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Finding a woman/man that's into Anime/Video-games
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eternalchaos4200 wrote:

Yeah I do but they don't watch anime. Well 1 does. They play games but not very often and no their single haven't really hung out much I quit doing something that they still do why?


I'm asking because if you have a friend who did manage to get a girlfriend who enjoys anime and games, it's worth talking to him and getting his take on it. Perhaps he could recommend a few hangout spots in your area that will improve your chances of finding a like-minded girl. Maybe his girlfriend has friends she can introduce to you. It doesn't hurt to ask.

Also, it proves that your friend was still able to find a girl who has your niche hobbies, no matter how "out of the way" your town is. I walked into Gamestop last week to get an extra controller and about 1/3 of the customers were female. A few days ago I went into a Best Buy and there were quite a lot of tech-savvy, electronics nerd girls.

Don't take this the wrong way, because I'm not saying it to hurt you man. But if you mostly go outside your house to run errands, go to the gym, and a convention every year or so, then that's hurting your chances of finding a girlfriend. If I relied on a once-a-year occasion, filling up on gas, and working out at the gym to meet and pick-up women, I wouldn't pick up many, if any at all! You get what I'm saying?

Staying inside to enjoy your games and anime is great, I'm not knocking your hobbies. But to meet girls and get a girlfriend, more times than not you have to be outside, out there, a lot, and create your own opportunities. Whether it's walking in the park, dropping by a games or book store, even if it's a small town in the middle of nowhere.


no i get what your sayin its not that i want to stay in i love to go out but but to go anywhere i have to drive their which costs me money i dont have and for the last time im not just looking for a woman that just likes anime or video games yes thats what tthe topic states but i like more than just anime and games too im not looking for a perfect match or anything like that just a woman to get to know and hang out and possibly more lol i feel like im being interrogated i dont live in a small town in the middle of knowhere we have clubs and stuff like that but thats not me theirs not really hang out spots so to say and if their are i dont know where they are and i know your tryin to help and i can appreaciate that
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In another post I tried to clarify my enthusiasm a bit. This post.

The OP seems to be looking for a girl friend but he doesn't seem to have any female friends at all. I'm not saying lock yourself in the room. Saying things like that when there aren't any females in your life make it seem as though you are looking for the wrong reasons. If you just want a gf for the sake of having one then you are wasting everyone's time....

Are you saying you are not happy with your current life and a gf is the only thing that can make it better?

I am a fairly strict Christian (in modern day terms), and we are not suppose to look for significant others. (Christian dating sites are a terrible existence.) I didn't feel like going into that in this forum as the OP didn't mention it in his question. In your case, do you have female friends either? Your focus should be on completing tasks and preparing yourself for the day you do meet your match. If you don't even know what you want how would you know you haven't seen her already?

I am into anime and games.... Does that mean you will date me?

Please tell me that sounds silly. I know we all want more than that from a significant other.

I truly believe that anyone can be in a relationship with anyone else. There are no perfect matches, only better ones. I have decided not to date until I have done all that I can on my own, but that does not mean I won't have any male friends to play 2K with. I simply refuse to buy an Xbox so I have to have male friends....Since I realized these games are available on pc, that may be changing as well.

I'm just saying, if you aren't happy with your life a significant other won't make a bit of difference. The result would only be one person attempting to change the other and both parties being unhappy.

I hope I am not sounding arrogant or anything. I am curious though, what have you been doing the last ten years?

im pretty content with my life aside the fact that i still cant find a woman and yes i have 2 female friends and yes in IRL and i know theirs no such thing as a perfect match and i assure you if i werent happy with my life i would not want to bring someone else into it and for as the 10 year question thats a hard one never been asked that one before and right now the only thing im preparing myself for is my last ged test and a job i dont think i can prepare myself to meet a woman becasue you never know what their going to be like its always a suprise
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That post was kind of confusing but it was really aimed at Pyralis1.

Your answer is good to though. I hope reading some of these posts will help you. I am sorry people are bothering you over it.

You are definitely wrong about not being able to prepare yourself for a woman. That is what you are doing now, right? Getting a GED AND a job. That is wonderful. These days people don't get to plan when they get married or start a family, certain circumstances just push them into it and you find a lot of unhappy couples and a ridiculous divorce rate. You don't want just any woman, you want your woman. You are setting up a life you will enjoy and thus you would like a woman who can enjoy it with you. Are you getting a job to pay bills or because you want to do something, go somewhere, party, etc?

Once you figure out what you desire it will be so much easier and I believe you will have tremendous luck. Don't forget that a relationship comes with sacrifices. You need to figure out the things you will absolutely not give up to make someone happy. Maybe it is easier if you decide what you absolutely won't date then adjust your standards accordingly. Maybe you have goals you don't wish to disclose here but once you know the path you wish to take it will be easier to find someone with a similar destination.
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The_anti_coagulant wrote:



That post was kind of confusing but it was really aimed at Pyralis1.

