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7 Signs You're Ready to Get Married
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Posted 10/3/12

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http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/7-signs-youre-ready-married-193400673.html


1. You've Dated Around
We're not saying you have to pull a Jen Aniston and go through tons of dudes before you find The One. But having a few solid long term relationships under your belt does help you figure out what qualities are important to you and what makes a relationship work-so you truly appreciate your future hubs when you find him.

2. You Share Similar Goals
Let's say he wants to do the suburbia thing stat, while you'd love to travel the globe for a few years. If you get hitched, one of you will end up disappointed...you're in separate mind-sets right now and prioritize different things. Settle down with a man you're more or less on the same page with: you both want to live in the city, you both want (or don't want) kids, etc.

3. You Don't Want to Change Him
Look, you don't have to adore everything about your guy. But you do have to make peace with the fact that he's always going to sack out on the couch and be glued to ESPN on Sunday afternoons, and he'll never stop slurping the milk in his cereal no matter how many times you say it annoys you. You can't change a man (but you can tweak him), and trying to will make you frustrated...not to mention bitchier.

4. Your Connection Is Tight Out of Bed, Too
When you first started seeing each other, staying between the sheets all weekend was pretty legit. But for your bond to be strong enough for the long haul, you need more than a physical connection-meaning you need to know that you can have just as much fun together with your clothes on as you do when they're off.


5. You're Not Living Out a Bridal Fantasy
Sure, it seems like every time you sign onto Facebook, another pal has posted pics of herself in a stunning white gown. Sigh. But remember: Getting hitched isn't about the ceremony-it's about what happens after your big day. You'd better be thinking about your future life with him, not just your future bridal party photos (and how pretty they'll look in that fab silver frame).

6. You Both Try to Resolve Fights
After you have a disagreement, it may seem easiest to apologize and move on-you know, do the whole "pretend it never happened" thing and go forward. But sweeping conflicts under the rug only sets you up for a bigger blow-outs down the road, because the issues will likely resurface if left unresolved. If you can't talk things out rationally, you're not ready.

7. Your Friends and Family Dig Him/her
Of course, it's your life, so you have the final say. Thing is, choosing a partner is a big deal, and your inner circle's input does mean something. It's fine if a few family members or friends aren't huge fans of you two as a couple; you can't please 'em all. But if everyone seems to think you're a poor match, ask them why. They might be onto something.


are you ready for this is the question? I have been engaged twice with all these aspects filled in and still Im not married or with anyone.
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DangerousYams wrote:


Pomff wrote:

I see nothing wrong or horribly misleading from this, but it seems like most of this stuff really should be common sense. Key word there being should .


naaaaahhhhh, still think Vegas Drive-Thru Chapels are the way to go.


Damn straight brother!
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Basically what I get from this is no one is ever ready to get married.
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nothings wrong with that
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"You both try to resolve fights." Exponential understatement! Marriage is the most demanding job you'll ever have. A successful marriage is built upon constant work to maintain it, especially since you both continue to change. But it's a good list. . .
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lol sure add a few more to the list lets see what you think need to be on the list
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wwe wrote:




lol sure add a few more to the list lets see what you think need to be on the list

Hmm, I'll list a few.
8. Knowing your spouse is faithful.
9. Being with the person for a few years.
10. Financially ready. Weddings could be pretty expensive if you want to go all out. :sweatingbullets:
11. If you both are fully devoted and committed to one another. You can't be separated by the simplest and most difficult things.
12. If you're fully prepared of what lies ahead, understand that rushing could lead to a short marriage..
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I would add "You both have agreed to a basic strategy for handling finances". A major pitfall for many marriages is the (mis)managing of the household budget. It might be a cliche, but it doesn't make it any less true that some of the major fights in a marriage will be about money - how to spend it, and how not to spend it (and 'why the [blank] did you spend it on that???'). It's true that couples need their own individual funds (not a lot, just enough for something nice now and then), but don't let it get out of hand. Write up a test budget, and modify as needed to meet the bills coming in.

Getting married is the easy part (although it doesn't always seem like it at the time). Staying married is the hard part.
Posted 10/3/12

1. You've Dated Around - No

2. You Share Similar Goals - Now that's just being picky.

3. You Don't Want to Change Him - Lol this is what makes getting to know someone suck.

4. Your Connection Is Tight Out of Bed, Too - I'm a snail



5. You're Not Living Out a Bridal Fantasy - What? What the hell is that.


6. You Both Try to Resolve Fights - Resolve my fist in yo face.

7. Your Friends and Family Dig Him/her - Whatever happened to Romeo and Juliet?

I'mma tell you the real signs.


1. You love being around that person
2. They make you happy
3. You see him/her as a potential life-long partner.
BOO YA. I am like Dr.Phil.
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Apparently I'm ready to get married. The reality is, some things don't work out even if they are good
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Although a lot of people firmly deny this, I still believe that the length two people have been a couple should also factor into the decision to get married. Specifically, at the very least (and I mean very ) you should be couple for at least a year. However, personally, I believe three years is a more acceptable minimum.

Why date that long? Well, it takes a really long time to truly get to know someone. If you plan on spending the rest of your life with someone, committing to them 3 years, 4 years, or even more before getting married is a relatively small investment that might pay off if you ultimately find that you two aren't really compatible (or more likely, that after a while you two are simply bored of each other).
Posted 10/4/12 , edited 10/4/12
There is no sanctity in marriage anymore, and well over half of marriages end in divorce. So to hell with it, get married whenever you want. It's not like your making some commitment by doing it.
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One reason you're NOT ready to get married...

You're reading articles on Yahoo about whether or not you're ready to get married.

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"a few solid long term relationships under your belt"

So you're well-practiced at breaking up "solid, long-term relationships" several times already. Sure sounds like you're ready for a long-term commitment to a spouse #sarcasm
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