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Favorite Places To Have A First Date
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Posted 9/6/12 , edited 9/6/12
What are some of your favorite/best ideas of where to take someone on a first date?

I tend to avoid loud nightclubs or movie theaters on a first date because both of you are essentially strangers and neither venue affords any opportunity for talking and conversation. And really that's what a first date is all about. Learning more about the other person and getting a feel for what they're about and whether there is any chemistry/compatibility.

For this reason I like to go on first dates that are fun, playful, and laid-back. Never rushed so it disrupts conversation flow or is awkward.

I like to choose places that allow you to interact with your date, like say a fair, carnival, zoo, aquarium, etc. Where you can see cool things, participate in some game or activity, and maybe promote some playful competition and teasing.

Something that causes an adrenaline rush or fear is great too, like a scary rollercoaster ride, etc. People tend to open up a lot more and empathize with those around them when they feel like they're in a "life-or-death" situation.

Other date ideas that are romantic but allow for ample relaxation and conversation is perhaps going bowling, bonfire at the beach, picnic and walk at the park, etc.

Dinner should be someplace nice, but never so upscale that you feel like you have to whisper across the table, or feel uncomfortable dining at. You want your date to be relaxed and comfortable wherever you choose to have dinner at. Some guys might think it's romantic or a kind gesture to try and share food with their date. But I advise against this, especially on a first date, because it can make them feel quite uncomfortable. Remember, you barely really know the girl.

Posted 9/6/12 , edited 9/6/12

Winterfells wrote:

What are some of your favorite/best ideas of where to take someone on a first date?

I tend to avoid loud nightclubs or movie theaters on a first date because both of you are essentially strangers and neither venue affords any opportunity for talking and conversation. And really that's what a first date is all about. Learning more about the other person and getting a feel for what they're about and whether there is any chemistry/compatibility.

For this reason I like to go on first dates that are fun, playful, and is laid-back. Never rushed so it disrupts conversation flow or is awkward.

I like to choose places that allow you to interact with your date, like say a fair, carnival, zoo, aquarium, etc. Where you can see cool things, participate is some game or activity, and maybe promote some playful competition and teasing.

Something that causes an adrenaline rush or fear is great too, like a scary rollercoaster ride, etc. People tend to open up a lot more and empathize with those around them when they feel like they're in a "life-or-death" situation.

Other date ideas that are romantic but allow for ample relaxation and conversation is perhaps going bowling, bonfire at the beach, picnic and walk at the park, etc.

Dinner should be someplace nice, but never so upscale that you feel like you have to whisper across the table, or feel uncomfortable dining at. You want your date to be relaxed and comfortable wherever you choose to have dinner at. Some guys might think it's romantic or a kind gesture to try and share food with their date. But I advise against this, especially on a first date, because it can make them feel quite uncomfortable. Remember, you barely really know the girl.



Since Halloween is coming up I think seasonally I like taking cool dates to places like haunted houses and such. A person learns to get over their personal space issues and just relax real quick when they find themselves jumping all over you because of the event itself. It links into the fear/adrenaline rush thing and you have funny stories to share after you leave and talk about it over dinner.
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Since Halloween is coming up I think seasonally I like taking cool dates to places like haunted houses and such. A person learns to get over their personal space issues and just relax real quick when they find themselves jumping all over you because of the event itself.


Dressing up is a fun activity for two people to share in, by itself.

Exhilaration and fear have been shown to be powerful agents in forming romantic bonds between two people.

I believe there was a little study done where heterosexual men and women were paired up on blind dates randomly, with one group having a controlled, "safe" date that included the typical dinner/movie schedule.

The other one had a date that was more thrilling, something that would generate an adrenaline rush like sky-diving, cliff-jumping, roller-coaster, etc. that required the couple to take a "leap of faith" for one another.

It was found that the couples that went on the more scary, thrilling, heart-pumping dates were more likely to go on a second date and stay in a relationship for a longer time.

It was conjectured that sharing in an activity that was considered "life-threatening" helped pull the two people closer together, especially since they had to take a leap of faith with regards to one another. Two people in something life-threatening whether it's cliff-jumping or a bank heist, or held hostage tend to emotionally open up and cling to the people sharing their situation and empathize with each other. It leaves a bigger and more lasting impression.
Posted 9/6/12

Winterfells wrote:

Dressing up is a fun activity for two people to share in, by itself.