Your answer is good to though. I hope reading some of these posts will help you. I am sorry people are bothering you over it.

You are definitely wrong about not being able to prepare yourself for a woman. That is what you are doing now, right? Getting a GED AND a job. That is wonderful. These days people don't get to plan when they get married or start a family, certain circumstances just push them into it and you find a lot of unhappy couples and a ridiculous divorce rate. You don't want just any woman, you want your woman. You are setting up a life you will enjoy and thus you would like a woman who can enjoy it with you. Are you getting a job to pay bills or because you want to do something, go somewhere, party, etc?

Once you figure out what you desire it will be so much easier and I believe you will have tremendous luck. Don't forget that a relationship comes with sacrifices. You need to figure out the things you will absolutely not give up to make someone happy. Maybe it is easier if you decide what you absolutely won't date then adjust your standards accordingly. Maybe you have goals you don't wish to disclose here but once you know the path you wish to take it will be easier to find someone with a similar destination.


Getting a job so I can move out and your right the divorse rate is just horrible and also thank you
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anime, gaming and writing is a childhood of mine thats stayed with me all the way to now. In the beginning i was a bit more low profile about the whole thing especially when i was a teen because i didn't want to be viewed weird or anything. it was the whole peer pressure clash and i regret not being able to find my own mind sooner. i got along with just about everyone at school but didn't really care for what they liked to do because it seemed like an everyday thing everyone was into, so it got old fast. i kept things general and bare minimum interesting, but i realized that it was because i didn't care about any of it. so i just stuck with the basic and kept the real me out of it. once you get used to the crowd, you adapt to it and just 'exist' but not live. wasn't hard to do. i didn't care about partying, though i went. i never did anything stupid like they did because it was just...stupid and there was no point to it. everyone was into the whole expensive designer clothing and shoes and matching outfitts and i just got annoyed everytime some girl told me she got her nails redone after 3 days of the last nail touch up. no one was real to me, and i was just as fake right back.

maybe i was being wishy washy but i wanted an environment where i can live my thoughts on forever. not just live in that 20 second moment, but something that i can live off on for years to come. thats probably why i spent most of my alone time cooped up in my room reading my novels and playing video games (im a sony girl) and writing my stories. my characters felt more real to me than most people i met. it wasn't until my senior year (yeah, took me long enough for the torture to build) that i was finally like, F this. i love anime, i love manga, and i looove games and i especially love and cherish my books. its my sanctuary and sanity. i dont know if you guys feel like this sometimes but reality can be so boring. i get it, i've been through some tough cracks but its just not where i wish to be sometimes, all though most of the time we can't help it lol.

but yeah, as for me being the real me, i just feel like people love me all the more for that. like anyone who doesn't get it, well, you go on back to your newest jay-z album cover or justin beiber-whatever (but i do like justing Bieb.) even guys like that so much about me, and its really helped me shape who i am. i've come to find out so many things about myself that i never would have thought i might be if it hadn't been for all those books i read when i was younger and the animes my dad got me into. Berserk was one of the oldest animes i ever watched and i just watched it again a year ago and im probably going to watch it now that i mentioned it. anyways im off track so im just going to end it here lol.

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anime, gaming and writing is a childhood of mine thats stayed with me all the way to now. In the beginning i was a bit more low profile about the whole thing especially when i was a teen because i didn't want to be viewed weird or anything. it was the whole peer pressure clash and i regret not being able to find my own mind sooner. i got along with just about everyone at school but didn't really care for what they liked to do because it seemed like an everyday thing everyone was into, so it got old fast. i kept things general and bare minimum interesting, but i realized that it was because i didn't care about any of it. so i just stuck with the basic and kept the real me out of it. once you get used to the crowd, you adapt to it and just 'exist' but not live. wasn't hard to do. i didn't care about partying, though i went. i never did anything stupid like they did because it was just...stupid and there was no point to it. everyone was into the whole expensive designer clothing and shoes and matching outfitts and i just got annoyed everytime some girl told me she got her nails redone after 3 days of the last nail touch up. no one was real to me, and i was just as fake right back.

maybe i was being wishy washy but i wanted an environment where i can live my thoughts on forever. not just live in that 20 second moment, but something that i can live off on for years to come. thats probably why i spent most of my alone time cooped up in my room reading my novels and playing video games (im a sony girl) and writing my stories. my characters felt more real to me than most people i met. it wasn't until my senior year (yeah, took me long enough for the torture to build) that i was finally like, F this. i love anime, i love manga, and i looove games and i especially love and cherish my books. its my sanctuary and sanity. i dont know if you guys feel like this sometimes but reality can be so boring. i get it, i've been through some tough cracks but its just not where i wish to be sometimes, all though most of the time we can't help it lol.

