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Finding a woman/man that's into Anime/Video-games
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they exist in every circle and every genre of society. i go to a bible college and have been dating a smoking hot anime nerd for the last 6 months. gonna marry this girl too. but i didn't know she into anime at all, but i knew her brothers were and i happen to chat with her and she went off on how she loves trigun and now we get to enjoy our favorite date night of the month which is burrito and anime night!

don't give up hope!
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I got dumped back in college when my ex-girlfriend found out I like Dragon Ball z.

But here's what happened next…

I joined the anime club, made a ton of friends, and enjoyed the rest of my college life geeking out. Yes that includes dating.

And now that I'm older, in the responsible working adult world, I'm seeing a very nice nerd who enjoys a lot of the same geeky things that I do, including anime. You have to put yourself out there as who you are instead of pretending who you want to be, and sooner or later you will strike up a conversation with some lucky lady.
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isisprince wrote:

I got dumped back in college when my ex-girlfriend found out I like Dragon Ball z.

But here's what happened next…

I joined the anime club, made a ton of friends, and enjoyed the rest of my college life geeking out. Yes that includes dating.

And now that I'm older, in the responsible working adult world, I'm seeing a very nice nerd who enjoys a lot of the same geeky things that I do, including anime. You have to put yourself out there as who you are instead of pretending who you want to be, and sooner or later you will strike up a conversation with some lucky lady.


i started going to this manga club that have at this anime store and this will be my second time going
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redpandai wrote:


Coming from a family of gamer girls, I'd first say that we're out there. I have several friends that like anime/video games. When we meet a guy that has the same anime/video game interests, the guy is usually thrilled, but they rarely get the guts to ask us out. I'll point out is that even if we like anime and games, I would never encourage a guy to come after me if he didn't display some kind of interests outside of anime or video games. You need to have a normal switch. I would rather (and usually do) date a guy not into that stuff if he's really cool and has varied interests, because most people have several interests. Also, because he has varied interests, he usually won't object to a really basic anime, like Cowboy Bebop or Bleach.

Like this girl: http://tlc.howstuffworks.com/tv/what-not-to-wear/videos/victorias-virtually-nonexistent-style.htm
If you come off like this girl(her appearance aside), I'm strictly talking about her personality and the fact that she can't recognize that no one around her is following or even interested in her hobby. If you come off that way and ONLY that way, I'm going to shut you down, even if you ALSO think Code Geass and Gintama are super-awesome shows and the bridge campaign on L4D2 is your favorite one, too. Doesn't matter, you will be friend-zoned.

Another thing I'll say is that just like not every single girl you meet is a total babe, not every girl you meet who likes anime is going to be a total hottie. We come in all shapes and sizes. You might want to take a look in a mirror sometime. If the girls you're going after are in a different category than you as far as looks go, you're going to get rejected almost every time. You might have more success (and enjoy the depth of personality and character you'll usually find) if you look for someone whose physical looks match yours. If you're too shallow to do that, then good luck. Enjoy being lonely and the feel of your right hand. If you're not too shallow to do that, you'll probably end up just fine, sooner or later.


100% true for me and many of my (female) friends. Honestly, I know more girls that are into anime/manga (some of my great friends) than I do guys, because often the guys I meet who are really into anime are... well.. a bit too into it. It's all they are interested in, and they don't seem to know other interests and are just chronically socially awkward, that is a huge turnoff. (Unfortunately I'm speaking from experience here. But that is a post for another day...)

Truthfully, it's frustrating on my end because I see so many posts like these that are just like "girls' don't like anime and that's why I don't have a girlfriend". Many, many girls like anime and manga and video games, it's just that those girls are human beings with other interests as well, and want to be liked for other things too, and if you come across, as mcdocrunch so very accurately pointed out, as hyper-obsessed about it, it's going to be creepy. It would be creepy to be too obsessed with anything. So in my experience, the problem is not that girls (like me) don't like anime, it's that I don't want to say anything about liking anime to guys until they know them well. Otherwise, shearly based on the fact that I watch anime and am attractive enough, I have 10 lonely, only involved in anime club, haven't left their room, creepy guys instantly falling in love with me simply because I watch a genre of cartoon. (This is of course not to say that all guys to watch anime are like this. In fact, many probably aren't, but as always, it's those few that do do this that really make it nerve wracking to be open to dating anyone who seems a bit too into anime.)

As mcdocrunch said, I don't intend to be harsh or overly blunt, but I think it's an important perspective in this conversation that sometimes falls to the wayside.


