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Divorce if partner leaves your religion? Mainly for women
Posted 10/3/12
Since most women say to me they won't marry a guy who isn't the same religion as them, I will ask this.

Lets say you married your mr gentleman/perfect etc - if you had kids with that person, but they left your religion would you divorce them and state yes or no?

Guys do the same but for wife I hope :lol:

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22 / M / 風の山
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Posted 10/3/12
personally i always thought marriage as a mutual respect for one another. so if they don't mind i don't mind. i don't mind doing religious activities in their sake, but i would never ask them to do it for my sake. if we had kids, i'd like them to learn from both religion and decide for themselve later or use both to their advantage.

so personally no. though usually this kinda state of mind would occur with another event. so i would probably try to sit down and talk or have therapy to see if its something else.

im not really that religious, well atleast to the the devoted religious person. im pretty standard with my religion. but if married to someone with different background i'd treat it as a hobby. i'll do it on my own time, if i have to do it with you around, i hope you'd respect it kinda thing.
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33 / M / San Luis Obispo
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Posted 10/3/12
A bit of a touchy subject, if your divorcing a person just because they left or dropped said religion, then they shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. If they truly love each other they would work it out.

But oh's well people get divorced for leaving the towels on the floor, and picking their nose. Marriage isn't what it used to be anymore.

@ emperorreyofthe sounds to me the girls are really telling you to take a hint, not to hit on them. Just like when your at a bar and the chick tells you she's gay or has a boyfriend, when clearly she is not.

Best of luck on your dating, seems like you need it.
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27 / M / Australia NSW
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Posted 10/3/12
Good topic and no i wouldnt i wouldnt realy care if she did leave that said religion cause its stuped to get divorced cause they did and i agree with echoshadows5 on the marrage part why get married if ur going to be like that towards the one u love
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Posted 10/3/12
I don't give two hoots what religion you practice. No, I will not divorce you if you decided to follow a religion, nor will I bother you about it, just leave me be and don't try and convert me because that's annoying.

Getting a divorce over a religion is just... IMHO dumb. Considering you mentioned kids (sigh) getting a divorce over something so trivial is too much of a hassle.Finding and paying for a lawyer, the stress and trauma on your children and family, and the stress and emotional dance you'll have to go through with your ex. Let's face it once you get married it's not all about you you you.

Once the ring is on you need to make compromises, also if a person leaving your religion is enough for you to divorce then it wasn't meant to be to begin with.

Also what women are you talking to? I don't know your age range, but I've never heard any girl around my age say something like that. I'm sure even a 40 year old would be open about dating someone from a different background. Only women I know that would be upset about it, are late 60's....
Posted 10/3/12
I don't give two ***** about religion. Why should it stop you from loving someone? And besides if that person leaves you due to the difference of opinion on religion then that person really doesn't love you enough. I think it's the dumbest thing if you do, do that in the name of religion and this so called 'God' stopping you. But whatever, some people are like that. IMO
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Posted 10/3/12
My religion doesn't let me marry, so I'll have to leave it to get divorced at all.
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26 / M / Canada
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Posted 10/3/12 , edited 10/3/12
I have no religion, really, but believe there is some kinda god, no matter how much coercing someone does I never convert. But, if I were religious or non-religious, and the person I married changed, I will support them but I wouldn't praise their god like they do. If they wanna get a divorce, I'll wave and give her full custody and say see ya later.

Case in point: Don't marry an idiot, man or woman, and believe in equality, not you you you/me me me, and you'll have a perfect relationship.
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44 / M / Reno, NV, USA
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Posted 10/3/12
Everyone has a religion, i.e. a worldview-- how one perceives and makes sense of all that is. Whether that religion (or "worldview," if you prefer) is theistic or atheistic, mystical or materialist, has an official name, scripture, rituals, and/or governing body or not is a whole other set of questions. How devoted to or how much one understands own one's claimed religion can also be quite variable. It seems to me some here fail to grasp how devoted some people can be to their worldview, instead projecting their own worldview onto others. Throughout history many have given much of themselves for others, seemingly against their own self-interest, because of their religion. Alas, some people also have been very ready and willing to sacrifice others, again, because of their worldview.