but yeah, as for me being the real me, i just feel like people love me all the more for that. like anyone who doesn't get it, well, you go on back to your newest jay-z album cover or justin beiber-whatever (but i do like justing Bieb.) even guys like that so much about me, and its really helped me shape who i am. i've come to find out so many things about myself that i never would have thought i might be if it hadn't been for all those books i read when i was younger and the animes my dad got me into. Berserk was one of the oldest animes i ever watched and i just watched it again a year ago and im probably going to watch it now that i mentioned it. anyways im off track so im just going to end it here lol.



I really appreaciate you telling me that
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So ladies, do you have any tips for us guys? Some of us are not the most observant in the world

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Hey now, I'm a girl and I'm into anime and video games! So don't go around saying we don't exist.
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eternalchaos4200 wrote:

It seems impossible where i live to find a woman with intrests in anime/manga videogames you know that sort of stuff is it me or does anyone else have this problem

i live in georgia so any time i even speak the word anime they look at me like im retarded and if i talk about video games they think im a loser which i really dont care what they think it just seems like an impossible task at findin a woman thats into that stuff


OK, maybe I can help a little. The only thing I can tell you is that most of we females who watch anime (I'm not a gamer so I can't help you there), don't look like we do. Look for the non-ho who has a lot of male friends (easier for a HSer probably) who are protective, perhaps overly so, of her. She probably likes sports to a degree, action movies over chick flicks, etc. If she doesn't watch anime, she's not against it. If you're not sure or having a hard time don't ask her if she likes anime, ask her if she likes fiction and/or movies and what kind. If she says, I dunno, horror think up an anime you like in that genre. For instance ask if she likes Japanese horror and then say something like the Japanese have this great story about ...blah blah blah. Then you can tell her she can read it if she's interested but you'd recommend watching the anime. Ask for an email address where you can find her a place to watch it online WITHOUT commercials unless you have a guest pass. Hell, if you have mobile device with you, show her a trailer or a bit right there on the spot.

Sometimes the looks might not mean what you think. Don't assume everyone knows what anime is. She still may call Sailor Moon a cartoon. Ask if they know what you mean.

Go to a comic con.

Lastly, use your wits kid. We anime watchers are nothing if not witty and resourceful.

Good luck!



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Hey now, I'm a girl and I'm into anime and video games! So don't go around saying we don't exist.


Wasn't trying to ooffend anyone sorry but it kinds seems that way at least where I live
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i´m dating a girl that is into anime and manga as well into games for five years now.

Before that i was thinking that in my area wern´t any girls with interest in that. But after this time I have to say that everywhere you are there are also people that are into anime and manga. But the more you are in the country side the less you will realize this at first sight. All you have to do is to keep your eyes open and your ears sharp. The other anime and manga fans near you have the very same problem you have. An enviroment that isn´t friendly to people like us.

Good luck for your hunt!
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Damn I missed so much threading action!!

I wasn't even gone for 24 hours...

Btw Etenalchaos I kinda did the same thing: I joined a gym, I just started playing soccer on an all-girls team (well that won't help me in the least bit in the dating dept. lol!) and I've been working but I can't date any co-workers here. (I wouldn't anyway). I'm going to apply for law school in the upcoming months so I've been busy with that.

But I've also gone to clubs / lounges and I even went on a date (that went terribly wrong) but at least I tried for the experience. But I've come to learn the following:

- you can't force yourself to be in a relationship until you're ready (mentally/emotionally)
- you gotta be fearless!
- I wouldn't worry so much about $ just yet. I mean it's Good to have but you could be investing in your future with it instead (like you said - you wanna move out!)
- we can give all the advice we have until us CRers turn blue in the face... But these are our experiences. It may or may not work out for everyone. Lol 9/10 of the advice I've read didn't work for me. XD
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So ladies, do you have any tips for us guys? Some of us are not the most observant in the world



LOL well knowing what to do in this situation will obviously help!! ^_^'
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eternalchaos4200 wrote:


eclair-lumiere wrote:

im a woman and im into anime. not video game s though. but i know what you mean. no one else where i live seems to like anime.


anime is just fine lol :D


Well I probably would like video games too if I was any good at them, but I'm terrible at them. I love anime though. Also manga.
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eclair-lumiere wrote:


eternalchaos4200 wrote:


eclair-lumiere wrote:

im a woman and im into anime. not video game s though. but i know what you mean. no one else where i live seems to like anime.


anime is just fine lol :D


Well I probably would like video games too if I was any good at them, but I'm terrible at them. I love anime though. Also manga.


I only read the manga of naruto lol
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