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Posted 8/25/12
I don't drink, and I don't like to dance. Which usually means I don't like to party. It's just hard to make friends for me, I find myself not having anything to say.
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make new friends. Join groups on campus and get involved and make it feel like home. I honestly prefer being at college instead of home. Talk to someone about it that you trust. There should also be people on campus to help with that exact issue.
Posted 8/25/12
People change in college, just like at any other time in life. I have seen straightedge people become alcoholics, the weirdest geeks become cool people, nice nerdy girls become sluts, seemingly smart people who quit and dropped out, etc. A LOT of stuff goes down. You just have to hang on and adjust.
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don't worry, you'll get over it.
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Trust me its going to be okay. Its scary at first and lonely too I have been there and I know what your going through but it gets better. My advice is join a group. They become your new family and makes it a lot better. And especially if you go into the sciences then you can join a lab. Its great to be in a lab cause everyone is like family and they support and help each other out. You can make really close friends fast too, that share your interests and take the same classes you take so your not alone.
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"I can't tell you what I learned from school but
I could tell you a story or two, um
Yeah, of course I learned some rules
Like don't pass out with your shoes on
And don't leave the house 'til the booze gone
And don't have sex if she's too gone
When it comes to condoms put two on
Then tomorrow night find a new jawn."
~~~Asher Roth, I Love College

Good luck
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Honestly, college isn't...as hard as people make it out to be...

With that, go in relaxed, poised, confident, on your A-Game.

Do not be that overly anxious person who freaks at the sight of a Test that will determine your life.
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the_song_of_anime wrote:

Any advice on how to deal with these feelings?


Find a cute college chick, and get your dick wet.

Also, make some friends.
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I start Uni on the 6th and I am soooo worried and stressed right now I feel my hair is going to fall out (which wouldn't be good for making friends. Interesting conversation starter; yes, friends; no). The advise I got from my teacher was to study study study! And only party when there are no exams in the following week. I hope that helped, though I don't party so it didn't really help me all that much.
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I just finished my first official week of college, though I didn't have to deal with the homesickness because I have the benefit (disadvantage?) of living at home. As for as friends go, I can't really give you much advice as the commuter mentality at my university makes it a pain in the ass to make friends with anybody (so far I've only hung out with one guy for a short time who I had met at orientation).

I can tell you about the classes though, specifically that you shouldn't worry so much. First semester courses aren't going to be incredibly difficult, and if you could handle high school you probably can handle this. The main difference I find is that you're given an extra level of respect and responsibility in college, which means your expected of a little more, but also that you have some more freedom (like being able to just get up and use the restroom without having to ask).
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Massive Post Incoming, proceed at your own peril.

From the look of it you're pretty much me when I first went to college. I was in a new town, surrounded by people I didn't know, and doing things i'd never had to do before (it honestly took me a week to figure out how to do my laundry). It really hit me the 3rd day I was there, I felt so overwhelmed that I actually started crying while sitting in my dorm, and I never cry.

The next day I went to a thing called an "Involvement Fair" which is basically a bazaar style set up where all the organizations on campus set up shop and try and get new members. I wasn't expecting much when I walked in, and for the first 30 minutes or so I milled around not really sure what I was doing. While sitting a wall debating whether to leave or not a guy i'd never met walked up to me and asked me how I was doing and what I was doing and if I was busy. I told him I was fine and no I wasn't busy, and he invited me over to where he and some of his mates had set up a table and were blaring music. It was intimidating, these guys were all wearing matching shirts and on their table they had a small mountain of awards and trophies for various achievements. But it was too late to leave, and I put on my best (although i've been told it was incredibly fake looking) smile and tried my best to be outgoing and friendly. The problem with that is that i'm not an outgoing and friendly person and quite frankly suck at conversation. Despite that they sat there talking with me for the next 10 minutes, asking me where I was from and what I was studying before inviting me out to a barbacue that night. That was 3 years ago, and now i'm the guy who goes and talks to the shy looking dudes sitting against the wall debating whether or not to leave. There's been some ups and downs, but i'm happy to say that the past 3 years have been the best in my life.

I'm assuming that you've got organizations, Greek or otherwise, on your campus and if that's the case i've got to believe that they have some way of reaching out to new people. Believe me when I say that a good number (at least half) of the people who join campus organizations have the same issues making new friends you do, and they (the organizations) know how to work to get past that. While you don't need to join an organization to enjoy college i'd advise you at least take a look at them, to meet new people if nothing else. In a lot of cases the friends you make your first year end up becoming a second family to you, supporting and coming to you for support since they're usually in the same boat you are as far as being away from home.

Man that was a lot longer than I expected it to be...As for classes, you're probably not taking anything brutally difficult the first semester. For me my freshman college classes were actually easier than my high school senior classes, despite that I ended up pulling a C for my first semester grade and getting a D in one of my classes because I had to get used to studying (i'd never spent more than an hour studying the night before in high school) and managing my time properly without my parents breathing down my neck. Don't be surprised if you end up getting higher grades in your upper level classes than your supposedly easy ones because by the time you've worked your way up to those you'll have learned what it takes to succeed in college.

College feels overwhelming when you first start and even more so if it's also the first time you're away from home, but in my experience you get what you put into it. If you have a positive attitude, work hard, and try and enjoy yourself you'll have a much more rewarding experience than you would if you did nothing but study or did nothing but screw around. So try not to fret too much, because things do get better, at least until you get out of college and get your ass kicked by the real world .
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Posted 8/25/12
i want to drop out =/. Its not that its hard its that i dont know what to do with my life =/
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Posted 8/25/12
Get a job and welcome to the world of having a large student debt to pay back, bills to pay every month for the rest of your life, and crappy food for longer than you'd wish to eat. But if yours is paid in full already...

Then STFU. lol

^^ Anyhow, enjoy it for a bit. Don't fret, it's going to become so easy you'll probably just get bored of it sooner than you thought.
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Posted 8/26/12
Get a planner or calendar and mark it up. Time management is a big thing or atleast for me it was. Get your main priorities straight and a good foundation for when your going to do school work and studies. As far as your feelings...
Your probably just nervous for the most part and anxious and like I said once you get a foundation or schedule for yourself and get comfortable with everything, You start finding time to do extra stuff and once that happens then the friends will come naturally specially those majoring in what you are. Just gotta relax and take it in stride and youll be good.
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Posted 8/26/12
You'll be fine... probably. No, seriously, there's going to be plenty of distractions and that's a good thing. Just be sure to set priorities and stick with them.
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