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Posted 5/11/13

lowcee wrote:

I've never been in a relationship but i have a q myself that I'm curious about

do u ever have that burning feeling or feel like the atmosphere is getting kinda heavy when your near an attractive person or towards the person you like? do u feel like that person feels it too? how do boys react to this


I used to have that feeling back in high school. Used to crush on this one girl hard. Couldn't ask her out though. Ended up asking out a few different girls that I didn't feel so anxious around and dated around a bit and built my confidence. Finally got the courage at the end of high school and I lost her phone number. This was before facebook.

Around when I was twenty three I ended up talking with her again and we immediately hit it off and I asked her out. We dated for close to a year, but found that we were much different people than we were in high school. I still consider her a good friend though. Funny part was that she used to crush on me in high school. She mentioned how there was a time when we were at her locker and she became disappointed because she thought I was going to kiss her or ask her out and didn't.

What I took from this experience was to never waste a chance.
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Reviving because of recent interest expressed here:

/forumtopic-821199/how-to-tell-if-a-female-is-into-you

(That thread has been locked as duplicate, but if you participated there and want to share your answers here, please do so.)

My opinion is that there's no sure-fire way to tell. There are some signs, but they can vary, and with some folks who are especially shy or reserved it can be hard to tell.

At some point after becoming acquainted with someone (if you're a guy or a gal), if you think you might be interested in someone and want to know how they feel about you, you might have to come right out and say how you feel and ask them what they think.

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Posted 9/19/13 , edited 9/19/13
the person above me has a good opinion, good point secret moderator loreen
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She won't let you become a hot pot ingredient!!
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Posted 9/19/13
Ask.
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Posted 9/20/13
If she wont instantly next you on chatroulette!
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Posted 9/20/13 , edited 9/20/13
There's no so sure fire way to know because a person can THINK they like somebody and a person may have THOUGHT they liked someone.

But you can sway a persons opinion. Not everyone opinion of course, but think of it this way: if there is a reaction to your actions then a certain level of interest exist. Its just a matter of escalating that interest in the 'absolute' attraction.

The signs will be obvious. The fundamental question is: who's attention are they after, yours or someone/something else?
From there, work out the subtle details and you'll find your answer.
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Posted 9/21/13
I'm a female and I don't even understand females.

Women like it when you're blunt and honest. If you love her tell her, that's all I can say to you about this topic.


If you're to shy to tell her she probably won't do anything ether because she's probably thinking that the boy is suppose to ask the girl out.
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Posted 9/21/13
I honestly think its pretty easy to tell if a girl or guy likes you. In my case it has been. Body language

But most people don't beat around the bush right? If you like her then tell her. Plain and simple. Go after what you want. & If she says no then get over it. There are plenty of awesome girls out there waiting to be swept off their feet or whatever you do
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Posted 9/21/13
Just ask her out. Not that I have ever follow that advice regularly though lol. I mean, if you are both flirting quite a bit then chances are she is into you. Although there is always that small chance that she quite simply doesn't know what she wants even if she is flirting back. Really complicated answer.

But yeah, if you want to know just find a way to talk to her a bit and then ask her out.
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Posted 9/22/13 , edited 9/22/13
Unfortunately for you, my friend, girls are not like bees: They do not have a hive mind. All girls are different, my dude. Usually you need 3 signs to tell if a girl likes or not, and not just being friendly, sometimes you can risk it on two, this depends on how confident you are.
Fortunately for you, though.. There's some clear definite signs a girl likes you:
1. If you're at the point in a friendship, where it's not awkward, grab her hand, and give it a squeeze. If she squeezes back, that's a sign.
(even if it is, don't be fuckin' beta, girls like a guy whose confident and acts on his own. That being said, respect her personal space and boundaries. Every girl is different and has different boundaries, but most girls like that hand holding shit unless they have some weird PTSD issue with it)
2. If she looks you in the eyes when you talk. This is tricky, because if she has some some self-esteem issues, she may avert her eyes down, but not always. Ensure she smiles, though, and not one of those fake ass smiles. There's a clear difference. That depends on the girl, you'll just have to know her well enough to know if she's faking it or not.
3. If you hug her and give her a squeeze and she squeezes back (don't fucking bear hug her, kind of like a small squeeze) she probably likes you. If she wants a hug that lasts longer than the norm (3 seconds is considered the norm) that's a definite answer.
4. She probably shouldn't be coming to you for her problems. A lot of girls don't want guys they like knowing about their problems until she feels safe and secure in the relationship. This isn't definite, but mostly true.
That being said, don't be a fucking beta. You need to understand the fact that even if she says no, you're a dude. Rejection happens to everyone. It's not the end of the world and you're not going to get ridiculed for it. It's only shameful if you make it so.
Man the fuck up.
Stop being a beta.
Get the girl.
If she's not into you, move on and find another girl.
GG, BG won.
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Posted 9/22/13


well said
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The thing with girls is when we notice hints (trust me girls do notice) we do sometimes wonder if guys like us. But most girls have low self esteems so they tell themselves to not flatter themselves. If you want to make it very clear you like her you have to treat her specially; if she sees you treat other girls the same way she'll think that's simply how you act.
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Posted 9/22/13
Thank you, passing my knowledge of the world one forum at a time.
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Posted 9/22/13 , edited 9/22/13
I've noticed a few feeble attempts, but I think this question deserves at least one real male chauvinist pig kind of answer (you know, to balance out all the emo clutter):

(1) Did she take your money? She's a girl--good start!
(2) Did she say "thank you" when she took your money? She's a good girl.
(3) Knowing that she already had all your money, did she return to show/share what she'd bought? She's actually interested.
(4) Knowing that she already had all your money, did she give you a few dollars for lunch tomorrow? Congrats! Now choose a best man.

and, lastly,

(5) Knowing that she already had all your money, did she give me a few dollars for lunch tomorrow? Sorry, dude, you got played!
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