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Asked someone out then I find out they are asexual.
SakiAiza
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Celibacy is referred to when someone is unmarried and abstains from the act due to religious reasons (priests, monks, nuns).

Involuntary celibacy (from now on incel) happens for reasons other than voluntary celibacy, asexuality, antisexuality and sexual abstinence.

Asexuality in this case isn't just a lack of sex drive. It's also a lack of attraction to other people, either physical, affective or both, and rather than being something you choose, it's something you feel. Like a calling.
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You'll get over your feelings in time, it just happens.


CarboKill wrote:

I always thought that asexuality only affected sexual urges, not romantic feelings.

Yooo you got unbanned :D
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darkness815 wrote:

Yooo you got unbanned :D


Oh yeah, I did. Oh my, I didn't even notice.
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Kira0309 wrote:

Don't you mean homosexual? Asexual means that she can get pregnant without anybody fertilizing her eggs. In other words she reproduces by making clones of herself. Pretty sure that humans cant do that unless you were referring to a non-human female species.


you're thinking of asexual reproduction. in this sense asexual means without a sexual orientation
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

I'm posting this in hopes to end further confusion.
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Anupsis wrote:

So like the title says I asked a girl out who then told me she is asexual. It looks like we will end up really good friends. I know this is a bad place to probably ask for advice but I figured why not. I am mainly worried I will not be able to get over my feelings and that I end up not being able to be around her because I cannot handle it. Any advice?


Sorry, but you got blown off. Just remember the old saying: "Rejection makes the heart grow harder." Or something like that. . .
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Posted 10/5/12
AHAHAHAHAHAHA.


a-sexual.

hehe
just tell her "hey, are you a alien" < just stright up making fun of her
or
"yo i'm a sexual too, you never know?" < re bound pick up line
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kajisawa wrote:

It's possible...if you can handle it.

I mean, two people of the opposite sex can have that closeness of friendship without sexual tensions involve.
It is really happening may it be not often times now in the Western countries but here in Asia still a lot.
Man and Woman just friends close even best of friends no sexual feelings involve just like the closeness of brother and sister.

In a relationship, where in your in love specially if your a guy, i think it is quite hard to be not physically able to express your feelings like holding hands, to having a kiss and so forth. On the other hand, to a lady it depends upon her. Some are quite comfortable of being intimate to her guy even if they are not married yet. Clearly depends on your morals, family and your belief may it be religion or self spiritual guide. Some still preserve that to their right guy. The one who take the vow of marriage not just as a aw requirement but to a law of higher being sealed in a force called true love.

Nowadays, my students, my employee, my subordinates and my friends have a different ideas or thoughts on this and clearly with their on set of different experiences maybe it be on their own, articles that they read, movies that they watch or even their own set of friends as well.

So far in general, When a man is in love with a woman...there's a thin line separating just LOVE or PURE LOVE and LOve with Physical urges. SADLY most of the guys now...LOVe is more than that feeling it is some what a 60 percent of CAN I HAVE AN intimate ACTION with you.



In the end, it is clearly UP TO YOU. NOT the advise you part take and not the ideas you have but the feelings you feel inside for her the woman you love that is which you defined ASEXUAL.






As a bit of a side note, I have come across several asexual people in my life, most of them being women. I still find it a bit of an oddity, to meet someone who is perfectly fine with platonic human relations, but has complete aversion to romantic and sexual relations. There's one girl I know, who's never dated a guy, has never had sex, but realizes in it's entirety that she may be missing out even though she has zero desire to do these things...
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Why do people always mix up sex and love?
Allready an "old fart" I would like to add: Do all young people only think about sex the whole day?
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Did you forget puberty already?
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Sexual abstinence is the practice of refraining from some or all aspects of sexual activity for medical, psychological, legal, social, philosophical or religious reasons. Asexuality is distinct from sexual abstinence and celibacy, which are behavioral and generally motivated by factors such as an individual's personal or religious beliefs
Most people are referring to this definition of the term: 'asexual' and not the 'I not a male, or a female'...most of the time. I have come across a few people, which are Sexual abstinence for personal/ non personal reasons. You do not need to make a big deal about this, it is just not necessary. yes, you might have a crush on the person right now. But, those feeling will just pass over time. Just respect the persons beliefs and do not try to change them. So, in short: Respect this person's orientation and just move on.

^my two cents about this topic^
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Posted 10/5/12

Sesshoumaru-sama wrote:

Why do people always mix up sex and love?
Allready an "old fart" I would like to add: Do all young people only think about sex the whole day? :lol:



I have been around the block myself and have been a man whore myself in the my late teens early twenties...
lately I have found out having sex is not what love is. although I do not know what love is myself at least I know it aint sex. and if thats what is gonna take up my whole day then I rather not think about it... I do have more productive stuff to do with my time.
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Sesshoumaru-sama wrote:

Why do people always mix up sex and love?
Allready an "old fart" I would like to add: Do all young people only think about sex the whole day? :lol:


Yes!!! Wait, was that directed to people younger than 32?
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Posted 10/5/12
I'm a snaaill
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