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How to make conversation with girls
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26 / F / Up in the clouds~
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Posted 10/19/12
Awe that's cute.

Just say Hi, and if they don't respond then that's okay too. High school girls can be mean. Have self confidence, girls are human being too - it's not like we're from some distant planet in Andromeda.

Oh, being funny helps :]
Posted 10/19/12
Girls don't bite... most of the time. Say hi or make eye contect and wave.
If this is about talking to a girl that you're interested in dating, just join in a conversation. Contribute something to it that shows how much you respect her and enjoy her company, and make light conversation as you pass in the halls at school or anywhere you see each other. Be yourself, and never say something purely to agree with her or get on her good side if you actually have a different view. Honesty is the best policy~ To initiate a conversation during a silence, simply bring up a shared interest, or if you're feeling bold suggest you study together or hang out~
Posted 10/19/12
It's easy, just don't take things seriously and ask questions to keep the convo going. I actually find it a lot easer to talk to women then with men.. there is a level of machismo and bullshit required when talking to guys.
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Posted 10/20/12
Everyone here is acting like the op is some sort of socially retarded guy who couldn't speak a word to anyone with two x chromosomes. But that's not what he said. He just wants advice on conversation starters, because in reality, for a lot of guys, this is a very real problem.

Truth is, sometimes a guy just isn't immediately interesting to the girls around him, and unless there's some sort of common interest that's immediately apparent, chances are if the guy does manage to start talking to a girl the conversation will be very, very short.

So the real question is how do you extend these conversations, or just start them in general?

My advice is to just pick something related to the school situation you're in, like a teacher or homework that's particularly awful, and try to get a conversation going over a shared opinion on something like that. Once it's started, you're really just going to have to get ready to add some filler. Try to slowly extend it away from the school subject and into more casual stuff. It's OK for their to be pauses, but never let it get too long, especially if you don't know her that well, as you (and her) may feel too awkward to continue. Whatever you do though, make sure you talk to her like any other person, or you will come off creepy. In fact, this is probably the most difficult challenge a guy faces -- talking to a girl he's interested in without appearing creepy. Once you get past this initial awkwardness and you get to know her, it becomes as easy to talk to her as any guy you know.

Anyway, that's all I have to say. Hopefully someone else has some better advice.
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Posted 10/20/12
I don't always talk to girls but when i do, it's usually when i drink Bacardi.
Posted 10/20/12

NatakeErru wrote:

Girls don't bite... most of the time.


Very sad penis.
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Posted 10/20/12
I'll lay it out how I meet women.

1. Go to a place where your enjoy being.
The reason is that this gives you something to talk about and your mood will be positive because you are in a place where you have something to do if you get shot down. Museums, book stores, zoos, concerts (this is hard due to the noise, very hard) or any other location that would be fun for you without talking to women that you do not regularly visit. Avoid conventions and gaming stores, because the neck beards will harass the women in those places and the women will be less receptive to conversations.

2. Casually smile at the woman, but not in some creepy, I'm going to stalk you sort of way.
If she frowns at you or gives you an evil stare abort the attempt. It turns out women have bad days too and don't want to be sociable some days, just like guys. Generally though, people respond to smiles with smiles.

3. Introduce yourself.
It can be as easy as talking about the book she is holding, asking for an opinion on a book, while standing in line waiting to pay for coffee or food, or looking at a painting/picture (art galleries/museums are great). Chat for a few moments, and then introduce yourself. If the conversation is going all right, ask if she'd like to company while doing whatever. Keep in mind, this part is not a date.

4. If she has a boyfriend/girlfriend or from your conversation you don't care for her personality.
Cool, no big deal, you've gotten experience from the conversation and move on with your life after gracefully exiting or get her number and be her friend, which allows you to meet her single, female friends. The key is not to run off like a cat that was dunked in a bathtub. It'll be embarrassing which can ruin your confidence.

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4. If she does not have a boyfriend/girlfriend and you do like her personality.
Invite her out to do something similar, by now you should have gotten a few things she likes from the conversation. If she accepts, get her phone number. If she declines, once again, no big deal. You have gotten more experience in becoming comfortable.

5. Do not take it personally, regardless of the result.

Survival Tips:

Young girls in social settings are mostly looking to be 'cool' or the 'alpha female' and may be cruel to make themselves look better. This generally diminishes with age. The differences I have noticed from high school to now while approaching women are profound. The girls I approached in high school were generally in a group and tried to wreck my ego to boost theirs. The women that I approach now usually enjoy a good conversation, so even if I get shot down, it is polite.

Don't think you will be the only one shot down. I promise you, you will tell women no. I do it frequently, and I'm an average looking guy. Right now, at your age (op) you are trying to decide what you like in women. Date a variety of personality types, or even talking to them can help you narrow it down. You should break up with the women who have personality types you don't like within 3-4 weeks, but be nice about it, no drama.

It is a numbers game. For every 20 women I approach, I'll get 1 to 2 phone numbers and dates with the respective women. Some are married/have boyfriends, some like girls rather than boys, some are so busy they have no time to date, there are lots of reasons. Don't let it crush your self-confidence.
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Posted 10/20/12
1. Sit next to them in class
2. 'accidentally' drop pen under their desk
3. they reach to get it for you
4. "Oh thanks, didn't get your name. I'm SafoDays, nice to meet you"
5. Ask about their interests
6. ????
7. PROFIT
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Posted 10/20/12
DO: Chose wisely. Try to find out a little about the girl before you aproach her. If there's something you have in common, even a little thing, that helps!
DO NOT: Fake something in common, it's a killer!
Have pre-concieved ideas or expectations! Thoughts like: "ooo if she talks to me I'm going to have sex with her" are OUT!

Open mind, open heart = good!
Selfless, self honesty = good!

Smile, be truthful and don't worry about "failing"!
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Posted 10/20/12
Open your mouth and try to form sentences, and hope to god you get lucky.
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28 / M / Los Angeles
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Posted 10/20/12
What I did in some of my college classes to make it easier was to invite a few people around me (including the female I was interested in) to form a study group. Being in the same class makes for a very easy ice-breaker and it will help you get a handle of their personality while giving you plenty of opportunities to talk with them without it risking feeling awkward.

I don't particularly like approaching women in public places and trying to ask for their number (not because it doesn't work, but because it's just not part of my personality to do so), so I find building it up this way to be the easiest. Worse case scenario you come away with a couple buddies to help get you through the semester.
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20 / M / Edmonton
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Posted 10/20/12

Reptic wrote:

Everyone here is acting like the op is some sort of socially retarded guy who couldn't speak a word to anyone with two x chromosomes. But that's not what he said. He just wants advice on conversation starters, because in reality, for a lot of guys, this is a very real problem.

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Yeah like he said i can talk to most girls but there is just this one girl in my class i like and i get nervous and cant really say anything i just needed a good conversation starter.
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28 / M / Boston
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Posted 10/20/12
"Do you like bacon?"

It only can only go uphill from there.
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32 / M / Philadelphia
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Posted 10/20/12 , edited 10/20/12
Pretty much. Just talk to a girl like you would anyone else.

But if you an icebreaker, in school/college you start up conversation like, "Do you have any idea what (s)he's talking about?" I used to hear that all the time in college because some profs just can't teach and no one knows what they're talking about.

I wouldn't say just "Hi." Just seems awkward and could come off as you trying to hit on them. Just be natural and treat them like you would any one of your friends. It's okay to start a conversation with "guy talk." Long as it's not sexual of course.
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Posted 10/20/12
Make fun of them over something and when they make a cute omg lol!!! kind of reply, you know you have started off well.
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