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What if women went up to guys they liked rather than waiting to get asked out?
Posted 7/19/12

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Men are like that totally have a self gratifying ego when you asked them they seems to view you as nah your so easy and if you do not mind them if they hit on you or court you they will most probably said your playing hard to get. geee well findings suggest that men only like it when you approached them if they like have a feeling for you also or they think you look hot and pretty besides that the hell with them hey they are men, things that will not kill them will only make them MORE MEN so let them try or die hard approaching us girls. Us female will just play it cool and believe me it feels good when a man ask you out and court you specially if he is sincere and not some one hit wonder boom i out here after like i got what i want player type


Yes your right it does feel good when were approached by women...mostly because its not too common and it does boost our ego when it happens, but like you said you like the feeling of men approaching you..you are a very cute woman, so i' m sure a lot of guys hit on you all the time. Isn't it OK for us guys to feel that just once in a blue moon? not every day or month for that matter, but just once in a while. If I ever met you and you asked me out I'd say yes, not only because your attractive, but also while on a date I can find out what your really about and if your some one that can draw my interest past your looks. Also if we met and I asked you out...when you seen me face to face you would feel nothing but sincerity.


It depends though... I like the accidental meeting or some one introduce me to him or the other way around so pretty much i am not a fan or not into a guy that approaches me
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I'm old school. A man should respect a lady enough to take some initiative and pursue getting to know her. Also, many men don't know how to deal with the advances of a lady, especially if they are untoward or undesired. In the same breath, men should pay for the meal, open doors, push in chairs, have tact as to what is appropriate conversation, and to be aware of how the lady feels about her environment. Now this might seem to some as being archaic and reinforcing a patriarchal society, but that's just an over complication of something simple. Every woman is a father's princess, so she should be treated with the respect and dignity of one.
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This actually happened to me once. One time in class during grade 8 this girl tried to ask me out in the middle of a lesson by passing notes to me. She was really tomboyish, and this was the same girl that often gets into fights with other people in school, mostly guys . Even though I suck at asking people out and my dad pushes me to get a girlfriend, I rejected her since that's the last type of person I would ever want to go out with. I don't find dating very interesting really.

I heard the rumors that a lot of girls thought i was cute, but thinking about that moment now, damn that was weird...
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Posted 7/19/12

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well in my 15 years on this planet i have only seen it happen once, its a really rare thing that happens, there's a higher chance of winning the lottery, getting hit by thunder 2 times in the same day than seeing a girl ask a guy out


Had this happen to me at least seven times, but shown no interest at all. Considering I had been stuck in childhood depression for the better or for the worse, eighteen years and also six years being heavily stressed and depressed.

At any rate, no-one is going to go out with someone, that otherwise is permanently stuck in there Bipolar II five year old state.
Posted 7/19/12 , edited 7/19/12

kajisawa wrote:


marcel20 wrote:


kajisawa wrote:


Men are like that totally have a self gratifying ego when you asked them they seems to view you as nah your so easy and if you do not mind them if they hit on you or court you they will most probably said your playing hard to get. geee well findings suggest that men only like it when you approached them if they like have a feeling for you also or they think you look hot and pretty besides that the hell with them hey they are men, things that will not kill them will only make them MORE MEN so let them try or die hard approaching us girls. Us female will just play it cool and believe me it feels good when a man ask you out and court you specially if he is sincere and not some one hit wonder boom i out here after like i got what i want player type


Yes your right it does feel good when were approached by women...mostly because its not too common and it does boost our ego when it happens, but like you said you like the feeling of men approaching you..you are a very cute woman, so i' m sure a lot of guys hit on you all the time. Isn't it OK for us guys to feel that just once in a blue moon? not every day or month for that matter, but just once in a while. If I ever met you and you asked me out I'd say yes, not only because your attractive, but also while on a date I can find out what your really about and if your some one that can draw my interest past your looks. Also if we met and I asked you out...when you seen me face to face you would feel nothing but sincerity.


