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Finding a woman/man that's into Anime/Video-games
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Denmi-Sama wrote:

Lol WF I believe we had a -disagreement- about your reasons not to date right??? Are those reasons why???


Hmm, I'm a bit confused. Not sure what you're referring to, although I might be getting forgetful in my advanced age.

Reasons for what?
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Winterfells wrote:


Denmi-Sama wrote:

Lol WF I believe we had a -disagreement- about your reasons not to date right??? Are those reasons why???


Hmm, I'm a bit confused. Not sure what you're referring to, although I might be getting forgetful in my advanced age.

Reasons for what?


Lol me too an I'm a spring chicken!

And uh I don't quite remember - maybe it was another forum...?

And I mean dating in general. You're against dating right? Weren't you more of a "never-settling-down" kind of guy? Sorry in advance if I'm wrong but I kinda remember getting that sort of vibe.
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Denmi-Sama wrote:

Lol me too an I'm a spring chicken!

And uh I don't quite remember - maybe it was another forum...?

And I mean dating in general. You're against dating right? Weren't you more of a "never-settling-down" kind of guy? Sorry in advance if I'm wrong but I kinda remember getting that sort of vibe.


Ah I see, well I am definitely not against dating. I think that serious dating, settling down, and marriage are all great things to strive for. I believe in love, but when it comes to me personally I feel a bit different.

For me, I just have some commitment problems and trust issues. I go out to parties, bars, lounges, clubs, and I talk to women. We hook up but it normally doesn't go much further than one-night stands or a few casual dates. I don't expect people to understand what I do or accept it. Because I know in their eyes I'm probably just a monster. And sometimes I do feel that way, like broken goods.

I did love this girl very much once, but it only led to a tragic ending. Suffice it to say, she took advantage of my love, betrayed my trust, cheated on me with a guy I knew, humiliated me in front of my friends and family, and left an emptiness inside I've never been able to fill since. So now, I'm just a hedonist, I live for pleasure and fun and satisfaction. Nothing complicated, not looking to open up to another woman.

So it feels at times that love and marriage aren't really in the cards for me. I'm not disenchanted with the principles of long-term relationships and commitment, I just don't think I'll ever find it, or that it'll work out for me.

Regarding this thread, I do try and give eternalchaos the best advice I know regarding women and dating, because in that sense I've gained a lot of experience through trial-and-error. Maybe it's because I'd like to see others have success where I have failed. Or at least know that I've been able to help someone find something I haven't been able to find for myself. I guess when it comes to finding a good woman, a strong long-term loving relationship, I've been pretty bad at. I guess I go after women who are bad for me. But in terms of casual dating and picking up women? Haha, that I'm good at.
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HEY!! I RESENT THAT!!!

I'm a woman who LOVES VIDEO GAMES, ANIME/MANGA ETC. I used to have a subscription to Shounen and Shojo Beat my I could no longer afford it.

But I do know how you feel. I"m married and it drives me crazy that my husband isn't into those kinds of things. IT KILLS ME SINGLE DAY!! But so far, I've share one Anime Series (Bleach) with my husband and now he watches it as well...but I'm still not counting on him to keep watching the rest of my favorite Anime and play my favorite video games with me, cause I know that's not happening. But there is still no excuse for the rest of you men to find women out there who love the same things you do. You just have to look in the right place...
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know plenty of chics who like anime and video games. whole class is obsessed with skyrim...
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Eh, best advice I could possibly give is to just be open-minded and look for open-minded people. Though they're rare, they're a lot more common than anime/manga enthusiasts and frankly, if they're not open-minded to begin with they probably won't approach or accept your own interests for the same reasons. But an open-minded person could see anime/manga for their own merits, even if they've never really been exposed to it before. Conversion is a lot more effective!

But ultimately, just do what makes you happy. Don't worry about dating and you'll wind up a lot happier for it. If you're happy and well-adjusted it'll all just fall into place for you. Frankly, I think liking anime/manga shouldn't be a criterion on the "list", though "lists" are detrimental anyway.
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I personally feel that if you meet one your a lucky one but at the same time I have a girl friend that cant stand any of this stuff and yet she puts up with it just because I still make time for her and dont talk about it with her, you just have to find some one who is accepting and is willing to sacrafice as long as you do the same for her

personally I am the only one of my friends who is in to anime so i have no one to talk about it with but at the same time it makes a nice thing that I can enjoy by my self

all i have to say is dont always look for someone who is just like you, just find someone who is willing to find a common ground.
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It really all depends on who you hang with, If you hang with people that wouldn't neccesary like anime ( Although they can ex. Football jocks ) You'll have a less likely chance.
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Winterfells wrote:


Denmi-Sama wrote:

Lol me too an I'm a spring chicken!

