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27 / M / Gotham City
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Posted 9/14/12 , edited 9/14/12
Anyone here play Cupid? Shoot arrows from their Eros quiver? Serve the role of matchmaker? Help acquaintances/friends/family get through a relationship dry spell by introducing them to other acquaintances/friends/family?

I'm just asking because for some odd reason, the responsibility is always expected of me among the circle of people I know to "hook people up." Like somehow it's my job.

If my sister breaks up with her bf, she goes to me. If my guy friends just ended a relationship, they come to me and ask if I have any girl friends, or girlfriends with girl friends, that I can introduce to them. Hell, I've even had a coworker ask me if I had any guy friends or brothers, cousins, etc. that I wanted to set her up with on a blind date.

Some of the matches I've set up have ended very well. As a matter of fact a few weeks ago I went to the wedding of my two good friends who I introduced to one another two years ago. But some of them have failed miserably and have really affected my relationship with those people.

Anyone here relegated to the role of matchmaker? What do you think of it?

On the flip side has anyone here been the recipient of matchmaking? How did it turn out for you?

Suffice it to say, I think matchmaking is a dangerous conflict of interest, and I'm just tired of constantly brewing love potion #9's. :(

Posted 9/14/12 , edited 9/14/12
I used to do the matchmaker bit all the time and realized it wasn't really helping me out in any way, shape or form so I stopped. There's only so far I'm willing to help people before my own ship should come in. Otherwise i might as well have DOORMAT stamped on my forehead.
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hahahaha I choose to play matchmaker :)
When I see a cute potential couple, I immediately spring into action...
except, I end up getting jealous of their relationships in the end...
And none have ever lasted...
haha I should stop trying to help
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I'm a matchmaker.
My friends loved it when I sprinkled some love on them, and I love it when they appreciate it. So I keep on helping them.
So far, they're not that kind of person to blame things on me when the relationship didn't turned out well.
But I'm so good at advising people about their love issues but when it comes to my love life I can't deal with my own issues.
It just sucks XD
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I can still remember all my dating disasters at MU--Columbia 40+ years ago that were pre-arranged. Ten percent of them worked well. I had great friends over those semesters but I never instilled enough interest from them to be considered as marriage material. Looking back, that was a good thing as I was clueless about relationships, much less keeping them.

During my 30's and early '40's I managed to meet people through personal ads in newspapers rather than opt for bars, church, grocery store aisles. Using 50 words or less as a composite I met a lot of interesting people this way and learned a lot about myself and the relevance of my expectations along the journey in search of that special someone who could touch my soul. I came very close twice to getting married then but that didn't happen: I initiated the break up with the first one; the second one initiated the break up with me. Both happened to be named Cathy (1 with the C, one with K) so no freudian slip of the tongue transpired to complicate arrangements.

I have tried dating services over time. I found a few to be disappointing and too expensive while others generated some wonderful friendships. Looking back on these experiences I should have stayed with the first choices these matchmakers chose rather than deluding myself "playing the field". Such dalliance more than once cost me the joy from loving a great person whose personality would've filled the void in my soul.

I gave up on myself many times through my history. Yet Hope, if you let it, can transcend and transform. The very last dating service I tried at age 55 taught me some valuable lessons about people, my self, aging, and revising life expectations. As an individual ages certain truths that seemed relevant from younger times were no longer appropriate or applicable. In other words Kiddo, check out the old hens, leave the younger set alone as they have a vast array of choices and you won't be 1 of them.

With what I learned adjusting to this new set of life parameters I was able to find my soul-mate via e-Harmony within 3 weeks after sign-up from a field of 46 candidates. At age 64 I have been happily married for 6 years and intend remaining that way. If I can do it so can you if that's what you're truly looking for.

As the old Arkansas adage goes: why did the chicken cross the road? To show the possum it could be done. If this saying makes little sense just check out the roadkill that dots the highways around here.....get it now?
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Posted 9/14/12
find me a match winter
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I'm the opposite, I've been the indirect cause of the fall of a fistful of relationships.
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21 / M
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I'm better at hooking up people then hooking my self up...

I hooked up two friends in High School...
While me, over here, was trying to get a girlfriend my self...Had a tough time and a newb wing bro.
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25 / M / Boston
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Hooked up a girl I met in college with a guy I met in college when we were all freshman. They got married 4 years later. Ain't no thing.

Hooked up a lesbo at work with another chick I knew through the girl I was dating at the time. They went out for 2 years, then had a break up so brutal and horrible it was laughable.

Got 2 of my friends laid at the same party with different girls in the same room at the same time. I literally kicked back and enjoyed a cigar while I could hear the 4 of them banging it out. Best cigar I ever smoked. Mission accomplished.
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Posted 9/15/12
I once had a couple friends who I thought would go great together. So I shot one of them with an arrow. Unfortunately, they never got together and I ended up getting arrested. Maybe using carbon arrows with my compound bow wasn't the best idea.....
Posted 9/15/12
Sure. But I'll always find the opposite. Ask for a cute girl, and I'll find you a fat girl or a gay guy. Because friends are precious.
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19 / M / Purgatory
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Posted 9/15/12
I played the matchmaker for alot of my friends, however, sometimes I want someone to matchmake for me
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I've done it intentionally once. I'd seen one of my girl friends eyeing this guy when we were at a bar. He was 2 meters tall, thin and bearded. looked to be at most 23 years old. It was funny because this girl once told me that her ideal guy would be around that height, which I thought at the time was a bit too ambitious, and she's really short. Anyway it seemed that they had once had a short conversation with each other a while back. When I noticed her casting looks in that guys direction and averting her gaze over and over she told me and added "whatever, he wouldn't remember me."

That guy kept glancing our way so I simply replied "Uh huh..."

Then the fidgeting and glancing around was getting ridiculous, and the fact that the bar was packed full of intoxicated idiots was really starting to annoy me so the next time we passed by that guy I literally grabbed hold of my friend and shoved her at him. My non verbal way of saying "she's all yours."

That was around four years ago. Now they're looking to buy a house together. There is talk of marriage and children. And I find myself thinking, how different their lives would be if it hadn't been for me. Just goes to show that sometimes all you need is a good shove.

Other times I wonder if I'm being manipulated as an instrument by fate. My best friend really wanted to go to a concert. She couldn't get to the location and she was only able to make it because I volunteered to give her a ride. Well there she met someone working backstage and now they've been a couple for almost two years.

Maybe I make a good cupid because I've held no interest in romantic love for myself so far.
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Posted 9/15/12
I don't think people have the right to play matchmaker. I mean who knows what kind of people you like better than you? Also 90% of the time playing matchmaker ends badly and then who will they blame when things go south?

Something to chew on.
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Posted 9/16/12

marcmannn wrote:

find me a match winter


Uh-oh.

Not sure you would want that, lol.
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