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WOMEN AND GIRLS why are you so hard on your self when it comes to the way you view your body?
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Anyone can feel this way, it doesn't matter what gender a person is. Females worry about hair/face/thighs, males worry about other things... *ahem* .

The age group that worries a lot about self-image tends to fall from 14-29. Though this is not set in stone, any age can feel insecure about themselves, but you rarely see an older person worrying about self-image or a 10 years old kid worrying about it.

It all boils down to two core explanations; societal standards and the need to impress the opposite sex/same sex.
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If women think bulimia will help them lose weight and become more attractive, they should first contemplate about the effects of stomach acid on their teeth over an extended period of time...


Yeah, because that's the first thing that comes to a person's mind when they feel insecure and like they are worthless. It's not until they are able to admit they have problem that they really think about the consequences of their actions. The same goes for just about all eating disorders.
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keekk1 wrote:

Am I the only one who actually finds makeup ugly? That's why ive never worn any. But I'm only ~15 so what do I know lol


Nope, I don't really like wearing it. I did wear it for a time, in middle school when I wasn't particularly happy with myself, but when I got to high school I made the decision to stop and haven't regretted it once.
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Beauty lies in health and self respect IMO. I wish we never followed trends and all made our own distinct way of life. Everything is being spoon fed now a days on how things ought to be. Really stifles the imagination.



Just a voice crying in the wind. Only to be heard vicariously through the uniform essential being that distinguishes them from others, considered as the object of introspection or reflexive action.


I will leave now...
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It's not only girls believe me. I knew a guy who used to go histerical over a mosquito bite in a visable place and who himself loved judging others who passed us by on their looks. And then you have guys who spend days in gyms, not judging people who workout as it is my hobby as well, but I dont tend to go to the locker room and stair in the mirror flexing and checking myself out. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder as they say, whats beautiful to me maybe, for the lack of a better phrase, not so beautiful to someone else. Who exactly set a standart for beauty? Maybe we can blame the media maybe not, I will not debate that. Nowadays self respect and confidence are the most valuable, imho anyways.
And with that I think I'll wrap up this wall of text of mine
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Posted 6/23/13
No matter what we say, everyone does care what people say about ourselves. We care to some extent. And alot of our shames of not loving our body has to do on what society wants and what others say to us. There is no such thing as the perfect body. Family members, close friend, bullies in person and online, strangers, boyfriends, girlfriends, the list goes on. They all say something about your own looks. Maybe they do it unintentionally or intentionally but it effects us someway. But I think that men and women sometimes forget that beauty comes from the inside. Love is not just about looks. So girls and guys it's alright to think something about your bodies is off or ugly or wrong. Everyone does, but one day you will find someone who loves all your imperfections!!!!
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Women are hard on themselves because they've been made to be like that, literally.
Many advertisements a day tell a women she needs to lose more weight, she needs to cover her face with more make up, she needs to do this and do that because she's not good enough.

They're basically told all the time that all that matters is if they're attractive.
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As a guy I see women on tv shows, in real life and even on crunchyroll forum post saying how their too tall or short, or hate their legs, thighs, feet, hips and the list goes on and on down to every last deatailed part of their body's. I was dating a girl who was a model, nothing wrong with her at all from where I was looking, but she told me that she is ashamed of her toes and I asked why and she replied "their too fat" and no matter what I said she still thought that her toes were fat and they realy realy weren't .

Ladies no matter how you think you look a guy will find something sexy about you and THATS IS ALL THAT WE NEED to be attracted to you....I know media and magizines hold you to unfair standards of Beauty, but if guys were held to such a thing the magizine company's and media wouldn't make any money due to the fact that we don't realy give a damn what they think so why can't it be that way for you?,even if we tell you your beautiful?? I am in no way trying to beat you down, but I just want you to know that every one of you are beautiful in some way to some guy....and that he will be happy with just you and all of you even your so-called fat toes so believe in YOUR own beauty and back it up with confidence :)



This dude says it all.
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Once all my other friends started getting into relationships (if you can even call them that when you're 12) I just kinda thought that I needed to be prettier and more flawless-looking in physical appearance. It also didn't help that I'd been called ugly and shitface before and was in the beginning stages of depression at that time. When my depression's not acting up I don't hate my physical appearance but I certainly don't love it either. When my depression's acting up though and my low self esteem's kicked in I will hate every little thing about myself. I can't help it then, its just the way my mind is. And I think its also just a teen/young adult thing, for both genders, to want to look physically attractive as this is usually the time when most people are dating and looking for life long partners.
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Because humans are competitive, and most people are unconsciously driven to try and increase their chances of acquiring a mate by, at least, a little bit.
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Well I get called the ugly sister but I doesn't really bug me since my sister's face structure is beautiful and I got stuck with my mums big nose and my dad goldfish eyes. The way I want to look is so unrealistic it would cost me near to 90 grand and believe me I've looked into it , but what a waste of money for a few years worth of being happy with my physical appearance before it doesn't matter any more ( haha not that I could ever raise the money while paying for my apartment , car ect) . I'll just be grateful for what I have ....and that people don't throw up when looking in my general direction.
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Lol, Life is for some people really hard, Why not take hard way is the easy way is possible
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Only beautifuk people say that all girls are beautiful -_-
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Kanade_Yagami wrote:


marcel20 wrote:

As a guy I see women on tv shows, in real life and even on crunchyroll forum post saying how their too tall or short, or hate their legs, thighs, feet, hips and the list goes on and on down to every last deatailed part of their body's. I was dating a girl who was a model, nothing wrong with her at all from where I was looking, but she told me that she is ashamed of her toes and I asked why and she replied "their too fat" and no matter what I said she still thought that her toes were fat and they realy realy weren't .

Ladies no matter how you think you look a guy will find something sexy about you and THATS IS ALL THAT WE NEED to be attracted to you....I know media and magizines hold you to unfair standards of Beauty, but if guys were held to such a thing the magizine company's and media wouldn't make any money due to the fact that we don't realy give a damn what they think so why can't it be that way for you?,even if we tell you your beautiful?? I am in no way trying to beat you down, but I just want you to know that every one of you are beautiful in some way to some guy....and that he will be happy with just you and all of you even your so-called fat toes so believe in YOUR own beauty and back it up with confidence :)



Until society stops shaming women and girls to fit into this cookie cutter ideology of how we should look, I don't think this will ever truly go away.


Kanade you have the power to fight against society and live the life you want. Believe it when I say that you have the power to make your own reality....society can keep creating boundaries for us, but it is up to us to listen to them or create our own path to walk in. The path I speak of is not easy nor full of people to lean on, but it IS possible.
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