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Never had a girlfriend...
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Posted 10/6/12

Hintkin wrote:


Winterfells wrote:

I've really only had 1, maybe 2, serious girlfriends. Relationships that went beyond just the physical aspects.

I usually drift away when girls try to get too close to me.


Are you scared of women?


Not scared, just some commitment and trust issues on my part.
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Never had one. I'm not a good looking guy. I'm quite ugly in fact. I don't attract ladies.
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I wish I had that "special someone" to spend time/my life with and I do look for her, but sometimes I just get tired of dealing with it and stop looking for a while, like what I'm doing now, then I start looking again. I think the reason I'm single is:
I'm not the best looking guy, which affects my confidence.
I battle with a complex mess of emotional/ psychological (same thing?) issues that result in virtualy non-existant self esteem.
I have some opposite interests that I think makes it difficult to find a common ground in terms of shared interest.
I'm a very measured person, I'm not very spontaneous......
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You can't expect a relationship to grow without having fought and recovered with your significant other. Dismissing this hassle as "teenage drama" would be ignoring the fact that EVERY relationship has its ups and downs. Couples who do not fight are not couples. Yes there are relationships that are extremely questionable due to the quality of it but every relationship no matter how mundane still holds something of value big or small.
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You're not alone, trust me lol
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LOL I'm not trying to be a jerk if you have um...erhurm different preferences but clever!
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I see.. I wonder what happened.
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I thought this thread would be interesting... Guess I was right.

I think the hardest thing for people when it comes to how they view relationships is finding the medium. They meet someone, get entangled in thoughts of love, and then are willing and eager to give up everything they sought in life so that, if it doesn't work out, they have no motivation left. And if that takes place a couple of times or their feelings were strong enough, they go to the other extremity and give up on love all together.

I haven't had a girlfriend in 6 years. I've rejected people and been rejected during that time, and while it certainly leaves a little discouragement to be felt, it's certainly not something I dwell on or think I will dwell on in the future. I'll continue to search for someone I can spend my life with, but I'm too happy to be alive to mope around because I haven't found her.
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You could say I've never been in a relationship before... not the most intimate since I haven't done any of those deeds. I feel guilty for not but come on, a real guy who loves you will wait and peer pressure will not persuade me! I've ended them around 3 months mark... cuz I'm just a b**** for leading them on I'm just kind of unstable wishy washy and picky with these things. I've seen divorces and I've read too many scenes and made excuses. Next time I find a guy I'll just let myself be free of consequences and just go with the heart maybe. I find that, that not being able to take risks really held me back for things that I could have done and could have had fun. but I'm not going to go all the way for some guy that's not worth it <-hypocrite right there... Maybe some scouting aka stalking first I think waiting isn't going to cut it. You can't achieve anything if you don't strike first.

Oh yeah. My standard is a handsome bad boy with blue eyes and maybe locks of black hair but he stays on that line of legal/illegal ness, intelligent, funny, caring, loyal, oh and be muscular but not muscle man preferably clumsy at times... not to forget to do dinner every other day and other chores... SEE WHAT BOOKS AND FANTASY DID TO ME? THIS WOMAN IS CRAZY! BUT I'M ME. PLEASE DON'T FORGET THE POINTLESS ARGUING/BANTERING and the cherry on top afterward ;D I don't mind playing video games as long as I don't lose all the time and he has to be a TRUE gentleman. He will open doors sometimes and give me a coat but most of all not raise his voice nor fist and be responsible for his actions at least 75% of the time. He will tell me what he hates about me and be nice about it. He WILL NOT CUSS in front of me or in the presence of women. If he calls me a b**** he's probably going to have to pay for that by doing chores. I will respect him and do the same things that I just said. I think the woman holding the door for the guy is pretty cool as well ahaha oh and he will be the best dad to the kids ever. (I don't believe in hitting children for discipline so none of that )

P.S guys- that's all that (80% of the)women think about, and yeah it's CRAZY. But when you think about it in reality it's not much to ask.

Oh yeah. Relationships also take time, trust, money, effort to be balanced with good and the bad... That's my advice... it's to just finish school, head on to post-secondary, establish a career for my future family and then I can maybe think about meeting/stalking a guy
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I've had some very one-sided relationships...i.e. being the one who cares more.

I would probably say the same about my current relationship, almost full stop.

I'm starting to wonder if things will ever really change for me. I've even been assertive and open.
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Have had opportunities,but work is to heavy. I will tell and i bet not a single person can out work me. past 3 months and the present.
ANIMELS
i have over 20 horses, 2dogs, 1 cat, and a baby deer that i have to feed and tendto every day

WORK
Dug a 10 foot well by hand without machinery
Currently digging another now 23 ft
Building a 70 yard wind fence 10ft tall
Remodeling a barn
moved 15 tons of square haybales

INJURIES
broke knuckle
chipped tooth
jabbed by rock


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Hintkin wrote:

I see.. I wonder what happened.


It's a long and bitter tale of tragedy and tears.

I buried it a long time ago.
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Never been to these forums but first time for everything I suppose.

I've been single mostly because of three reasons:

1. Most of the girls I know just liked to sleep around and I want a serious relationship rather than just some one night stand.
2. I'm just really awkward when I talk to women.
3. Just some self-esteem issues.

Every one of my friends keeps telling me that if I keep looking for a relationship, I will end up with nothing, but I don't feel like that's true. On one hand, I told myself that if I can't get a girlfriend before my college years end, I will be alone for a very long time. On the other hand, I intend to meet the standards I set for myself by looking for women. So in a sense, I won't give up even though I have given up if that makes any sort of sense.

It's not like I didn't have any crushes in high school or something. I was in love with a girl in HS because in elementary, I was bullied to the point where I didn't want to live. In middle school, I had almost given up on my life when I met this girl. She helped me believe in myself. I had gotten a group of close friends because of her. The more I got to know her, the more I fell in love with her. It was in high school that I finally told her that I love her, but she essentially ridiculed me for being unromantic when I had given her the exact opposite. I hated her afterwards, but I hated myself even more because I honestly thought there was something wrong with me. I became somewhat cold and heartless towards everyone I knew for the rest of high school. I graduated with a tight-knit group of friends, but I knew my friendships in high school won't last very long afterwards.

That experience still kind of affects me because it drives to find a girl whom I can share my heart with, but it's pretty freaking hard! I try to talk to women as much as possible, but I get way too nervous to the point where either look like I have a scary look on my face or I talk too much. It usually makes me look pretty bad to the point where my friends call me desperate. Honestly, I'm more determined than I am desperate. Putting on some slick sunglasses that I have makes me feel a little more confident with women for some reason,

So that's my story and I'm sticking to it.
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I'm not great at conversations and my replies are described as strange at best. i can never start one unless i had a genuine question. otherwise im generally mute while fidgeting and looking for a distration.

i haven't put any real effort in finding a girlfriend because i panic under direct pressure of uncertain situations, i have no idea how to even start a relationship, and i fear that, like the rest of my life, i would go through fazes of interests from overbearing to ignoring, and i don't really want anyone to put up with my easily distracted mind.

i also believe i will overreact to minor bumps in the relationship and overly make anyone that would be with me annoyed. i can be obnoxious.

fear of failure may also be a factor, but cant really say because i never really tried.
Posted 10/7/12

Winterfells wrote:


Hintkin wrote:

I see.. I wonder what happened.


It's a long and bitter tale of tragedy and tears.

I buried it a long time ago.


I don't mind if you'll tell me.. We can talk about that through PM.. If you don't wanna talk about it, then I respect that.
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