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Divorce if partner leaves your religion? Mainly for women
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23 / F / New Zealand
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Posted 10/5/12
I'm religious and my wife isn't, and I'm totally fine with it. We just let each other do as each other wishes with it. I wouldn't get divorced over it anyway, though. Divorce isn't something I consider an option.
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Extremely interesting due to the fact that I had to have this discussion with a bunch of youngins in my youth group, but here's what we came to.

At times as a Catholic my religion is tied in extremely well into our marriage. No I'm not about to give a stump speech so please hear me out

A marriage is a blessing, a sacred vow, a calling you take with your wife or husband. Because it is a sacred right, Catholicism requires that the person you choose to marry take the necessary steps to also become a Catholic (in a sense completely understanding and undertaking such a sacred vow).

I know I know I kinda am getting on the stump speech, but having said this as a requirement already, I want to next talk about how divorce ties into all of this.

Divorce should NOT be something you even think about during your marriage. You took the vow, you understand its implications and by getting it approved by the diocese complete with license from state you also made a legal contract. To get married after 3 years and immediately look to divorce as a solution shows inadequate resolve after having done so much to ensure this calling/vow you took stays sacred to not only you but your other half, your wife or husband (again this is after stating that you are indeed a Catholic)

If you are married, religiously binded or not I beg you not to look to divorce. That's what my main point is. There are many implications as to why you shouldn't but it isn't something that is an end all fix all, and neither is it psychologically healthy to you OR your wife/husband and worst of all kids.
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If you view divorce so lightly that something so trivial as religion would destroy it, then there are issues with your maturity. You should never have gotten married in the first place.

People in the last half century have lost the understanding of what kind of commitment marriage is. It escapes people that getting married is two people becoming one and the same, inseparable an indistinguishable. The best part about marriage is that it is not simply a christian or jewish or (insert certain point of view) thing. Every country in the world recognizes the sanctimony of marriage.

That being said, Divorce exists because there are those who do not wish to have this type of relationship with another person. They tend to think in terms of mine and theirs.

Long story short before I make too much a fool out of myself: Religion is not an issue, anyone who says otherwise is bullshitting you. The level of maturity required to believe that it has anything to do with it greatly beneath the average 2 year old.

I suppose that it's also possible to lose the person you fell in love with, even if they haven't died. Tramatic experiences that alter a person's psyche for the worse do exist.
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Posted 10/7/12 , edited 10/7/12
Well first, I would like to say I wouldn't divorce someone so easily that can strain my relationships with my kids, and if I love them, but I will say that you should get to know each others religious views, or their personal beliefs first before you even marry or continue dating.

I am a Christian and I believe in God, My future husband should have the same views because if he didn't, we wouldn't have kept on seeing each other....


For those of you who say religion is stupid, open up your mind and look into the broader aspects of life........no one knows what's beyond this universe, and we all came from somewhere, being created by something, so be more understanding of people who believe there's a higher power than us.....
Posted 10/7/12

Itsygowifey wrote:

and we all came from somewhere


The core of a dying star.

I don't know what's beyond the universe, but it's certainly not the god described in the bible. The universe works like a chaos machine.
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33 / F / North Pole
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Posted 10/7/12
My bf and I have different religions.
I think religion talk is to be done BEFORE getting married.

For me marriage is very important.
And if we would have the same religion and would leave it,I'd still stick to my man because that's what marriage is about.
Posted 10/7/12
I dont give a shit about religion really.
As long as I love the person I dont see why we should divorce.
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28 / F / Lost
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Posted 10/7/12
If I'm with someone (it's not going to happen anytime soon), he/she must respect the fact that I don't belong to any sect (religion). If thatperson tries to convert me, sayonara, sucker.
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29 / F / Australia
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Posted 10/7/12
You leave the LSA and you're nothing to me. It's as simple as that.
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Posted 10/7/12
Yeah, divorce can be a bit of a traumatic experience for children, which should be both spouse's highest priority. Even if they cannot see their relationship working out I think they should put on a ruse until their children become 18
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15 / F / somewhere on mars
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Posted 10/7/12
I don't think you should divorce your partner because they change their views. If you both loved each other, I'm sure you would come to a mutual understanding. People should have a right to decide for themselves what religion they belong to.
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20 / F / U.S.A
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Posted 10/7/12

underlock wrote:


Itsygowifey wrote:

and we all came from somewhere


The core of a dying star.

I don't know what's beyond the universe, but it's certainly not the god described in the bible. The universe works like a chaos machine.


True, but the universe IS complex we don't know anything beyond what's written in the books, so the great deity that's described in the books is probably different........ I'm just saying were all ignorant of what's beyond our reach so we shouldn't be closed minded to this "chaos machine."
Posted 10/7/12
Due to the fact that I dun sit anywhere at the religion table, I wouldn't mind marrying someone who has a "simple" religion.
Just...as long as the specific reli. Doesn't get in the way of the relationship itself, I will stay by his/her side.
It can't get in the way of the food I fucking eat either. They have their food, I have mine. The kids can decide what they like and we can be a happy-go-lucky family!
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I have no clue what's beyond death and personally I dont care. I'm not gonna waste my time praying to a diety who might not even be there. I'm sorry if that offends the ladies that even notice my presense but I'm not gonna change myself just because my respective other doesn't care for the way I think. I personally dont mind what religous view my gf/wife would have so long as they dont push their views onto me. As for kids, I would simply want them to think for themselves.
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Posted 10/7/12 , edited 10/7/12
Since this topic was brought up, I have to say something about this. Why? Cause my mom happened to marry twice to non-believers. True, she did change them, and currently they are both Christian now (one Mormon, one Christian), but marrying just to change them isn't always the smartest to do. Both went to jail being converted into Christians. Back to my opinion on this topic, I think I wouldn't marry anyone outside of Christianity. Why? To be honest, I wouldn't want to end up like my mom. If I had to marry outside of Christianity, then it would be in the name of love, but the chances of divorce would go up for me.
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