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Asked out... by a guy
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So I'm straight - everyone who knows me properly knows I'm straight (even though I used to be effeminate as fuck!). So there's one rumor in college about me: that I'm a man-whore and get with every girl (mostly when I was drunk...)

Then I found out there's another rumor about me: that I came out the closet two years ago and was bullied so I changed! (WTF!)

Now, I have some people that hate me for genuine reasons, and I can see them chatting shit about me... But here's where it got ridiculous...

Start of the new college year, I'm sitting in the canteen eating my subway chatting to a mate I haven't seen in years. This gay-guy who somehow knows my name even though I've never spoken to him says to me - "[my name] I heard you are gay!" Now I'm just like, wtf is this twat on about? But then he makes a pass at me "I like asian guys, I'm just waiting for them to come out the closet". Now, he said this while I was sitting opposite him, and I kinda of stopped eating for a second because I was getting so annoyed. Then he starts saying I'm gay which really started to piss me off: not because he asked me out, but because he was being such an annoying rude cunt about it and said it again-and-again...

Anyway, long-story short, I told this to my gay mate and he laughed. Told it to my straight girl mate, she said I was being homophobic? Now, gay guys have tried it on with my twice before. Once clubbing, once when I was a camp 16 year old. And well - those were cool because the guys weren't being dickheads about it and at the club I got free drinks.

But this fucker kept saying it, again-and-again-and-again and really pissing me off! What makes it worse, even if I was gay, I wouldn't go for a guy that looked like him anyway ha! (No homo!)
Posted 9/25/12 , edited 9/25/12
All you really can do is be polite and just them you arent gay , dont make a big deal out of things that makes it worse.
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I did say I wasn't gay, politely. He just kept going on-and-on-and-on!
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It happens...but I understand your annoyance.
Anyone who forces you to listen to that needs a slap.
I've been hit on before and eyed up...being straight makes it odd, but I dealt with it.
People who are gay understand that I'm not, and now i'm not uncomfortable when they joke.
I would say the ones with real homophobia are the people who call everyone gay for sport.
I believe this guy was totally just caught up in the rumor, and just ran with it because you reacted.

Ideally, you should leave with your dignity, and the offending person understanding that you're not interested.
Sometimes when people press you, it's acceptable to lash out, but only when they are actually threatening.
Otherwise you could get blamed for a hate crime or some tripe like that, and no one needs that at all, right?
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As one effeminate guy to another, just clearly say that your straight. Don't be rude or anything but if its someone outright asking to go on a date just say something like "sorry, I'm straight." or make a joke and say "I don't think my girlfriend would like that too much sorry and smile jokingly. That is what I did nightly when I was working in a gay bar.
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Posted 9/25/12 , edited 9/25/12

HideoFTW wrote:

I did say I wasn't gay, politely. He just kept going on-and-on-and-on!


reply him back "why you insist that i am gay,because you like me too?"

and other way might be harder but it works all time ...just a little long time to cooldown [Don't bother or entertain them,in other words ignore them ] who ever talks to you unrelated stuff like outing ,eating those non-annoying stuff you can just reply it right away.
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Posted 9/25/12
Man he must think you're cute. Who cares, take it as a compliment
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it did happen a few times i got asked out by girls and well i just replied politely that i liked guys and wasn't into girls at all.
And they got the message. Just be polite and he will get it.
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Posted 9/25/12
Well you can be polite if ya want, but as a guy who looks at a guy hitting me is a waste of my time
I'd just say listen bro I'm not into dude's but I never had to because I am always very aware of my surroundings
and if I see a dude checking me out I just act like I don't see him and he gets the idea. I'm all about prevention.
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Posted 9/25/12
you might have a yandere lover right there
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That guy is silly, don't worry about him! Rumors don't really matter, just tell them the truth when you can and forget about it.

It's really not worth a second thought.
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Posted 9/25/12

HideoFTW wrote:

So I'm straight - everyone who knows me properly knows I'm straight (even though I used to be effeminate as fuck!). So there's one rumor in college about me: that I'm a man-whore and get with every girl (mostly when I was drunk...)



hmm.
I'm not sure what college you been to. But every college I go to there may be rumors but no one takes them seriously. guys dont talk about gossip only female do. and i'm pretty sure the female don't really gossip much about guys being a man whore.


so I'm really interested in what college or university you are attending for people to care that much about you being gay and what not.
Posted 9/25/12
I would be somewhat flattered by the approach and reasonable about the refusal.
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Posted 9/25/12
Very... Uhh... Awkward...? Personally getting so much attention would drive me insane. But that's just me.
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