or so before they got married.......ten years. The reason it took so long is because my mom was/is very independent. They met through friends so they weren't strangers, so my dad was completely friend-zoned. Let me tell you, it takes time for a strong relationship to flourish because I can see that my parents truly love each other.

So my advice for your friend is:

1. Take time. Not just in a relations but when waiting for a relations. If their is a guys you like in a relationship, still keep in close contact with him. Chances are if he breaks up with his girlfriend, you will know right away because you kept in contact with him. You can you that moment to get a relationship brewing! Also, take time when you are in a relationship, don't go rushing to say you wanna get married or have kids! Chances are that will serious creep out your partner. Trust me, if you take time and you two are truly in love all you hopes and dream (having kids or getting married) will fall into place!

2. Look in the right places. A good guy isn't gonna come to you all the time! Sometimes, it takes a lot of work on your part! Join clubs and group that do activities that you enjoy and even try new thing. You might meet a good guy there that you will fall in love with!

3. Don't be so picky next time; give everyone a fair chance! Don't only want what you can't have. If she can't have the pick of the litter, take the next one down even if its the runt. With the right person, a runt can really shine. So don't have a fixed image of the "perfect" because chances are with those extremely high standard, no one will want you!

I would like to finish off by saying, there are so many good guys out there. I hope you friend finds that special somebody!


*blinks*wow

lol I felt that from NY.

Good stuff.

** gonna find me some runts jajajajajajajaja **

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Every one goes through tough relationships and heartbreaks. It's natural in human life. Things take time to build up and mature and even the most smallest of seed can grow into the biggest tree. If things get you down. Don't worry things get better. I gone through many crap in my past relationships. For example Almost going to jail for something that didn't even happen in the first place. I dated many women so far in the years but even though I've been hurt so many times. I just pick myself up and go again. Long story short even though you get regected or turned down, all the good guys are gone or taken, gone through bad times in relationships. Think back on yourself and how you feel. Think really hard on the type of guy that you want and what you can look over in terms of faults. There is no perfect guy or girl. Every one has faults about them, you just need to accept those faults and look past and see who they truely are inside.

There has to be some sort of attraction between a couple. Whether it be physical or personality wise. If there isn't some sort of connection between you too then it isn't going to work. Don't get me wrong you can try but don't waste time filling a bucket that has a hole if you know what I mean. Just need to realize what is truely best for you and your happyness.
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I like being single. Don't have to deal with the many let downs from having a gf. Though, mother keeps telling me to get a gf.
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haha the guys you see probably just show more "caring" characteristics than you see in single guys.
Taken guys: guys in relationships change. They adapt to a female, thus maybe you think he's all romantic and stuff
Gay guys: come on, what kind of girl isn't attracted to a sensitive guy, feminine guy~~ that's all I have to say
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As been pointed out before in this thread...there are PLENTY of good, upstanding guys out there.

The problem is that they're unnoticed by the women who bemoan "why are all the good guys taken?!"

A lot of women watch tv shows and movies where the "good guy" is ridiculously smart, classically handsome, wealthy and so their standards become totally skewed. They won't settle for less. And while nobody should ever "settle," people need to keep their expectations realistic.

Guys, as described above, are obviously rare, and so most are taken. If women honestly were just looking for a good guy who would treat them respectfully and be presentable in front of their parents, there are countless dudes like that out there.
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