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Winterfells Spoiler Alert! Click to show or hide wrote:
Don't be naive.
Sure, most people want someone to "love them for who they truly are" (whatever that may mean) but there is such a thing as privacy in every relationship. No one will or can truly know every aspect of you, especially when you're still in the early courtship phase.
Let's face it, for the sake of proper etiquette, almost all of us behave differently in our own homes behind walls and closed doors compared to how we behave in public in front of other people (friends, coworkers, teachers, students, dates). Sometimes, at home I might get lazy and just pick up chicken with my fingers and eat it. Am I going to behave like that if I'm on a dinner date with a girl? I might pick my teeth with my fingers after I'm done eating while I sit on my couch, but I'm not going to be doing that in the break room at lunch. I like watching porn, but is it a good idea for me to show a girl my porn collection on a first date? (Well, it depends on how freaky she is, but normally this isn't a good idea) 
Look, I'm not trying to tear you down man. I'm trying to build you up and give you legitimately good advice. Here is what I've seen so far.
1. You really want to find a cool girl to date and have fun with in your life.
2. Your lack of experience gives you a somewhat naive, romanticized, and idealistic expectation of a relationship.
3. Your current ways has an established track record of not allowing you to consistently meet women, and not attracting their interest. Yet you stubbornly insist on keeping your old habits and not following most helpful changes posters in this thread have suggested.
4. You seem to have a case of what I call the "Picky Beginner." What I think you should be doing is to start off slow, with lower expectations and standards and slowly work your way up, building your confidence. Right now what you're asking for in a potential girlfriend...she would have to be a saint. Friendly, cool, laid-back, happens to be interested in the exact interests that you have, plays video games, understands anime culture, accepts you for who you are. I mean, whoa man, goddamn! That's a lot of pressure to put on someone, why not just start off seeing a girl who just likes you? I see a lot of traits you list off that you want, but what can you offer in return? If you want the whole package you've got to offer her the whole package (no not that package).
5. Truth be told, most girls I've met (not including the ones who are anime fans) would be kind of turned off by that provocative anime poster in your room...it just comes off as incredibly superficial. Also most girls would just think it's really kinky and weird fetish for an anime girl in ripped clothing holding a katana between her tits with blood on her face. They won't think it's artistic, they'll just find it sleazy.
Also, it will also make seem kind of hypocritical when you say you don't really care about how a person looks on the outside, how they dress, how hot they are, etc. and you happen to have a softcore poster on your wall of an anime chick with size F tits, and a perfect body.
There is just a certain "etiquette" you follow when you first start dating someone, and not revealing too much too quickly, because most people would get scared off. Guys included.
Now you'll probably disagree with me, but this has been my experience so far. Take it how you will.
God dammit man, I didn't think I could love you more than I already do(I think this is 98%-99.9% homo), but holy shit this is, this is info I wish someone would have given me in high school, if only I had this information I would have been a lot better off, although my interests and obsessions weren't anime/manga but other things that are not a real turn on for most girls.
Eternal if you don't take this to heart, I don't know what you're looking/waiting for man, this is probably the best/most honest advice you will find online or anywhere for that matter.
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Alright, I'm done with this thread lol.
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Finding a woman/man that's into Anime/Video-games
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WinterfellsSpoiler Alert! Click to show or hide wrote:
Alright, I'm done with this thread lol.
I'm almost sorry to say this, but with good reason... I'm in complete disbelief right now.
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Spoiler Alert! Click to show or hide God dammit man, I didn't think I could love you more than I already do(I think this is 98%-99.9% homo), but holy shit this is, this is info I wish someone would have given me in high school, if only I had this information I would have been a lot better off, although my interests and obsessions weren't anime/manga but other things that are not a real turn on for most girls.
Eternal if you don't take this to heart, I don't know what you're looking/waiting for man, this is probably the best/most honest advice you will find online or anywhere for that matter.
Haha thanks, it didn't naturally come to me, there was a lot of trial-and-error on my part, and a lot of embarrassing mistakes. I'm just trying to spare others of some of that bad experiences by passing the word.
P.S. My homo level is reading at over 9000.
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I'm almost sorry to say this, but with good reason... I'm in complete disbelief right now.
I think that nothing should surprise us on CR any more.
