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7 Signs You're Ready to Get Married
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I'll never get to see those even check out for me since I'm never dating nor getting married. Good luck to those who are.
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"My wife and I were both happy for 20 years, then we met" - Rodney Dangerfield

The 7th one reminds me of a Seinfeld episode where Jerry's friends didn't like the girl he was with and he couldn't understand why, so he flew his parents out just to meet her and they loved her, and she was a keeper... iirc she was gone next thing lol.

Never getting married myself... I don't have a fear of commitment or some other ridiculous thing a women's magazine would make up about me... I just plain realize that things do not last forever, and it's much easier to call it quits and move on with your life if you're not legally bound to one another. I also don't believe in marriage in the first place... if you find someone you want to be with, that's wonderful, I'm even all for staying with someone for a long time, even forever, as long as you are really happy. What I don't believe in is that we have to take some arbitrary step to say we could be together with someone "forever"... just be with them, you don't need a piece of paper to tell you that you can love someone and be with them till you die. I also am not religious so more than 50% of the ceremony of marriage holds no meaning for me.

And maybe one shouldn't be getting marriage advice from Yahoo anyway... just go back to reading cosmo... no wait... watch Dr. Phil... wait that's even worse... how about we all just do whatever we want since more than one out of every every two married couples you know will no longer be married at some point, probably soon...

New idea for an app, "Split Date"... add your married friends, and guess if they will stay together forever, or add the date they realize they hate each other and divorce.... could have leader boards, prizes, all kinds of fun stuff from other peoples misery.
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_IceAndCream_ wrote:

"a few solid long term relationships under your belt"

So you're well-practiced at breaking up "solid, long-term relationships" several times already. Sure sounds like you're ready for a long-term commitment to a spouse #sarcasm


That's not quite the point being made - how many high school students (and college students for that matter) stay together after finishing their courses?

The point being made is that you as an individual should have some understanding of the dynamics of a relationship (how to resolve conflicts, how to enjoy each other's company, how to manage the logistics of two sometimes very disparate lifestyles), and hopefully how to keep that relationship going. You won't necessarily gain that understanding from just one relationship that's long term.

To the person that said over half of marriages don't work out, that's true in the US, certainly. We no longer seem to teach and instill the requisite skillsets that allow couples to stay together over many years. But you're incorrect in saying you're not really making a commitment in getting married, because in the eyes of religion, the public, and the government you most assuredly are. There's no point in getting married if you're convinced it's going to fail - you might as well just live together, but please remember that many states in the US have 'common law' marriages, meaning that if you've been sharing joint domicile (living together) for a set period (usually seven years or so, depending on the state) you're going to be considered 'married' for all intents and purposes (meaning you get to go to the county clerk's office for a marriage certificate whether you like it or not). Additionally, marital status will follow you everywhere - credit ratings, taxes, insurance, your circle of friends, and it will have one of the most enduring impacts upon your life whether you succeed at making it work or not.

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MeanderCat wrote:


_IceAndCream_ wrote:

"a few solid long term relationships under your belt"

So you're well-practiced at breaking up "solid, long-term relationships" several times already. Sure sounds like you're ready for a long-term commitment to a spouse #sarcasm


But you're incorrect in saying you're not really making a commitment in getting married, because in the eyes of religion, the public, and the government you most assuredly are.


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