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Romance, how does it exist? What is happening to " love " today?
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Posted 8/20/12
Love just another whored out word in today's society.

"I love you forever and ever and with all my heart. You are the one. I die without you!"

Next week they've broken up and are "loving" someone else.

Lather, rinse, repeat cycle.

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makorufus5000 wrote:

What is love?! Baby don't hurt me... Don't hurt me... No more!

argh.. ya beat me to it.

i think people are generally more impetuous nowadays.. just acting on raw emotion, rather than sincerely getting to know their significant other.

such is life.
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Posted 8/20/12

rotisserie wrote:


makorufus5000 wrote:

What is love?! Baby don't hurt me... Don't hurt me... No more!

argh.. ya beat me to it.

i think people are generally more impetuous nowadays.. just acting on raw emotion, rather than sincerely getting to know their significant other.

such is life.


lol

=P
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I don't say "I love you" to anyone unless I've known them for quite some time. It is thrown around; but, when I say I love my friends, I do mean it. I say it to very few though. Now, a boyfriend for example, I'd have to be completely comfortable with saying I love you. I am careful about that, however.
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Posted 8/21/12
People like pleasure more
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Posted 8/22/12
romance is there. just find someone romantic
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Posted 8/22/12
I'm a monster that only loves itself.
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Posted 8/22/12
The relationships depicted in anime, literature, movies, and indeed any form of media are versions that I like to classify as 'idealistic'. Each example one could name in any genre of media is the romanticized version of the actual event. The reason for this, sadly enough, is not to depict reality but rather to captivate an audience and engender an emotional response to the characters involved. Things that tug at your heart, move you with their sickeningly sweet utterances, and so on are merely contrived to inspire a response in you. They are by no means and in no way windows into a world that actually exists. In other words, it's all for the sake of making money.

Now, looking at society today, the concept of love and romance has shifted wildly from what would have been considered love and romance a hundred years ago. Rather than taking the time to get to know someone as was almost a tradition in years gone by, we base our pairings on carnal emotions, physical attraction, and a mutual willingness to fornicate first and ask what someone's name is later. I myself, in my younger years, fell into this stereotype so I'm not just picking on other people. The fact is, society is now more focused on instant gratification than it is on the cultivation of a meaningful and lasting experience. Why work at something when you can just go out there and get whatever it is you think you want right now. 99 times out of 100, we don't honestly know what we want when we rush into relationships and they end in failure.

Love, romance, and relationships in general, aren't the fantasies we see in the media, but they can come close or even eclipse them if we work at them and give them the time and attention they require. I know that's not the most uplifting answer but it's honest.
Posted 8/22/12
I like the idea of romance.. although, my idea of it seems to be more 'fictional & fairy tale' based y'know?

I have yet to fall in love or even experience it as far as I'm aware.
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The very possibility of romance is there for anyone willing enough to reach for it ( Or brave enough? )
liking someone bears the consequence as being in love with someone ( you end up getting hurt in the end )
but hey just like infamous saying of the S.A.S " Those who dares wins right? " if your feelings for someone
is that strong or borders enough on ROMANCE then it's best give it a go.

You know how it is right?
BROKEN BONES MEND WHILE REGRET STAYS WITH YOU FOREVER...
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Posted 8/23/12
Strange as this sounds this forum post gives me hope that I am not the only hopeless romantic in this world. Truthfully I do believe that deep romantic love like that in anime does exist. The most common issue since the dawn of time has been lust vs real love. Biologically love does not work as fast as lust in the procreation of our race so it is only natural that we see lust much more often. That is not to say that lust is bad, quite the contrary lust is usually what brings people together in the first place. As a result romance sadly usually takes a back seat in the process. It also doesn't help that society generally seems to be aimed at the outside and less of the inside.

Romance as portrayed in anime can seem a bit idealistic, I mean hell it is the creation of a single mind in most cases, but stories with developing love, love at first sight, and even love through random encounters does happen. As Nanaya108 posted, the restraint in experiencing such usually comes down to the risk tied to the emotions. You really have to understand that feelings feel haha. People are fragile, but amazing things can happen if one dares to give it a shot. It is a great feeling when you come to appreciate just how rare and awesome someone is in the context of the world around you, and even a greater feeling when that same regard is given back to you.
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its true i usually like girls who ive known and we have a connection and it just builds and then we both realize we like each other.though a few times i get weak and just lie and say i have feelings because i know she likes me and then we can do stuff.also i never use the word love unless i truly love the person if i dont love them i call them best friend.though im romantic and never like to be in a relationship unless i have a true connection and we known eachother and have a past if i just am in lust ill just try to get some and then leave her
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Well. I've never been interested in having a relationship, but that might in fact be because I'm a romantic at heart, and I hate the idea of settling. The biggest reason is because I don't feel like I'm at a place in life where I could honestly handle and nurture a relationship.

I have never had a romantic relationship with anyone and I plan to keep it that way until I feel I could really invest myself in one. But now and again things happen that give one hope that your life could have a "Hollywood love story" element to it.

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I believe it does exist. For the very patient few. Firstly "Love" is not a word used loosely, I've only used it with one of my lovers. Even as an elementary school kid when I had my kiddie boyfriends I never said the famous three words. However "romance" is hyped up. Yes even I myself have fantasies of me being a graduate student and one of my older classmates sweeping me off my feet and "caring me across the threshold" so to speak. However the reality is that the whole flowers, and gifts, and brave acts of valor we see in countless anime and other media are shallow. True romance in my experience is when you can sit in the same room with someone without saying a word and be content, when you can poke fun at each other and play live action WWE raw on the living room floor until your out of breath, when your able to swallow the undying need to strangle that person for the sake of making them feel more comfortable, when you feel immediately sorry after saying something hateful but your just too stubborn to apologize, and when one of you can take a shower while the other uses the toilet in absolute comfort. This is the true picture of romance...is it beautiful? Not even close, but it's what relationships that endure a lifetime are made of.
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Posted 8/23/12

crazyfirefly wrote:

I believe it does exist. For the very patient few. Firstly "Love" is not a word used loosely, I've only used it with one of my lovers. Even as an elementary school kid when I had my kiddie boyfriends I never said the famous three words. However "romance" is hyped up. Yes even I myself have fantasies of me being a graduate student and one of my older classmates sweeping me off my feet and "caring me across the threshold" so to speak. However the reality is that the whole flowers, and gifts, and brave acts of valor we see in countless anime and other media are shallow. True romance in my experience is when you can sit in the same room with someone without saying a word and be content, when you can poke fun at each other and play live action WWE raw on the living room floor until your out of breath, when your able to swallow the undying need to strangle that person for the sake of making them feel more comfortable, when you feel immediately sorry after saying something hateful but your just too stubborn to apologize, and when one of you can take a shower while the other uses the toilet in absolute comfort. This is the true picture of romance...is it beautiful? Not even close, but it's what relationships that endure a lifetime are made of.



ding ding ding.....we have a winner~ that was incredibly well said and so very true~
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