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What if women went up to guys they liked rather than waiting to get asked out?
Posted 7/14/12
The man is usually expected to make the first move, but it doesn't mean a woman can't. Often times, men can't tell when a woman is flirting.
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Posted 7/14/12
Hmm. Being the stereotypical cave-dwelling pale skinned zombie that I am, I don't ask many girls out. Every time I do, they seem to perceive me as a creepy stalker .. despite having done absolutely nothing wrong. Given that, from first hand experience, I seem to be a bother to those girls I try to flirt with on even the most basic level, I see it as being best just to let them make the move, if they so desire.

If I actually became infatuated by another girl, I'd give it another shot, but that just hasn't happened in recent times.

If there actually are girls who become infatuated by guys and never say anything to them until it's too late .. then they're fools. That's not the guy's fault that said guy is oblivious to their existence.

It's just a symptom of Princess mental Syndrome.
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Posted 7/14/12
Haha i'd rather a girl ask me out
then for me to have to do it myself.
It would make things alot more easier.
Posted 7/14/12
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Plenty of girls are like that, you just gotta be worth that effort.
Posted 7/14/12

Shrapnel893 wrote:


westnyorai wrote:

Girls need to do this a lot more. Even at my age I suck at asking a girl out. lol


Maybe the girl is in the same predicament, be the one to step forward. Time doesn't wait.


That is very true...women are sometimes more insecure than us guys in this regard because they know the guys will do the asking anyway , so that responsibility of going up to some one you don't completely know and ask on a date isn't there.
Posted 7/14/12

NothingLikeYou wrote:


marcel20 wrote:

I find that women who are interested in guys just kinda flirt and wait for the guy to make the move, but what if women just once in a while took a chance at it. Getting the guy she want's with out missing a possible love interest and settling for another guy than the one she wants...just because he missed or had other things on his mind to see her very mild advances?


I have had a few girls approach me and ask me out. It's flattering but also a little insulting - I wonder what makes me so approachable. Why do they feel comfortable enough to come on to me and why are they so sure they can have me?

I've known many guys better looking than me who have never been asked out but I'm on number 3 or 4. Perhaps it is the same situation as the shy girl post I commented on the other day... I must be less intimidating and easier to talk to. My girlfriend does say I have very kind eyes. :-P


Well that's one way to look at it, but like you said maybe your just very approachable.
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Posted 7/14/12
hehe with me it's quite the oposit as to what i've seen, my "childhood friend" i guess you could call her, as we've been best friends since we were 4, has asked almost every man she's gone out with out herself, and beleive me it was a lot, during highscool, she had a new boyfriend every month, ok so that makes her sound a bit bad, but there's no point sugarcoating it, i think i was the only guy to ask her out, and i as her childhood friend, have been rejected.
Posted 7/14/12

lippedlove wrote:

because we've had it pounded into our heads for years that we have to follow stupid dating rituals or else guys will think we're desperate and slutty


yea if only we dispelled that notion the world would be a better place for both men and women, because she will most the time get the guy she wants and the guy's don't always have to put themselves on the line.
Posted 7/14/12

SlimShadyDogg wrote:

Oh how i wish girls would do this. Im 18 and still cant properly ask out a girl. I even have a hard time talking to them unless we're friends (which is hard because you have to talk to them to become friends, then you get friend zoned).
Im kind of the shy type so it really sucks



I'm kinda the shy type too more so when I was your age...just be a little more brave in the beginning and tell her how you feel about her..trust me coming from your sempai. A lot of the time she will give you a chance at her, but even If she definitely like's you she will almost never ask, and that's why I asked this question. there were soo many girl's into me, but around (acceptable dating are in my family)16-21 I was too shy to ask and there were soo many obvious times...just go for it dude.
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Posted 7/14/12
if girls asked more often then the world would be so much more iteresting
Posted 7/14/12

lord0bacon wrote:

Because black holes would start forming everywhere. No one wants that.


nice, you make the world possibly being destroyed sound normal
Posted 7/14/12 , edited 7/15/12

AshRandom wrote:


marcel20 wrote:

I find that women who are interested in guys just kinda flirt and wait for the guy to make the move, but what if women just once in a while took a chance at it. Getting the guy she want's with out missing a possible love interest and settling for another guy than the one she wants...just because he missed or had other things on his mind to see her very mild advances?


Simple. If the female makes a bold first move, she gets him. Seducing a man is easy.

But that doesn't get her what she really wants, which is proof that she is desired by him.

It can also be argued that it also creates a different relationship dynamic, one where the female is (or feels) less empowered.


LoL ash it's like you know me, but having the power is soo refreshing trust me I have actually been asked 4 or 5 times and only said yes to 2 of them and yes it kinda sucked for them to get rejected, but as a guy its just a required risk especially at 29 ya get used to it kinda-sorta. Also does she really have to know that he already desires her...I understand the mechanic's behind it, but in the end isn't it all just playing it a little too safe? I mean isn't finding the one worth the risk?
Posted 7/14/12

Aokidanza wrote:

Girls should take more initiative. Even though I'm a girl myself, it annoys the hell outta me to see my friends pining after some guy they'll never have the guts to confess to. "Oh, he should ask me out if I just keep flirting with him." Bullarky. Then they always get upset when he ends up dating someone else. Suck it up and make a move.

And girls also have the nasty habit of asking their friends to drop the guy hints for them. I'm all for helping out a friend, but that is just really none of my business and I don't appreciate being used.

With that being said, I do know some other girls who are very proactive in pursuing their love interest... My one friend constantly claims one of our guy friends for herself, in his presence; asks him when they'll start dating; and whenever someone asks if they are going out she'll say "Not yet~!" She, like, plans their life out together and everything. It kinda creeps the poor dude out (as well it should...).


wow your 16?? your very wise and the "taking the initiative"(at least sometimes) part is exactly what I'm saying, maybe not with every single guy she like's, but probably 35% of the time especially when it's some one she really likes. Your friend probably might want to turn it down a couple of notches...since she already made her feelings known it would be best to let him make his choice, because if she keeps pushing him he might start feeling a little emasculated or stocked. thanks for your comment.
Posted 7/14/12

Fear-and-Hope wrote:

The man is usually expected to make the first move, but it doesn't mean a woman can't. Often times, men can't tell when a woman is flirting.


Exactly one of my points...some times she may seem to be just a nice person whom you don't know is flirting with you or she's not soo good at flirting.
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