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Luf ya'll
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KazeNiNare wrote:
Winterfells Spoiler Alert! Click to show or hide wrote:
Don't be naive.
Sure, most people want someone to "love them for who they truly are" (whatever that may mean) but there is such a thing as privacy in every relationship. No one will or can truly know every aspect of you, especially when you're still in the early courtship phase.
Let's face it, for the sake of proper etiquette, almost all of us behave differently in our own homes behind walls and closed doors compared to how we behave in public in front of other people (friends, coworkers, teachers, students, dates). Sometimes, at home I might get lazy and just pick up chicken with my fingers and eat it. Am I going to behave like that if I'm on a dinner date with a girl? I might pick my teeth with my fingers after I'm done eating while I sit on my couch, but I'm not going to be doing that in the break room at lunch. I like watching porn, but is it a good idea for me to show a girl my porn collection on a first date? (Well, it depends on how freaky she is, but normally this isn't a good idea)
Look, I'm not trying to tear you down man. I'm trying to build you up and give you legitimately good advice. Here is what I've seen so far.
1. You really want to find a cool girl to date and have fun with in your life.
2. Your lack of experience gives you a somewhat naive, romanticized, and idealistic expectation of a relationship.
3. Your current ways has an established track record of not allowing you to consistently meet women, and not attracting their interest. Yet you stubbornly insist on keeping your old habits and not following most helpful changes posters in this thread have suggested.
4. You seem to have a case of what I call the "Picky Beginner." What I think you should be doing is to start off slow, with lower expectations and standards and slowly work your way up, building your confidence. Right now what you're asking for in a potential girlfriend...she would have to be a saint. Friendly, cool, laid-back, happens to be interested in the exact interests that you have, plays video games, understands anime culture, accepts you for who you are. I mean, whoa man, goddamn! That's a lot of pressure to put on someone, why not just start off seeing a girl who just likes you? I see a lot of traits you list off that you want, but what can you offer in return? If you want the whole package you've got to offer her the whole package (no not that package).
5. Truth be told, most girls I've met (not including the ones who are anime fans) would be kind of turned off by that provocative anime poster in your room...it just comes off as incredibly superficial. Also most girls would just think it's really kinky and weird fetish for an anime girl in ripped clothing holding a katana between her tits with blood on her face. They won't think it's artistic, they'll just find it sleazy.
Also, it will also make seem kind of hypocritical when you say you don't really care about how a person looks on the outside, how they dress, how hot they are, etc. and you happen to have a softcore poster on your wall of an anime chick with size F tits, and a perfect body.
There is just a certain "etiquette" you follow when you first start dating someone, and not revealing too much too quickly, because most people would get scared off. Guys included.
Now you'll probably disagree with me, but this has been my experience so far. Take it how you will.
God dammit man, I didn't think I could love you more than I already do(I think this is 98%-99.9% homo), but holy shit this is, this is info I wish someone would have given me in high school, if only I had this information I would have been a lot better off, although my interests and obsessions weren't anime/manga but other things that are not a real turn on for most girls.
Eternal if you don't take this to heart, I don't know what you're looking/waiting for man, this is probably the best/most honest advice you will find online or anywhere for that matter.
ive taken everthing he has said to heart but when i have to start rearanging my room thats when i stop listineing and i know how to act on a date i have manners and what not so thats the end of that
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eternalchaos4200Spoiler Alert! Click to show or hide wrote:
KazeNiNare wrote:
Winterfells Spoiler Alert! Click to show or hide wrote:
Don't be naive.
Sure, most people want someone to "love them for who they truly are" (whatever that may mean) but there is such a thing as privacy in every relationship. No one will or can truly know every aspect of you, especially when you're still in the early courtship phase.
Let's face it, for the sake of proper etiquette, almost all of us behave differently in our own homes behind walls and closed doors compared to how we behave in public in front of other people (friends, coworkers, teachers, students, dates). Sometimes, at home I might get lazy and just pick up chicken with my fingers and eat it. Am I going to behave like that if I'm on a dinner date with a girl? I might pick my teeth with my fingers after I'm done eating while I sit on my couch, but I'm not going to be doing that in the break room at lunch. I like watching porn, but is it a good idea for me to show a girl my porn collection on a first date? (Well, it depends on how freaky she is, but normally this isn't a good idea)
Look, I'm not trying to tear you down man. I'm trying to build you up and give you legitimately good advice. Here is what I've seen so far.
