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Posted 9/7/12

lorddisick wrote:



Yeah.
Plus most people at my school are idiots.


i think thats just about every school but i get what your saying
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I need to get a tshirt that says DONT APPROACH ME, next time I go anywhere. Random strangers, start conversations, I think if I give them an inch they will take a mile.
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CalifCat wrote:

People seem to approach me all the time and I feel cornered.


You'll never quit being shy if you don't even try. In fact it seems you are trying your very best to keep being shy. At least judging by the T-shirt comment.
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Maybe Im just introverted, because if I give more, than more is expected, and I want to be the one in control.. deep insight into me there.
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Now IM paranoid Im gonna post a duplicae and a volleyball along with a beer bottle will be hurled at my head, Im getting beat up tonight . moans.
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Posted 9/7/12

CalifCat wrote:

Now IM paranoid Im gonna post a duplicae and a volleyball along with a beer bottle will be hurled at my head, Im getting beat up tonight . moans.


LOLZzZ just quicly run away
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Posted 9/7/12
so what animes are you people watching?
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Posted 9/7/12
that was my non shy line at a party...above.
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Posted 9/7/12
I keep throwing myself in positions where I have to address rooms full of people. That's how I overcame my shyness.
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Posted 9/7/12
Like that group you join where you give 3 minute speeches on a random topic in front of a room??
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Posted 9/7/12

CalifCat wrote:

so what animes are you people watching?


moribito and naruto atm
Posted 9/7/12

CalifCat wrote:

Well you can go to groups that have same disorder as you and talk all about what you have in common

I dont mind meeting people, just not sure I want to talk to them , or really have anything to say.


So you don't like getting approached but you do want to get over your shyness yet you don't mind meeting people but don't think you'd have anything you want to talk to them about?

That's sorta complicated if you want to buck the shyness. Do you normally just meet new people through friends because unless you have a TON of friends in all walks of life, professions and personality types you probably won't be getting over your shyness very easily or very quickly. Just making an inference here. Personally, if you really do have as many random people approaching you as it sounds and especially if they want to dance; I think they find you attractive and more importantly, they don't find you intimidating. That's SO VALUABLE to have I can't stress that enough.

Now, I'm not saying throw all caution to the wind and become best friends with the next person that introduces themself but if they look reasonably normal, why not smile and just let them lead the conversation to see if they are worth talking to? To be able to make a direct conversation flow naturally with a total stranger is very difficult for a lot of people to attempt and anyone that approaches another with intent to get to know that person better is taking a chance with their ego. Afterall, you do always in fact have control over the conversation, like you mentioned in a later post from this one I'm directly quoting. You can choose to give feedback, stay disinterested, shut down the conversation altogether or crush that person's ego altogether by questioning them openly as to why they are even talking to you in the first place. Even if you aren't leading the conversation, you the person who was approached do have ALL the control in those situations.
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Posted 9/7/12
so then you ask a question back, thats how you do a conversation... now try it Eternal!
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Posted 9/7/12

CalifCat wrote:

so then you ask a question back, thats how you do a conversation... now try it Eternal!


what umm uh umm anime are you watching or is your favorite to watch?
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Thanks Yams, I have been told I have an approachable demeanor, But yea, I have to be the one to shut it down, if Im not feeling comfortable.
I still have things about myself to learn, : )
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