Kyandy wrote:
It's not as simple as others try to explain.
We for centuries and millennia, have been groomed to believe the only thing we have of value ( and means of survival ) are our looks. It's not the media believe me, this has been for much mooore longer than that, much longer before Clairol and american idol.
Women are given jobs, partners, social acceptance and value given their looks. It's not that we decide how to live, it's because if we don't follow certain rules we can hope to pretty much never move forward.
1 in a hundred guys cares not for what a girl looks like, because the natural look guys claim to like it's actually quite artificial lol. It's not the pretty lady from the tampax commercial with fair skin and seemly "not a trace of make up." All those pretty "natural" ladies spend HOURS of grooming to appear this "natural."
Natural, truly natural girls are...not really the majestic vision of fairy everyone has idealized a woman to be. It may hurt some women who try to hide it, but here we go, all the secrets of women grooming:
Cellulitis/Stretching marks are a fact. A LOT of exercise, treatment, and $$$ is needed to get that shit controlled.
If you forget to keep up with your skin, the skin WILL get angry and do some evil business. No anime skin is natural
we need oil, creams, exercise and massage for a "healthy and smooth" looking skin.
BODY HAIR is a fact, face, legs, breast, every little part had annoying body hair, at least every 30 days that insane shit
needs to be controlled. Trimming or waxing, else one ends up...well hairy, everywhere.
Body Fat is a fact, our hormones are not helpful AT ALL, every 15 days we have radical change in our hormones, we need
diet to maintain a balanced and cosmetic weight, if we leave all to nature we would not be fairy-like creatures. Because, we are not
built to be fairy-like creatures. We are supposed to create other human beings and that, well needs fat.
You might say "I don't care dating a fatty gorilla!" but's it's not only that, it's not only about feeling pretty, even in america
women to be respected need to be a certain type, to survive, to excel and to triumph. Jobs, opportunities, advancement, respect,
and everything else is given to us thanks to a certain look and ideal.
Men don't have to worry about that, but we do, our survival depends on our looks. Sad but truth.
We hate our legs, our hair, our weight not because we want to do it, but because we have to do it, flaws can change our daily lives
want it or not. Our bodies are complicated, and we must live to the expectations of other's ideals. We are forced by society to do so
Else, we are disrespected and treated poorly.
Wow you are very detailed and I wouldn't doubt this...I do want a woman to do all of those things you mentioned as in keeping themselves up and such, yet after all of the treatments, creams and exercise I think she can feel good about herself..when I was 240lbs I felt a little less confident so I lost the weight now I'm 195lb nothing but muscle(it was something I could change), but if it is something in your gene's that wont change or something as small as a little cellulite or pear shape or long arms or whatever it is that she should at least be or at least try to become more confident in front of the guy that doesn't mind it. Because it stresses her out and intern stresses him out that his words kinda don't matter and a relationship can suffer in this situation. You ladies do have a lot to worry about concerning appearence its the small minor or unchangable things I am more focused on in this thread.
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WOMEN AND GIRLS why are you so hard on your self when it comes to the way you view your body? 
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