It depends though... I like the accidental meeting or some one introduce me to him or the other way around so pretty much i am not a fan or not into a guy that approaches me


Lol your not into a guy that approaches you? I find that to be cute because you never know when the one for you will find you and sweep you off your feet. Also being set up by friends is cool too because the already know what you want. Thanks for ur reply.
Posted 7/19/12 , edited 7/19/12

Merkys wrote:

I'm old school. A man should respect a lady enough to take some initiative and pursue getting to know her. Also, many men don't know how to deal with the advances of a lady, especially if they are untoward or undesired. In the same breath, men should pay for the meal, open doors, push in chairs, have tact as to what is appropriate conversation, and to be aware of how the lady feels about her environment. Now this might seem to some as being archaic and reinforcing a patriarchal society, but that's just an over complication of something simple. Every woman is a father's princess, so she should be treated with the respect and dignity of one.


I agree and totally respect your reply, but only if she is ok with the idea of treating him as a king also. As long as a guy hold her in high regard she should do the same for him. Also a lot has changed so that women go after what they want rather than lose possible love interest to an society that doesn't accept her advances. It is very true that some men won't know what to do with such advances, but the more women ask the more accustomed we will become.
Posted 7/19/12

marcel20 wrote:


kajisawa wrote:


marcel20 wrote:


kajisawa wrote:


Men are like that totally have a self gratifying ego when you asked them they seems to view you as nah your so easy and if you do not mind them if they hit on you or court you they will most probably said your playing hard to get. geee well findings suggest that men only like it when you approached them if they like have a feeling for you also or they think you look hot and pretty besides that the hell with them hey they are men, things that will not kill them will only make them MORE MEN so let them try or die hard approaching us girls. Us female will just play it cool and believe me it feels good when a man ask you out and court you specially if he is sincere and not some one hit wonder boom i out here after like i got what i want player type


Yes your right it does feel good when were approached by women...mostly because its not too common and it does boost our ego when it happens, but like you said you like the feeling of men approaching you..you are a very cute woman, so i' m sure a lot of guys hit on you all the time. Isn't it OK for us guys to feel that just once in a blue moon? not every day or month for that matter, but just once in a while. If I ever met you and you asked me out I'd say yes, not only because your attractive, but also while on a date I can find out what your really about and if your some one that can draw my interest past your looks. Also if we met and I asked you out...when you seen me face to face you would feel nothing but sincerity.


It depends though... I like the accidental meeting or some one introduce me to him or the other way around so pretty much i am not a fan or not into a guy that approaches me


Lol your not into a guy that approaches you? I find that to be cute because you never know when the one for you will find you and sweep you off your feet. Also being set up by friends is cool too because the already know what you want. Thanks for ur reply.


If his really the one for me; He do not need to do silly gestures or be superhero entrance to sweep me off my feet. By just looking at him and he looks at me, that is enough for when a female likes the guy instantly that is it. So far, Guys do not know this or most of them. When at first glance she likes you, your already in her life now the gesture part is like a foreplay for a promising happy future to come. The ultimate part that a guy can sweep a woman's feet off the ground is when you wait for her in the altar and she'll said i do that's the first the second will be 20 to 30 years pass that you'll be a good husband and a father and that is not simple.

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Posted 7/20/12

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Would help me a lot. I can tell when a girl is flirting with some guy, but there have been many instances where someone was flirting with me but I was totally not getting the clue. There was this one time however where the girl made it very obvious but I was in a position where it was VERY inappropriate for me to proceed.


that happen to me once this woman was flirting with me like 100% FLIRTING!! with her husband next to her at my job...I wanted to disappear so bad that day.


Wow. Mine was a minor and I was in my early to mid twenties. I would say VERY inappropriate.
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Posted 7/20/12
funny thing is i've had way more girls come and tell me they like me then me going up to the girls and asking them out.
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Meh, I've given up on dating to be perfectly honest. I'd rather just have a good time. Everyone is friend zone for me and most people prefer that. It's more fun that way IMHO. You get to be yourself around others and enjoy the company without having outrageous expectations or following some sort of rigid dating formality. If something develops beyond that, it will be 10x better than that formal "asking out" or "getting asked out" because you are friends first and lovers second. This has only happened to me once and I was very happy for a time. My only mistake was letting her move in... NEVER let your GF move in! Wives only! GOT THAT?
Posted 7/20/12

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funny thing is i've had way more girls come and tell me they like me then me going up to the girls and asking them out.