And uh I don't quite remember - maybe it was another forum...?

And I mean dating in general. You're against dating right? Weren't you more of a "never-settling-down" kind of guy? Soorry in advance if I'm wrong but I kinda remember getting that sort of vibe.


Ah I see, well I am definitely not against dating. I think that serious dating, settling down, and marriage are all great things to strive for. I believe in love, but when it comes to me personally I feel a bit different.

For me, I just have some commitment problems and trust issues. I go out to parties, bars, lounges, clubs, and I talk to women. We hook up but it normally doesn't go much further than one-night stands or a few casual dates. I don't expect people to understand what I do or accept it. Because I know in their eyes I'm probably just a monster. And sometimes I do feel that way, like broken goods.

I did love this girl very much once, but it only led to a tragic ending. Suffice it to say, she took advantage of my love, betrayed my trust, cheated on me with a guy I knew, humiliated me in front of my friends and family, and left an emptiness inside I've never been able to fill since. So now, I'm just a hedonist, I live for pleasure and fun and satisfaction. Nothing complicated, not looking to open up to another woman.

So it feels at times that love and marriage aren't really in the cards for me. I'm not disenchanted with the principles of long-term relationships and commitment, I just don't think I'll ever find it, or that it'll work out for me.

Regarding this thread, I do try and give eternalchaos the best advice I know regarding women and dating, because in that sense I've gained a lot of experience through trial-and-error. Maybe it's because I'd like to see others have success where I have failed. Or at least know that I've been able to help someone find something I haven't been able to find for myself. I guess when it comes to finding a good woman, a strong long-term loving relationship, I've been pretty bad at. I guess I go after women who are bad for me. But in terms of casual dating and picking up women? Haha, that I'm good at.


Hahahaha ah that clears up a lot. But I am sorry to hear how this one girl crushed you. But I hope in the future you'll find someone that'll prove to you that not all girls are like your ex. I mean idc what you do in terms of long-term relationships/marriage. But if you do find that person who can help you get through your trust issues - that would be awesome!

But I mean - and no offense in advance - if you're only picking up girls for one-nights/few dates, how are you ever going to attract the attention of someone who could give you more than that? (And it's rhetorical. It's just how I see it. Again, I know it's not your goal but if you're feeling that you'll never trust someone - that could be a red flag???)


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Denmi-Sama wrote:

Hahahaha ah that clears up a lot. But I am sorry to hear how this one girl crushed you. But I hope in the future you'll find someone that'll prove to you that not all girls are like your ex. I mean idc what you do in terms of long-term relationships/marriage. But if you do find that person who can help you get through your trust issues - that would be awesome!

But I mean - and no offense in advance - if you're only picking up girls for one-nights/few dates, how are you ever going to attract the attention of someone who could give you more than that? (And it's rhetorical. It's just how I see it. Again, I know it's not your goal but if you're feeling that you'll never trust someone - that could be a red flag???)


Thanks, I'm not looking for anything right now.

I haven't been able to find any girl I want to open up to yet. I guess that part of me kind of atrophied and died. So right now I just meet girls and live in the now, and have fun. Nothing more to it. Some of my girl friends want me to snap out of it and be more serious, but I don't really feel like it.
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Some of my girl friends want me to snap out of it and be more serious, but I don't really feel like it.


Good shit, nobody should ever go around looking for a serious relationship. Unless it's really gnawing at them.
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Im still in highschool, and we have a Asian Culture Animation Club ( acac ) plenty of girls there
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CarboKill wrote:

Good shit, nobody should ever go around looking for a serious relationship. Unless it's really gnawing at them.


Yeah, I think when it happens it just happens. You spend time with someone you're attracted to and see where it goes from there.

It's kind of like you don't really go around looking for friends, you just meet people who are compatible with you and hang out, and it just takes time.
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aaaaah love what an interesting concept in life
Also Winterfells, don't worry I don't trust anyone too...similar things happened to me and luckily I never shared everything with that girl so it wasn't to hard to end our story..
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ispy12 wrote:

aaaaah love what an interesting concept in life
Also Winterfells, don't worry I don't trust anyone too...similar things happened to me and luckily I never shared everything with that girl so it wasn't to hard to end our story..


That's good to hear man - I'll admit I got messed up pretty bad, but I consider myself lucky. I was still able to function and get back to some sort of normalcy a few months afterwards. Some of my friends, were never the same after their girls broke their hearts. Couldn't even climb their way out of the pit of despair they were in.
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