I totally agree with you there. I myself have played video games since I was young and know other girls that have as well. There are tons out there into manga/anime too. But any girl will tell you that she wants a guy who's not so into his own imaginary world. As long as he has a few other interests and a good personality to go along with the anime and gaming he should have no problem finding a girl with the same interests. But I myself am not interested in a guy who doesn't have the balls to even try and ask me out after finding out about my hobbies (gaming, anime, manga).



i have other intrests too and im also very shy and i dont have my own imaginary world either
Posted 10/22/12
it's not that hard to find one ... every girl has a game side to them (;

I play once in awhile and I never pass the god damn game.
The last game I played was Modern warfare and I'm sick of getting my ass stabbed from the back those fucking cheaters.
Anyways ... yea .
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ChiChi06 wrote:

it's not that hard to find one ... every girl has a game side to them (;

I play once in awhile and I never pass the god damn game.
The last game I played was Modern warfare and I'm sick of getting my ass stabbed from the back those fucking cheaters.
Anyways ... yea .


awesome post lol
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killbethy wrote:


eternalchaos4200 wrote:

It seems impossible where i live to find a woman with intrests in anime/manga videogames you know that sort of stuff is it me or does anyone else have this problem

i live in georgia so any time i even speak the word anime they look at me like im retarded and if i talk about video games they think im a loser which i really dont care what they think it just seems like an impossible task at findin a woman thats into that stuff


I lived in Georgia for a while, and not only do I watch anime, I also play and have played video games professionally throughout my life. There are plenty of people out there are of both genders and of all ages that love anime and/or gaming. Sometimes you can't judge a book by its cover though. Plenty of people are absolutely dumbfounded when they find I out that I game and watch anime, and while it's silly to see people get excited for that reason alone, usually the only reason they wind up so surprised is that they never thought to ask in the first place. Not everyone exactly advertises what activities they enjoy in their spare time, and many girls actually like to keep the fact that they game underwraps because it can draw a lot of unwanted attention and scrutiny.

Beyond that though, looking for a relationship solely based on the mutual interest of anime or gaming is just as shallow as only dating someone for their physical appearance or for their bank account. It takes a lot more than a joint love of Code Geass (example) to form a good foundation for a relationship. While you are fretting over a female (or in some other people's cases, a male), not being interested in your love for anime or gaming, you could be passing up on some truly great people if you only just get to know them. Plenty of couples and friends don't share every single interest, and there are also plenty of occassions when one person can introduce the other to something. I've gotten several of my friends and ex-boyfriends interested in anime as time has gone by. Everyone has to find out about anime from somewhere


I don't know why it says man because I didn't. Mean to put the. Man part I'm no way shape or form gay no offence to them


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I'm a bit lost as to how you inferred anything about being gay in that post. The "or in some other people's cases, a male" part comes into play, because there are plenty of girls and young women out there that feel the same way as you. Or heck, if someone is homosexual and it applies to them, then so be it. Everyone has a right to love whomever they want.

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I think a lot of guys also underestimate the, for lack of a better phrase, "turn-off power" that comes with the "omg! you are a girl and watch anime and/or play video games?! will you marry me?" (hyperbole, yes, but you get the general idea). Being deemed likeable because of one hobby or interest, or really any single characteristic isn't exactly the most complimentary thing in the world. Most girls like it when a guy puts in effort to truly get to kow them, and not base their judgement on a single thing like physical appearance, money, watching anime or being a gamer. Honestly, once you get pigeon-holed into the "she's cool because she plays video games" category, that's a tough one to get out of... it also can make for a lot of superficial relationships. As life goes on, people's interests and priorities change... no one wants to feel like they will lose the friends and relationships they have if they start pursuing other interests. Likewise, don't base your dream significant other solely on the person that they seem to be now. Relationships need to grow along with the individuals in them. If you go out on a mission to find yourself an anime lover now, what happens in a few years if they lose interest in it and you don't? You sure as hell better have more to your relationship than just that one common thread tying it together, or it will unravel pretty damn quickly.

An even better question is... do you honestly think you will 100% know the person that you will be several years from now? Life changes everyone. If you go through it picking friends and relationships by how many checkpoints they meet on your "wanted in a girlfriend/friend" list, you will miss out on a lot of great people. You'll also miss out on a lot in life that will be introduced to you by people you meet with varying interests. You don't want to go through life burning bridges and closing doors on people... it only leaves you with regret and missed opportunities.

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killbethy wrote:


eternalchaos4200 wrote:


killbethy wrote:


eternalchaos4200 wrote:

It seems impossible where i live to find a woman with intrests in anime/manga videogames you know that sort of stuff is it me or does anyone else have this problem

i live in georgia so any time i even speak the word anime they look at me like im retarded and if i talk about video games they think im a loser which i really dont care what they think it just seems like an impossible task at findin a woman thats into that stuff


I lived in Georgia for a while, and not only do I watch anime, I also play and have played video games professionally throughout my life. There are plenty of people out there are of both genders and of all ages that love anime and/or gaming. Sometimes you can't judge a book by its cover though. Plenty of people are absolutely dumbfounded when they find I out that I game and watch anime, and while it's silly to see people get excited for that reason alone, usually the only reason they wind up so surprised is that they never thought to ask in the first place. Not everyone exactly advertises what activities they enjoy in their spare time, and many girls actually like to keep the fact that they game underwraps because it can draw a lot of unwanted attention and scrutiny.

