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Effy- wrote:
Spoiler Alert! Click to show or hide destinypi wrote:
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I usually never say this because it makes me seem really absorbed.. but I do test people I like before I go out with them. I'll flirt with them as a way to make sure we get along and just have fun with it I guess. I'd probably ask the person to hang out and I enjoy just being around them. I haven't had the desire to ask anyone out. I've only been lucky. Men will ask me out a lot and most of the time it happens to be the guy I'm into. I'm not saying I am fond of 10 guys at once. It's always one person I love talking too. If he happens to ask me out, it will be him asking first because I just like taking my time and being free. Relationships should be taken more seriously. It shouldn't matter who asks first as long as its a mutual real feelings and the other person saying yes will take it 100%.
This question is more for the men that need validation before asking a woman out. If you like her as well and want to stop being in the flirty friend zone, just ask her out. Woman will ask the man out if she is willing enough. If she seems shy and timid, don't be frustrated. It takes time to grow and learn to love yourself and once she experiences higher self-esteem from flirting, (which in may cases woman will do) she will go for it.
Booooooooooring.
Indeed. I should probably just put it simply. - It doesn't matter who asks who out.- The end. There.
inkii wrote:
Don't justify yourself to people who post useless crap, nothing wrong with what you wrote earlier.
I just decided to quote the two of you so you could see what was said.
Agree with Inki though and it just sounds like Effy has been lucky *shrugs*.
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Winterfells wrote:
Effy- wrote:
I usually never say this because it makes me seem really absorbed.. but I do test people I like before I go out with them. I'll flirt with them as a way to make sure we get along and just have fun with it I guess. I'd probably ask the person to hang out and I enjoy just being around them. I haven't had the desire to ask anyone out. I've only been lucky. Men will ask me out a lot and most of the time it happens to be the guy I'm into. I'm not saying I am fond of 10 guys at once. It's always one person I love talking too. If he happens to ask me out, it will be him asking first because I just like taking my time and being free. Relationships should be taken more seriously. It shouldn't matter who asks first as long as its a mutual real feelings and the other person saying yes will take it 100%.
This question is more for the men that need validation before asking a woman out. If you like her as well and want to stop being in the flirty friend zone, just ask her out. Woman will ask the man out if she is willing enough. If she seems shy and timid, don't be frustrated. It takes time to grow and learn to love yourself and once she experiences higher self-esteem from flirting, (which in may cases woman will do) she will go for it.
You don't seem like the flirtatious type.
I only flirt with people I like.
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Effy- wrote:
^ Yep I know
Winterfells wrote:
Effy- wrote:
I usually never say this because it makes me seem really absorbed.. but I do test people I like before I go out with them. I'll flirt with them as a way to make sure we get along and just have fun with it I guess. I'd probably ask the person to hang out and I enjoy just being around them. I haven't had the desire to ask anyone out. I've only been lucky. Men will ask me out a lot and most of the time it happens to be the guy I'm into. I'm not saying I am fond of 10 guys at once. It's always one person I love talking too. If he happens to ask me out, it will be him asking first because I just like taking my time and being free. Relationships should be taken more seriously. It shouldn't matter who asks first as long as its a mutual real feelings and the other person saying yes will take it 100%.
This question is more for the men that need validation before asking a woman out. If you like her as well and want to stop being in the flirty friend zone, just ask her out. Woman will ask the man out if she is willing enough. If she seems shy and timid, don't be frustrated. It takes time to grow and learn to love yourself and once she experiences higher self-esteem from flirting, (which in may cases woman will do) she will go for it.
You don't seem like the flirtatious type.
I only flirt with people I like.
So the moral is..... flirt with everything that moves?
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Spoiler Alert! Click to show or hide Arkthethird wrote:
Effy- wrote:
^ Yep I know
Winterfells wrote:
Effy- wrote:
I usually never say this because it makes me seem really absorbed.. but I do test people I like before I go out with them. I'll flirt with them as a way to make sure we get along and just have fun with it I guess. I'd probably ask the person to hang out and I enjoy just being around them. I haven't had the desire to ask anyone out. I've only been lucky. Men will ask me out a lot and most of the time it happens to be the guy I'm into. I'm not saying I am fond of 10 guys at once. It's always one person I love talking too. If he happens to ask me out, it will be him asking first because I just like taking my time and being free. Relationships should be taken more seriously. It shouldn't matter who asks first as long as its a mutual real feelings and the other person saying yes will take it 100%.
This question is more for the men that need validation before asking a woman out. If you like her as well and want to stop being in the flirty friend zone, just ask her out. Woman will ask the man out if she is willing enough. If she seems shy and timid, don't be frustrated. It takes time to grow and learn to love yourself and once she experiences higher self-esteem from flirting, (which in may cases woman will do) she will go for it.
You don't seem like the flirtatious type.
I only flirt with people I like.
So the moral is..... flirt with everything that moves?
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Belly laugh* , that was worth it
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Belly laugh*
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hmmm coffee (scurries)
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I, for one, am not strong to do that ==''
I give my salutes to those who can.
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supersede wrote:
I, for one, am not strong to do that ==''
I give my salutes to those who can.
give it a try maybe?...he just might end up being the one for you 
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If you think about it,
Girl drops subtle hints ---> he doesn't notice at all
Girl drops subtle hints ---> he notices, he isn't sure if you're just being friendly or not etc.
Now, how much more simple would it be this way,
Girl initiates the first move or is clear about their motive/feelings ---> he feels the same way and tells her
Girl initiates the first move or is clear about their motive/feelings ---> he doesn't feel the same way and tells her
Why bother going through the confusion, the numerous "what if's", the uncertainty and questioning when you can be straight forward/direct and not only convey your feelings without miscommunications but also find out his clearly.
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I'am this type of girl lol, If I like a guy well I get the guts to tell him directly. I don't like beating around the bush, and what if he doesn't notice and slips away. That's why I tell them directly "I like you." Save myself the time, trouble, and drama.
That being said I don't confess the minute I realize my feelings, I'm direct but I'm still a scardey cat. I have to prep myself before hand.
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I wish they WOULD step up and make their feelings known and clear, instead of just waiting for us guys to do everything..
The world would run so much smoother, and people wouldn't be getting fucked over, left right and centre..
I guess this also applies to guys.. Basically, everybody should just make their feelings known.
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I'd be in trouble over here. cause girls in Hawaii are high maintenance... reel me in like the last one did.. and burn my pocket for all its worth. then leave me high and dry. ouch!.
I gotta search for girls out of my region
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It happened me once... And I threw the chance. My life's biggest regret. (srs)
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_yakusoku wrote:
If you think about it,
Girl drops subtle hints ---> he doesn't notice at all
Girl drops subtle hints ---> he notices, he isn't sure if you're just being friendly or not etc.
Now, how much more simple would it be this way,
Girl initiates the first move or is clear about their motive/feelings ---> he feels the same way and tells her
Girl initiates the first move or is clear about their motive/feelings ---> he doesn't feel the same way and tells her
Why bother going through the confusion, the numerous "what if's", the uncertainty and questioning when you can be straight forward/direct and not only convey your feelings without miscommunications but also find out his clearly.
soo true I like this a lot. thumbs up.
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What if women went up to guys they liked rather than waiting to get asked out? 
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