Anyway, I have to ask, do "most women" REALLY say that? I'm a Christian man, and a fairly conservative one. Among those women like me, yes, they generally do say they will not marry a man who is not of their faith or of at least similar faith, and they'll mean exactly what they say. All the women I dated previously, as well as my now wife were of that persuasion. Marriage is, among other things and in addition to love, a matter of mutual compatability and walking a conjoined life path; marrying someone with a significantly conflicting worldview would seem counter to this and unwise to me (and Biblically proscribed as well). Marriage, though, isn not a means of evangelism (i.e. spreading one's faith). However, most people I know, who are generally "not very religious" in the usual sense of that term (despite my above paragraph), don't seem to consider religion (in the usual sense of that term) much at all in their dating relationships or marriages. Like echoshadow5, I wonder if that's just an excuse to basically tell you "I'm not interested, look elsewhere."

As for divorce, for Christians like me, it's not an allowable option, even if one's spouse should leave one's religion, and one wouldn't necessarily stop loving the non-believing spouse at all. One is also not to marry a non-believer. As there is forgiveness for all other sins, a mixed marriage like this would be forgiven as well, and the marriage would certainly be honored as entirely legitimate from the beginning-- including binding the believing partner and forbidding divorce of the non-believing partner. The unbelieving partner wouldn't be bound, and could leave the marriage if he/she choose. (Divorce can be forgiven as well-- in churches I've attended, we've had plenty of people with unbelieving spouses and divorce(e)s.) For the believing partner, one would indeed try and hope to win the unbelieving partner back.

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19 / M / New Jersey
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Posted 10/3/12 , edited 10/3/12

Everyone is entitled to their opinion when it comes to how the world came to be and where we go when we depart from this earth.
If your spouse's views shift and you can't accept them for who they are then it wasn't love in the first place.
I'm agnostic, and I'm keeping it that way. (:
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25 / M / Lost in the Digit...
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Posted 10/3/12
Over all, I wouldn't divorce someone for changing religions. When people get married, they say for better or worse. That being said, divorce is not this evil thing that people are making it out to be. My mother has divorced and married several times (she's on her fourth husband now.) I haven't been overly traumatized by that happening. The only reason to get divorced is if you can not find true happiness with your partner. Marrage is about happiness, kindness, understanding, and over all love. If religion is do big that your partner has to be of the same religion, then eventually you will have to make the decision if you love them reguardless of who they worship or if that is a real deal breaker. Unless they do a personality 180 they are still the same person you loved before they converted.
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Posted 10/3/12
I have relegion.... but yeah I wouldn't divorce per say my other half/wife had a different religion... if she had a problem with it then why would she marry me in the first place... personally I don't care if she has a different religion than me. as long as we get a long thats fine.
Posted 10/3/12 , edited 10/3/12
I would have to say divorce would be likely if one or more of these conditions were met:

1. Wife joined a cult and wants to move into the religious "Compound"
2. Said cult is polygamist and my wife wanted to be married to the reverend as well
3. There were blood sacrifices for my wife's new religion and I was considered a prime candidate
4. Sex was grounds for ex-communication
5. Children were taken away to be raised by the congregation

Conversely to this, I would say my immediate conversion would be on the horizon if at least one the following conditions were true:

1. The religion had possession of and the manufacturing capacity to produce additional working Iron Man or War Machine suits.
2. The Community Hall had a wave pool and water slides along with a mini golf course and go kart racing.
3. Confession was held at the Parish Bar and Grill during UFC fights and major sporting events
4. The pastor or community leader came to church in a Veritech and offered free ride alongs for Volunteers and Community Service
5. The entire congregation including office and teaching staff was currently female and lingerie models...
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24 / M / kalamazoo, michigan
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Posted 10/3/12
id hope i would know enough about my wife before i would marry her and would like to have a partner with enough faith to not just give up on a belief. and in doing so, i usually honor the fact that they have a religion. (doesnt necessarily have to be my exact religion). but given the circumstances, i would still love her. i might end up being more distant because i wouldnt feel as comfortable taking advice from them or speaking my mind, but i would still love her none the less
Posted 10/3/12
Love is supposed to be the basis of which we live. What can stand between it? Apparently, some abstract ideas.
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