how to say no to a friend
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Posted 8/7/12
I know I have turned the forum into my personal advice column or whatever but I really just want to ask.
I do not know how to deal with this little problem. Well, its about my friend who is a lesbian, a close friend of mine actually, as friends we talk about her relationships with her girlfriends. I don't know what happened last, last week but on the day of my other friend's birthday. The four of them decided to put the prank on me and this lesbian friend of mine started calling me her girlfriend. I know its just a joke so I let it pass.

First of all, I do not have anything against the third sex, especially lesbians but the joke is taking a little bit too far. She keeps telling all of our classmates and instructors that I'm her girlfriend. Granted it is said in a light manner but it kind of makes me feel uncomfortable. Especially when she starts calling me by her new pet name to me which is 'baby'. I want to tell her to stop this joke but I'm afraid she will take it the wrong way and even think I'm assuming by thinking that she likes me when its obviously a joke. I'm tired being the center of all the couple jokes and frankly I can't handle her all the time being all touchy-feely, invading my private space and even staring at me.

How do you say no to a friend?
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Maybe she truly does like you more than a friend, and she's persistently joking about it because she's too scared to approach you upfront and is afraid of rejection.

She's probably just monitoring your reaction to her "jests" and seeing if you are reciprocating any interest at all.

There's also the possibility that she doesn't like you, but that she's not tactful enough to realize her joke has gone too far and it isn't funny for you anymore.

You should just tell her in person, but privately, that you feel the joke is going a bit too far and that as a friend you'd appreciate it if she stopped.
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I've been thinking that lately but I just couldn't get the time.
Wish me luck, I hope she won't be mad and we'll still be friends.
It's hard for me because they have known me as the "person unaffected by anything or anyone"
and besides they are my only close group in class
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xhuizini wrote:

I've been thinking that lately but I just couldn't get the time.
Wish me luck, I hope she won't be mad and we'll still be friends.
It's hard for me because they have known me as the "person unaffected by anything or anyone"
and besides they are my only close group in class


*wishes you luck that it's gonna go great :D*
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Posted 8/7/12

Tastycakey wrote:


xhuizini wrote:

I've been thinking that lately but I just couldn't get the time.
Wish me luck, I hope she won't be mad and we'll still be friends.
It's hard for me because they have known me as the "person unaffected by anything or anyone"
and besides they are my only close group in class


*wishes you luck that it's gonna go great :D*


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xhuizini wrote:

I know I have turned the forum into my personal advice column or whatever but I really just want to ask.
I do not know how to deal with this little problem. Well, its about my friend who is a lesbian, a close friend of mine actually, as friends we talk about her relationships with her girlfriends. I don't know what happened last, last week but on the day of my other friend's birthday. The four of them decided to put the prank on me and this lesbian friend of mine started calling me her girlfriend. I know its just a joke so I let it pass.

First of all, I do not have anything against the third sex, especially lesbians but the joke is taking a little bit too far. She keeps telling all of our classmates and instructors that I'm her girlfriend. Granted it is said in a light manner but it kind of makes me feel uncomfortable. Especially when she starts calling me by her new pet name to me which is 'baby'. I want to tell her to stop this joke but I'm afraid she will take it the wrong way and even think I'm assuming by thinking that she likes me when its obviously a joke. I'm tired being the center of all the couple jokes and frankly I can't handle her all the time being all touchy-feely, invading my private space and even staring at me.


There is a thread for personal advice. It'll be better for you to discuss your problem there.
http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-1099/personal-advice

http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-772177/to-be-a-teacher-or-not
^ I will keep this open since it has some good content. Note that personal threads are not allowed. Please read through the forum rules before creating a thread next time.


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