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Last Chance for Love?
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24 / M / Realm of liquid m...
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Posted 9/18/12
Gota tell ya im a bit envious, i never got a chance to live my golden years. i decided homeschool would be better
and i never stepped foot in a highschool. so many days like today i am reminded of my mistake among many
they poison my blood and stain my behaviour.
Living life to the fullest was one thing i never did, and now im a undying corpse cursing the living.
So if you dont try now, you never will.

Sincerly, Avarice.
Posted 9/18/12
Grow some balls and confess or potentially regret it for the rest of your life. You have two simple solutions, why waste time garnering comfort?
Posted 9/18/12
From a guy's perspective and some years of wisdom behind me; I can tell you that sometimes guys can be really "dumb" at times when it comes to liking/caring about someone else. Of the 8 GF's I've had, 5 of them were started from them asking me out. Of those 5, 4 of them I didn't even realize that they liked me "that way". Some of those relationship starters are still memories I enjoy remembering. From one lady just grabbing me and giving me a huge, deep kiss from out of nowhere to the one lady "stalking" me to my place to find out where I lived so she could drop off a love letter into my mailbox.

Really, the last year of high school really is the time to lay it all out on the line. EVEN! if somehow things go horribly bad and the rumor factory turns this into poo, you only have less than a year to care about what those people think of you. Plus really, WTF does it matter what those people think of you any ways? If he shoots you down and brags to people how "desperate" or "weird" you are, then he's really not the nice guy you thought he was in the first place so you saved yourself a ton of heartache.

As a guy, sometimes it's nice to be asked out. Guys (especially if we're the shy type) have the same setbacks and hang ups about asking women out. "What if she says no, how would I be able to look at her again without her judging me, what if her being nice to me is just her being friendly and not liking me 'that way'". We're just as embarrassed sometimes as women are at asking someone else out. However, I don't think there's ever been a time in my life where when a woman told me that she liked me, did I ever feel uncomfortable about it. It always makes you feel great to know that someone likes you and can really make your day. If you go for it, I wish you the best of luck but if he's really the nice guy you think he is, I high doubt that anything bad will come of it.
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Posted 9/18/12
Do it~!

Worst you'll get is a 'no' and that will be that.
But at least you will know how the other person feel.
If you don't ask, you might regret it and be stuck the rest of your life asking yourself 'what if?'.
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19 / F / Honeydukes
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Posted 9/18/12
Ask him already, before someone else snatches him
that's what happened to me and I really regret it
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Posted 9/18/12
High School romances are like long distance relationships, they rarely last like everyone wishes they did.

Not to sound cold but shoot for something in college. Better chance of it lasting.
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Posted 9/18/12
Rejection will feel like a baseball bat to the face. But regret is a gnawing pain that will slowly devour you on the inside for years to come.

With that in mind, the clear better option is to face the potential of rejection by approaching this guy you like and see if it leads to anything. Even if it doesn't, at least you can close that chapter in your life and move on.

No offense, you look like a decently attractive girl, and most guys in high school are raging in hormones, they'd drop their pants at the sight of anything with two legs and a vagina. This guy you like might be different, but I doubt it. If a relationship doesn't work out at least you can still use his body, lol.
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Posted 9/18/12

Winterfells wrote:

Rejection will feel like a baseball bat to the face. But regret is a gnawing pain that will slowly devour you on the inside for years to come.

With that in mind, the clear better option is to face the potential of rejection by approaching this guy you like and see if it leads to anything. Even if it doesn't, at least you can close that chapter in your life and move on.

No offense, you look like a decently attractive girl, and most guys in high school are raging in hormones, they'd drop their pants at the sight of anything with two legs and a vagina. This guy you like might be different, but I doubt it. If a relationship doesn't work out at least you can still use his body, lol.


That's pretty much it, regret is a pain in the arse.
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Winterfells wrote:

Rejection will feel like a baseball bat to the face.


Yeah, not pleasant. I took a thrown bat to the face once, got it just under the left eye, cracked my skull and I bled a lot.
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Posted 9/18/12
Well since you don't wanna hear my "education is key" crud, go and confess to the guy already. Not only will it ease your worries but it will also be a lighter burden knowing. Think about it, would you rather confess to the guy now or wait some years when he's older, life happens and then ask after all the guilt done drove you delusional? Life's not tv and it doesn't work that way. Gather that courage and confess. Then maybe you can get closer with some study dates or something, I don't know.
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Posted 9/18/12
Have a little more confidence in yourself. I don't know you well enough to make accusations but I can tell you're a nice person.

Recently I just graduated from my high school (Class of 2012). It's very true you won't see many of your classmates afterwards.

...I guess what I would do is not what you're going to expect, I'm not normal in most cases but my method isn't bad. Really I would just try to make a better connection with this guy, become friends in real life. A bond grows the more you both spend time together its a well known fact. You don't have to confess that you like/love him right now. I think in due time it will naturally come to the both of you if you both just start sharing a bond.
I could of worded this better I know.. It's hard helping people with their love life because you want them to succeed. I really hope my advice helps.
Anyhow good luck don't fret about it too much and just be yourself. The rest will come!

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Posted 9/18/12
Learn from the Bene Gesserit:

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.
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Posted 9/18/12
I've never been in a situation quite like yours, but I can see why it's a problem. Of course, you're just going to get a reiteration of the answers you've already heard, no matter who you ask, because those are the obvious solutions.

No matter how you look at it, if you want him to notice you, you're going to have to put yourself out there.
But don't just walk up to him and confess your "love" -- that would be stupid and make him uncomfortable.

Instead, try giving him a compliment (like you're a really nice guy) and then invite him to go do something with you (e.g. a movie) but don't say it's a date or anything like that.

If he has any intuition whatsoever he will probably pick up your hint at least a little. From there just gradually try to make it more obvious.

That is pretty much the best advice I have for now. If you really can't say anything to him out of fear of embarrassment, just give up. If you're not willing to take any chances, then thinking about him isn't worth your time.
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Posted 9/18/12
In my opinion become friends atleast. If you try and you two cant even hold a convo, then move on. Youre going to meet so many more people in your life, especially in college and a job and so on. Anyways Goodluck
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Posted 9/18/12
I was in the exact same situation in high school two years ago except our genders were reversed (and I was "the shy one"). Please keep in mind that I have no romantic experience, so take what I say with a grain of salt.

I was madly in love with this girl, so I confessed to her on the very last day of school. I even handed her a letter filled with poetry I had written for her over the course of about a year or so. She rejected me, but did so in the sweetest manner possible.

If he rejects you, you will feel sad. I still feel tinges of sadness even now after two years. However, there is no reason not to confess. If you truly love him, then even if your chances were 1,000,000 to 1 it would still be worth the risk. Even if you don’t truly love him, then you’d end up getting over it eventually anyway. This was my reasoning at the time, and I still stand by it today. ^.^

Just my opinion from being in a similar situation. Take it as you will, but don’t give it too much weight. I may be an odd case as everyone else my age seemed to take love far less seriously than I did (and still do).

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