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Is there something wrong with me?
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I'm a guy and I don't care about sex or think about it, I'd rather just spend time with girls then care about sex at all. If it happens then it happens but it doesn't matter to me at all.

Girls say that guys only care about sex but I am the opposite and I am wondering if that is weird or something is wrong with me because I'm a guy and it's the last thing on my mind when I'm with a women.

I'd like some feedback on your opinion of this from male and females. Are you a guy and think like this too?
Is this a positive or a negative? All my friends only think about having sex even the married ones.
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I'm a male and I feel like I'm open minded enough to answer this question.
It's alright for another guy to not feel the urge of having sex and or not think of sex. It simply isn't the focus of your attention at the moment. Also, everyone is different when it comes to this subject matter. It just seems like your group is progressing well into exploring the area of sex and you may feel like you're being left behind. Honestly though, you don't have to beat yourself up over it. You will feel those urges when you are ready and, when you are ready, you will do it with the person or persons that you feel appropriate. Once you're ready, you will know it. Don't succumb to peer pressure and just let it be for now. Simply figure out your stand point of the matter and respect your and your friends' opinions about the subject matter. I hope this helps! :-)
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Yeah dude, it's not always about sex.

Pop culture and shit like that, Jersey Shore (smushsmush) and what not. And the culture here, where I live, Broadway (CV) has nothing but liquor stores, strip clubs, hoetels and stuff. Then Vegas, like all the perverts of the world meet up there.
They make it seem like life is all about sex.

But no, it's about anime man! That's where I get my fix!!


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Different people, different strokes.
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Well as long as there's a small desire to get in the other girls pants, you should be fairly normal. Its good that you can show restraint, but try not to come off as clingy.
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You basically have heard it all already from the first comment to mine. Your not abnormal for not wanting to get some by any means. Like Tim_The_Enchanted (I think) said as long as you want to get in their sexes pants your fine. Of course this is all assuming your heterosexual which I take it you are so no worries man it just aint at the top of your agenda to get some is all.
Posted 8/28/12
Whatever floats your boat. Different people like different things; no problem.

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magicuser360 wrote:

Whatever floats your boat. Different people like different things; no problem.


heeeey......What she said.
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Relationships is not entirely based on sex. Nothing is wrong with you because you just want to spend some time with her than always thinking about trying to get laid.
Posted 8/28/12

Koreh wrote:

I'm a guy and I don't care about sex or think about it, I'd rather just spend time with girls then care about sex at all. If it happens then it happens but it doesn't matter to me at all.

Girls say that guys only care about sex but I am the opposite and I am wondering if that is weird or something is wrong with me because I'm a guy and it's the last thing on my mind when I'm with a women.

I'd like some feedback on your opinion of this from male and females. Are you a guy and think like this too?
Is this a positive or a negative? All my friends only think about having sex even the married ones.


Neutral. Guys who only think about sex are ones who have yet to mature. Nothing is wrong with you and nothing is wrong with the other guys. You are all just different and you all have different times to feel the need of having sexual thoughts. Everyone has a different time and/or amount of chemical release. I am sure when the time is right for you, the time will be right for you (As you said, when it happens, it happens).

In fact, I would like it more if my significant other didn't think about sex only and constantly. It's a big hassle and a pain in the arse. The thought of only wanting sex sometimes degrade the relationship that exists with your girl/boyfriend because he/she doesn't respect your relationship or you as a whole, but only wants to get in bed with you. That's not too bright--nor is it too insightful.
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Posted 8/28/12
You should know yourself better than anybody else
in any case whatever floats your boat...
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Nah, you're fine. In the past (before I got engaged) I often had little sexual desire with most women unless they seemed interested, I can easily be friends. It's not like I've ever found anything wrong with female friends, I've always gotten along better with women than men.

There are people out there who have no desire whatsoever to have sex, even with someone they really like. It's a bit of a mental thing, something just gets switched on inside those people that tell them that sex is so utterly repulsive that it has no saving graces at all.

If you are one of those people who doesn't think about sex at all (it is one of the five key physiological drives), you might want to find out what exactly is happening in your mind when the notion of sex is considered around you, or you happen to think about it momentarily.
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It's simple - there's nothing wrong with you, but there is something wrong with everyone who's TELLING YOU that you should be interested in something you're clearly not (and there are several who will tell you that if millions say something is, than it is; by all means, tell that to Hitler after decades in Hell.) After all, why should they know YOU better than you know yourself?

That's like someone saying a woman can't love sex because she's a woman. Many people should really quit generalizing for a change, since it may help lead to others doubting themselves in such a way.
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Well, on the one hand, it sounds like you have a mature focus on the person you are with, so np there.

On the other hand, you yourself are expressing some discomfort or concern with your libido, so I would suggest that it is very good conversation to have with your doctor. Should you decide to, especially if there are correlating symptoms, then it is easy to get, for instance, your testosterone levels checked. The beauty of this is that it is very simple and can, at the very least, put your mind at ease. If you did have a problem, it would be good to find out now, as it can lead to other, more serious health issues later. Luckily, issues like this are often easily correctable.

Definitely a discussion worth having with a good doc, if you are really concerned. Don't let embarrassment stand in the way. This is what docs are there for and an ounce of prevention is always the better choice.
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heh, the anwser is so simple....chemistry.
Sad to say but love, joy, sex drive...everything is mostly caused by chemicals in your body. Maybe your body doesn't produce the hormones and all the stuff that boost your sex drive as much as others...for now at least. Maybe it'll change one day. We can't really control that in my opinion, it's just the way you are.
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