1. You really want to find a cool girl to date and have fun with in your life.
2. Your lack of experience gives you a somewhat naive, romanticized, and idealistic expectation of a relationship.
3. Your current ways has an established track record of not allowing you to consistently meet women, and not attracting their interest. Yet you stubbornly insist on keeping your old habits and not following most helpful changes posters in this thread have suggested.
4. You seem to have a case of what I call the "Picky Beginner." What I think you should be doing is to start off slow, with lower expectations and standards and slowly work your way up, building your confidence. Right now what you're asking for in a potential girlfriend...she would have to be a saint. Friendly, cool, laid-back, happens to be interested in the exact interests that you have, plays video games, understands anime culture, accepts you for who you are. I mean, whoa man, goddamn! That's a lot of pressure to put on someone, why not just start off seeing a girl who just likes you? I see a lot of traits you list off that you want, but what can you offer in return? If you want the whole package you've got to offer her the whole package (no not that package).
5. Truth be told, most girls I've met (not including the ones who are anime fans) would be kind of turned off by that provocative anime poster in your room...it just comes off as incredibly superficial. Also most girls would just think it's really kinky and weird fetish for an anime girl in ripped clothing holding a katana between her tits with blood on her face. They won't think it's artistic, they'll just find it sleazy.
Also, it will also make seem kind of hypocritical when you say you don't really care about how a person looks on the outside, how they dress, how hot they are, etc. and you happen to have a softcore poster on your wall of an anime chick with size F tits, and a perfect body.
There is just a certain "etiquette" you follow when you first start dating someone, and not revealing too much too quickly, because most people would get scared off. Guys included.
Now you'll probably disagree with me, but this has been my experience so far. Take it how you will.
God dammit man, I didn't think I could love you more than I already do(I think this is 98%-99.9% homo), but holy shit this is, this is info I wish someone would have given me in high school, if only I had this information I would have been a lot better off, although my interests and obsessions weren't anime/manga but other things that are not a real turn on for most girls.
Eternal if you don't take this to heart, I don't know what you're looking/waiting for man, this is probably the best/most honest advice you will find online or anywhere for that matter.
ive taken everthing he has said to heart but when i have to start rearanging my room thats when i stop listineing and i know how to act on a date i have manners and what not so thats the end of that
You are completely sidestepping the obvious logic in his post, but whatever dude. The best of luck in your endeavours.
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99.9% of the time, women who are into anime or videogames are instafriendzoned because of how "awesome" they are. Thus, we're fated to be alone.
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SakiAiza wrote:
99.9% of the time, women who are into anime or videogames are instafriendzoned because of how "awesome" they are. Thus, we're fated to be alone.
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I salute thee, Captain Obvious.
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SakiAiza wrote:
99.9% of the time, women who are into anime or videogames are instafriendzoned because of how "awesome" they are. Thus, we're fated to be alone.
kinda the same for us guys who like anime and games too but i dont instafriendzoned a woman because of that my friend brooke iv known her for going on 3 years now and i always looked at her like more than a friend although you NEVER want to tell a girl youv liked her for a long time right after they break up with their boyfriend becasue yeah then things become very awkard learned that the hard way
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Yes they do. But you know what's even worse? When a girl has feelings for a guy who's addicted to videogames and would rather spend his time playing on his DS than paying attention to her.
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SakiAiza wrote:
Yes they do. But you know what's even worse? When a girl has feelings for a guy who's addicted to videogames and would rather spend his time playing on his DS than paying attention to her.
Uh hmmmm DS or woman easiest question in the world to answer woman duh wtf is that guy thinking
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eternalchaos4200 wrote:
ive taken everthing he has said to heart but when i have to start rearanging my room thats when i stop listineing and i know how to act on a date i have manners and what not so thats the end of that
What's the difference between rearranging your room and rearranging the fat distribution on your body? You're losing weight to make yourself physically attractive because you neither want to be or date a fat fuck. Similarly, lose that poster whenever a girl enters your room for the first time so you don't come off as a shallow pervert, nor as someone with a crappy personality.
There's no point in creating a thread looking for advice if you're not going to implement any of it. How your delusional word puke has lasted 54 pages I do not know.
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