Beyond that though, looking for a relationship solely based on the mutual interest of anime or gaming is just as shallow as only dating someone for their physical appearance or for their bank account. It takes a lot more than a joint love of Code Geass (example) to form a good foundation for a relationship. While you are fretting over a female (or in some other people's cases, a male), not being interested in your love for anime or gaming, you could be passing up on some truly great people if you only just get to know them. Plenty of couples and friends don't share every single interest, and there are also plenty of occassions when one person can introduce the other to something. I've gotten several of my friends and ex-boyfriends interested in anime as time has gone by. Everyone has to find out about anime from somewhere


I don't know why it says man because I didn't. Mean to put the. Man part I'm no way shape or form gay no offence to them


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I'm a bit lost as to how you inferred anything about being gay in that post. The "or in some other people's cases, a male" part comes into play, because there are plenty of girls and young women out there that feel the same way as you. Or heck, if someone is homosexual and it applies to them, then so be it. Everyone has a right to love whomever they want.

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I think a lot of guys also underestimate the, for lack of a better phrase, "turn-off power" that comes with the "omg! you are a girl and watch anime and/or play video games?! will you marry me?" (hyperbole, yes, but you get the general idea). Being deemed likeable because of one hobby or interest, or really any single characteristic isn't exactly the most complimentary thing in the world. Most girls like it when a guy puts in effort to truly get to kow them, and not base their judgement on a single thing like physical appearance, money, watching anime or being a gamer. Honestly, once you get pigeon-holed into the "she's cool because she plays video games" category, that's a tough one to get out of... it also can make for a lot of superficial relationships. As life goes on, people's interests and priorities change... no one wants to feel like they will lose the friends and relationships they have if they start pursuing other interests. Likewise, don't base your dream significant other solely on the person that they seem to be now. Relationships need to grow along with the individuals in them. If you go out on a mission to find yourself an anime lover now, what happens in a few years if they lose interest in it and you don't? You sure as hell better have more to your relationship than just that one common thread tying it together, or it will unravel pretty damn quickly.

An even better question is... do you honestly think you will 100% know the person that you will be several years from now? Life changes everyone. If you go through it picking friends and relationships by how many checkpoints they meet on your "wanted in a girlfriend/friend" list, you will miss out on a lot of great people. You'll also miss out on a lot in life that will be introduced to you by people you meet with varying interests. You don't want to go through life burning bridges and closing doors on people... it only leaves you with regret and missed opportunities.

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Posted 10/23/12
Alright , who wants to play Modern warfare with me and get stabbed from the back???

LOL
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I live in Sydney... I can't even find a MALE who is into anime/video games.
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I think the big problem here is this: if you're looking to date someone that's into manga or anime, you're setting yourself up for failure. Anime is not the end-all be all, and you know? Even if my husband is open-minded enough to watch the occasional anime title, he's not nearly into it to the extent I am and never will be. And you know what? I still adore him and we have other things in common that are more important.

That being said, go to your local anime club and meet people. Being shy is a-ok, but understand that as an adult you're going to have to grow out of some of that if you expect to get anywhere. This isn't Japan, where you can be reclusive 99% of the time and still hold a job. (And yes, you need a job in order to afford dates. Even an anime fan like myself won't settle for spending every date sitting on a couch and watching anime.)

TL;DR version: stop making anime a priority in finding a mate, and you'll have much better success!
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Really? There there's plenty of em' here in sandog.
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I should have added this in my original reply. You know what really scares off the girls? Squirrely guys. What I mean is, don't be a creeper. Be a decent person, no leering, know whether or not you are funny and be careful about that, and you should probably lay off the moe titles (if you are into that). If a girl walks into your room and you have anime/manga showing creepy images on their covers, guess who isn't coming back?

Don't be a creeper!
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isisprince wrote:

I should have added this in my original reply. You know what really scares off the girls? Squirrely guys. What I mean is, don't be a creeper. Be a decent person, no leering, know whether or not you are funny and be careful about that, and you should probably lay off the moe titles (if you are into that). If a girl walks into your room and you have anime/manga showing creepy images on their covers, guess who isn't coming back?

Don't be a creeper!


my room is filled with game posters and one seako wallscroll
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mippa wrote:

I think the big problem here is this: if you're looking to date someone that's into manga or anime, you're setting yourself up for failure. Anime is not the end-all be all, and you know? Even if my husband is open-minded enough to watch the occasional anime title, he's not nearly into it to the extent I am and never will be. And you know what? I still adore him and we have other things in common that are more important.

That being said, go to your local anime club and meet people. Being shy is a-ok, but understand that as an adult you're going to have to grow out of some of that if you expect to get anywhere. This isn't Japan, where you can be reclusive 99% of the time and still hold a job. (And yes, you need a job in order to afford dates. Even an anime fan like myself won't settle for spending every date sitting on a couch and watching anime.)

TL;DR version: stop making anime a priority in finding a mate, and you'll have much better success!


How many times do i have to say this i never said it was a priorty that they be into anime or games
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