Nice, I hope this rubs off on other women.
Posted 7/20/12

kajisawa wrote:


marcel20 wrote:


kajisawa wrote:


marcel20 wrote:


kajisawa wrote:


Men are like that totally have a self gratifying ego when you asked them they seems to view you as nah your so easy and if you do not mind them if they hit on you or court you they will most probably said your playing hard to get. geee well findings suggest that men only like it when you approached them if they like have a feeling for you also or they think you look hot and pretty besides that the hell with them hey they are men, things that will not kill them will only make them MORE MEN so let them try or die hard approaching us girls. Us female will just play it cool and believe me it feels good when a man ask you out and court you specially if he is sincere and not some one hit wonder boom i out here after like i got what i want player type


Yes your right it does feel good when were approached by women...mostly because its not too common and it does boost our ego when it happens, but like you said you like the feeling of men approaching you..you are a very cute woman, so i' m sure a lot of guys hit on you all the time. Isn't it OK for us guys to feel that just once in a blue moon? not every day or month for that matter, but just once in a while. If I ever met you and you asked me out I'd say yes, not only because your attractive, but also while on a date I can find out what your really about and if your some one that can draw my interest past your looks. Also if we met and I asked you out...when you seen me face to face you would feel nothing but sincerity.


It depends though... I like the accidental meeting or some one introduce me to him or the other way around so pretty much i am not a fan or not into a guy that approaches me


Lol your not into a guy that approaches you? I find that to be cute because you never know when the one for you will find you and sweep you off your feet. Also being set up by friends is cool too because the already know what you want. Thanks for ur reply.


If his really the one for me; He do not need to do silly gestures or be superhero entrance to sweep me off my feet. By just looking at him and he looks at me, that is enough for when a female likes the guy instantly that is it. So far, Guys do not know this or most of them. When at first glance she likes you, your already in her life now the gesture part is like a foreplay for a promising happy future to come. The ultimate part that a guy can sweep a woman's feet off the ground is when you wait for her in the altar and she'll said i do that's the first the second will be 20 to 30 years pass that you'll be a good husband and a father and that is not simple.



I can understand that you like the natural approach....I don't mind that way of starting a relationship its very romantic and simple. As far as the marriage and being a good father and husband I agree....I look for the same in a woman I.e. good wife and mother.
Posted 7/20/12

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Meh, I've given up on dating to be perfectly honest. I'd rather just have a good time. Everyone is friend zone for me and most people prefer that. It's more fun that way IMHO. You get to be yourself around others and enjoy the company without having outrageous expectations or following some sort of rigid dating formality. If something develops beyond that, it will be 10x better than that formal "asking out" or "getting asked out" because you are friends first and lovers s, econd. This has only happened to me once and I was very happy for a time. My only mistake was letting her move in... NEVER let your GF move in! Wives only! GOT THAT?


Lol....nice reply I never had a girlfriend move in yet, but dude your only 27 so don't give up on dating. Its cool to take breaks for yourself...because I know I do to be alone for a while, but its always good to pick it back up.(that is if that is what you really want but just given up on).
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Posted 7/20/12

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Meh, I've given up on dating to be perfectly honest. I'd rather just have a good time. Everyone is friend zone for me and most people prefer that. It's more fun that way IMHO. You get to be yourself around others and enjoy the company without having outrageous expectations or following some sort of rigid dating formality. If something develops beyond that, it will be 10x better than that formal "asking out" or "getting asked out" because you are friends first and lovers s, econd. This has only happened to me once and I was very happy for a time. My only mistake was letting her move in... NEVER let your GF move in! Wives only! GOT THAT?


Lol....nice reply I never had a girlfriend move in yet, but dude your only 27 so don't give up on dating. Its cool to take breaks for yourself...because I know I do to be alone for a while, but its always good to pick it back up.(that is if that is what you really want but just given up on).


Thanks for the kind words. I wouldn't say I have completely given up. I would say that I have toned down my enthusiasm for finding a mate in order to be content for the time being. I am a true believer in enjoying that which makes you happy for as long as it will last. There are others who truly enjoy being in a committed formal relationship, and if that makes them happy, I wish them the best!
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If there was a guy I was honestly interested in, I'd absolutely make the first move.
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