Exhilaration and fear have been shown to be powerful agents in forming romantic bonds between two people.

I believe there was a little study done where heterosexual men and women were paired up on blind dates randomly, with one group having a controlled, "safe" date that included the typical dinner/movie schedule.

The other one had a date that was more thrilling, something that would generate an adrenaline rush like sky-diving, cliff-jumping, roller-coaster, etc. that required the couple to take a "leap of faith" for one another.

It was found that the couples that went on the more scary, thrilling, heart-pumping dates were more likely to go on a second date and stay in a relationship for a longer time.

It was conjectured that sharing in an activity that was considered "life-threatening" helped pull the two people closer together, especially since they had to take a leap of faith with regards to one another. Two people in something life-threatening whether it's cliff-jumping or a bank heist, or held hostage tend to emotionally open up and cling to the people sharing their situation and empathize with each other. It leaves a bigger and more lasting impression.


OH MAN, Bank Heist first date HERE I COME!

J/K

You have a link to that article? I kinda want to check it out now.
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DangerousYams wrote:

OH MAN, Bank Heist first date HERE I COME!

J/K

You have a link to that article? I kinda want to check it out now.


I couldn't find the one I was looking for, it was a long time ago and I didn't bookmark it.

This one reflects a similar study though:

http://www.howaboutwe.com/date-report/1946-halloween-is-for-lovers-a-haunted-house-could-be-the-perfect-first-date-says-science/#

This one says something similar:

http://www.chemistry.com/datingadvice/DosandDonts
Posted 9/6/12

Winterfells wrote:

I couldn't find the one I was looking for, it was a long time ago and I didn't bookmark it.

This one reflects a similar study though:

http://www.howaboutwe.com/date-report/1946-halloween-is-for-lovers-a-haunted-house-could-be-the-perfect-first-date-says-science/#

This one says something similar:

http://www.chemistry.com/datingadvice/DosandDonts


Rockin, I will def check them out thanks man. My work is web filtering like a mofo right now... bleh.
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I always thought a first date was where you took her to your room and had sex. Sort of like a try before you buy kind of deal. Guess I'm doing it wrong.
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Anime Expo is a test :p

Then a movie.
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its been so long since i have been on a date i cant think of any good places that i havent done or arent over done. I live in arizona so there are mountains everywhere, so generally hiking is one i hear a lot, in fact the last girl i went on a date with (date went fine, but then she got back with her ex..... so clearly i was a bad date? idk) was talking about going hiking. Or theres shooting ranges, though thats one you would need to be careful about so you dont seem like some gun crazed lunatic, or ask a girl who is totally against guns. I took a girl hunting once cuz she said she wanted to go, but she started crying when I had to break the pheasants neck because it didnt die (i dont know if i didnt hit it well enough or it was far enough out that the shot ahd spread too much) but it was kinda cute....felt horrible though so i walked around the bushes and did it there so she didnt have to watch... Paintball, go karts ( wish i woulda dresed up like yoshi for it)mini golf. I had a girl talk me into doing spartan race once (if you dont know what it is look it up or think tough mudder on steroids with razor wire)
Posted 9/6/12
just play it by ear
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Hard Rock Cafe.

The drinks are awesome and you'll most likely avoid awkward silences.
Posted 9/7/12
I like going to this outdoor mall place.
It has restaurants, a movie theater.
Plus a yogurt place.
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The rotating heart-shaped bed is my favorite spot for a date. But seriously, I like something that isn't crowded or way too common (dinner and a movie), a walk on the beach or some kind of museum is nice.
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the dark alleyway you found her guessing even the good boys know what going down there....
p.s if you should say to her "prepare your anus"
Posted 9/7/12
My ideal place to go during a date is outdoors, particularly in Spring and Summer - and Autumn if it's not too windy.
It's really nice to be able to go out, walk about, go to little shops, explore side streets where cute little cafes are tucked away in the corners (in Korea at least, not sure about other places) and grab a bite (generally drinks/sweets/savory desserts) and grab street food or go to a casual restaurant.
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