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Finding a woman/man that's into Anime/Video-games
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edit : nvm all of that. I don't want to make you like me, it sucks.

it takes some time but just think about it, question yourself, know yourself and find the answers yourself is what I'll say now.
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I think the thing I have the most trouble with is stepping oustide my comfort zone. I tend to be shy that's another problem I have I just get nervous for no reason around women
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dude, i have the SAME problem. no one even knows what anime is, and everyone thinks videogames are for nerds. i hate it! i'm moving.
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shadorai wrote:

dude, i have the SAME problem. no one even knows what anime is, and everyone thinks videogames are for nerds. i hate it! i'm moving.


I hate when women do that or just people on general I'm not saying by amy means that all women are like that but in my experience its happens to me I'm not trying to offend any women in any way
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eternalchaos4200 wrote:


shadorai wrote:

dude, i have the SAME problem. no one even knows what anime is, and everyone thinks videogames are for nerds. i hate it! i'm moving.


I hate when women do that or just people on general I'm not saying by amy means that all women are like that but in my experience its happens to me I'm not trying to offend any women in any way


yeah, me neither. and i'm sure there are women like what i'm looking for, but i just haven't found them yet.
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eternalchaos4200 wrote:

I think the thing I have the most trouble with is stepping oustide my comfort zone. I tend to be shy that's another problem I have I just get nervous for no reason around women


maybe try to find out why you are nervous around them, there is probably a reason...a small lack of confidence, maybe self-esteem, maybe something that happened before, maybe something completely different, no one knows beside you.

It's true that talking one on one with a girl might be embarrassing because you don't want to look dumb or you don't want to act like you are hitting on her too much, like a creeper,etc. So maybe try to be with people at first, like a small group of people with girls and boys, it might be easier to talk to them if you are having a group conversation. Don't forget that in the society we live in now, as shy as you are and as embarrassing talking to a girl might be for you, a lot of girls will feel as shy and embarrassed.

Try to smile, be polite, good posture, try some humor if you're good, otherwise silence is better than saying stupid things and just listen to them.
Try a compliment about what she has that is special for you...I suggest something she has control of (it makes people feel like the effort worth it) like her hair or clothes or something that is unique about her. Nothing to personal.

Anytime in my life I analyse and understand the situation and it made me really neutral, I never judge and never say good or bad things.I put myself at the place of others to understand them and make decisions based on that. It made of me a really good listener and good to comfort people. It's good for people around me, but if I wasn't how I am I would probably break down so be careful.

again goodluck. :)

edit: no one talks openly about animes/video games here, but everyone plays it and a lot watches anime, all kind of people, from the geeks to the football players, trust me. A lot of girls have brothers or friends that play so they know, they just act as it was not cool because people aren't open about it and they don't want people to judge.
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eternalchaos4200 wrote:


I'm at a con now dragon con


You lucky bastard. I wanted to go but alas work and studies come first.
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ispy12 wrote:


eternalchaos4200 wrote:

I think the thing I have the most trouble with is stepping oustide my comfort zone. I tend to be shy that's another problem I have I just get nervous for no reason around women


maybe try to find out why you are nervous around them, there is probably a reason...a small lack of confidence, maybe self-esteem, maybe something that happened before, maybe something completely different, no one knows beside you.

It's true that talking one on one with a girl might be embarrassing because you don't want to look dumb or you don't want to act like you are hitting on her too much, like a creeper,etc. So maybe try to be with people at first, like a small group of people with girls and boys, it might be easier to talk to them if you are having a group conversation. Don't forget that in the society we live in now, as shy as you are and as embarrassing talking to a girl might be for you, a lot of girls will feel as shy and embarrassed.

Try to smile, be polite, good posture, try some humor if you're good, otherwise silence is better than saying stupid things and just listen to them.
Try a compliment about what she has that is special for you...I suggest something she has control of (it makes people feel like the effort worth it) like her hair or clothes or something that is unique about her. Nothing to personal.

Anytime in my life I analyse and understand the situation and it made me really neutral, I never judge and never say good or bad things.I put myself at the place of others to understand them and make decisions based on that. It made of me a really good listener and good to comfort people. It's good for people around me, but if I wasn't how I am I would probably break down so be careful.

again goodluck. :)

edit: no one talks openly about animes/video games here, but everyone plays it and a lot watches anime, all kind of people, from the geeks to the football players, trust me. A lot of girls have brothers or friends that play so they know, they just act as it was not cool because people aren't open about it and they don't want people to judge.


I have no idea its like when I'm around.women I just get nervous and star sweating
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Posted 8/30/12

crazyfirefly wrote:


eternalchaos4200 wrote:


I'm at a con now dragon con


You lucky bastard. I wanted to go but alas work and studies come first.


I will be taking a lot of pics tommorow ill share them on my FB
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at least on CR you are not next to women and you can be sure that women like animes here
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ispy12 wrote:

at least on CR you are not next to women and you can be sure that women like animes here ;)


True
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i live around the same area you do and i found that girls open up to new shit when they get to college too much pressure on them to fit in when they are in high school and shit so they would never admit it if they did and would probably just put you down if you told them about it. Remember this is only some girls i'm not trying to say every girl out there is like that so don't get all pissed at me for making a statement from what i've seen from girls thru my years.... ok with that said around where we live girls think of anime for the most part as cartoons and have a closed mine. I feel that the main thing required to enjoy anime is an open mind to all sorts of ways of thinking and in the south around the bible belt your just not allowed to be liberal and if you open up about it they make you an outcast. You have to be confident in yourself and figure out what helps you make it day by day. me personally, i didn't get into anime really until i was in college and my friends were all watching it. Probably need to work on finding a girl first and being able to talk to them and then slowly find out their taste and try watching something with them to expect to find someone already into it you better move to a big city AWAY from the south LOL.
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You already mentioned you don't consider yourself attractive. That's where you need to start. How can you expect others to like you if you don't like yourself? Women are attracted to confidence and stability above all else.

I should also add that a woman who is essentially "the female version of you" sounds nice; but you are better off finding someone who will challenge you and compliment your weaknesses.
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I met a woman into anime manga AND video games....needless to say we've been married a little over 5 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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kinga750 wrote:

You already mentioned you don't consider yourself attractive. That's where you need to start. How can you expect others to like you if you don't like yourself? Women are attracted to confidence and stability above all else.

I should also add that a woman who is essentially "the female version of you" sounds nice; but you are better off finding someone who will challenge you and compliment your weaknesses.


Its half of that I mean iv been going to the gym and.looseing. weight about 70ibs. Or so I guess that's all I can do for now
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