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If you can change anything about yourself right now what would it be?
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This flawed body.

Time to extract my memories...
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gaara579 wrote:

Not having seizures for sure...


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Posted 9/16/12
More self motivation, force myself to care about things I know I should care about.
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Winterfells wrote:

Hmm, low self-esteem and negative thoughts can really impede personal progress.

Do you have low confidence because of how people treat you? Or is it due to your own outlook/thoughts (i.e. pessimism or belittling yourself mentally)?


Both, actually. How I've been treated in the past, all the way back to childhood, and current outlook and thoughts not being the greatest. I believe that I've been conditioned by society to be as I am today. Whether or not there's some kind of master plan behind it all, I don't know, but the results speak for themselves.


Winterfells wrote:

Not being confident will probably result in less success, and less success makes you more unhappy, which makes you even less confident. It's a vicious cycle.

Ever took any drastic steps to improving it? Through drastic lifestyle/mentality changes, self-help books, or counseling?


Yep, it's like a black hole, a descending spiral sucking me into the darkness, and some days it feels like I've already crossed the event horizon.

Nope, I haven't taken any drastic steps. One of the things that you lose in this kind of viscous cycle is the will to fight. As you loose self-worth it makes fighting to make things better seem, well, worthless. I could try to make a drastic lifestyle change, but it already feels like I'm balancing on a knife's edge and any attempt to change anything will only result in things getting worse. Haven't tried any self-help books and counseling sounds expensive.

Posted 9/16/12

Kaiser-Windhelm wrote:


gaara579 wrote:

Not having seizures for sure...


I second this.


You have epilepsy also?
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I see, that's a lot of baggage to have to carry around with you. It's hard not to remember the past, but it's a shame when you let it hold you back from really enjoying the present and building for the future.

For what it's worth, I think if you really put yourself out of your comfort zone and worked really hard at doing activities that boost your self-esteem, you'll be able to recover fully. It's definitely a rut, but very few battles are won without some discomfort and sacrifice.

The problem is if you go too long without fixing your negative self-image, eventually you'll be bogged down with regret. And that is arguably even worse that low confidence.
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gaara579 wrote:


Kaiser-Windhelm wrote:


gaara579 wrote:

Not having seizures for sure...


I second this.


You have epilepsy also?


Yes. Nice to see that I'm not alone here (not saying that it's good that you have it, or anything..)
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Winterfells wrote:

I see, that's a lot of baggage to have to carry around with you. It's hard not to remember the past, but it's a shame when you let it hold you back from really enjoying the present and building for the future.

For what it's worth, I think if you really put yourself out of your comfort zone and worked really hard at doing activities that boost your self-esteem, you'll be able to recover fully. It's definitely a rut, but very few battles are won without some discomfort and sacrifice.

The problem is if you go too long without fixing your negative self-image, eventually you'll be bogged down with regret. And that is arguably even worse that low confidence.


True, but when it comes to trying to figure out how to fix things I tend to draw blanks. I get the general idea, but when coming up with specifics I can never figure out exactly what to do. For example, when someone says "go out and have fun" I'm like, "doing what?" or "where?" or "with who?" I know it sounds stupid, but I think I've forgotten how to have fun over the years. I'm not even sure what my interests and passions are anymore. I wish there was a simple one-size-fits-all guide to how to go about doing this. I guess it's just not that simple and varies from person to person too much to be practical.

I already regret all of the things that I've probably missed out on in life up to now.

Any tips on how to accelerate past the speed of light in order to escape the event horizon of a black hole?
Posted 9/16/12
I would give my self the ability of hacking so I can hack CR and change this bull shit avatar size limit.
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Pyralis1 wrote:

Any tips on how to accelerate past the speed of light in order to escape the event horizon of a black hole?


Hmm, well I could give you some advice, but I think a lot of people would disagree with me (I'll come off as a total monstrous douchebag but whatever).

Don't live life with trepidation. People hold themselves back thinking about too many variables. They give too much fuck about what other people might think or view them. They themselves give too much thought into how they seem THEMSELVES. So just let all that fly out the window. Your preconceptions.

Enjoying life and feeling free are great ways to the road of recovery. Think about it. If "being better" and "improving" feels like a chore or responsibility, eventually you'll crash, stop trying, and revert back to the "old self."

Make it fun, make it honest, and when things are fun and don't feel like a job, that's sustainable. It's like a person trying to lose weight. If they hate exercise and hate the diet foods they're eating, eventually they'll cave in to their old habits and gain the weight back.

But if they find a type of exercise they actually have fun (say they enjoy ultimate frisbee and join a team) and they change their eating habits to something they like (they love stir-fried vegetables) it'll be sustainable.

Specific things you can do to increase your self-esteem and just enjoy life:

- Don't be afraid of telling people the truth, what you think about them. If someone says something you disagree with them, let them know. If they're mistreating you or give you a slight, tell them to apologize. You'll respect yourself more, and with this respect you'll grow to have better self-esteem. Avoiding conflict, though less inherently painful, actually will make you think of yourself as a pushover and make it worse for you.

- Can't get into a steady relationship right now and have negative image about your sexual appeal and attractiveness? Hire an escort. You're helping someone make a living, who fucking cares about societal values when it comes to a hella old profession, and something natural like sex and the human body. Once you get sex past you, even if you pay for it, and have sex regularly, it becomes less of a big deal that hangs over your head. "Oh woe is me, I can't get laid, yada yada blah blah." Even if the woman is hired by you, physical sexual contact still has positive effects on your mind and it won't really distinguish a difference. Eventually you'll build it up to a point where you can more comfortably interact with women out there and get into a relationship.

- Even if you're not a rich guy, don't be afraid of spending it on stuff and activities that you are interested in and enjoy. So what if you're saving money? Will you take any of that with you when you die? Don't even talk about saving it for your kids, one step at a time, let's not get ahead of ourselves. Point is, too many people hold back and live life hesitantly, whether it comes to sex, money, hobbies, career advancement, and it just fucks them up in the end.

- I could write more but I'm getting lazy. So I'll just put a picture here.

Posted 9/16/12 , edited 9/16/12

Kaiser-Windhelm wrote:


gaara579 wrote:


Kaiser-Windhelm wrote:


gaara579 wrote:

Not having seizures for sure...


I second this.


You have epilepsy also?


Yes. Nice to see that I'm not alone here (not saying that it's good that you have it, or anything..)


Yes it sucks exspeally since the doctor said it will never go away. And I had one 3 weeks ago. Accualy I never known anyone online with it either lol.....
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Posted 9/16/12
I'd switch out my liver.
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Posted 9/16/12
changed my carrer... -.- arquitecture... for somthing more easy to get money...
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Yeah, I have a similar problem. I just wish I could drive again.
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Posted 9/17/12
Either my intelligence or my weight. I'm already rather smart so I could probably get away with weight, but being smarter yet does have it draws . . .
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