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Why do guys prefer video games over Real Life relationships
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CalifCat wrote:

What you just said, really bored me also. So, happily go about your way, and click the mute button.


There you have it - the "my opinion is fact". It would be just the same if "your" guy would say "Look at that woman, she is so addicted to forming some lame relations with real people. I don't want to play video games with her, I just want her to play video games at all. I once got her into a video chat room, and all she talked about were other things than video games. Getting her to say something meaningful about video games is like pulling teeth - it's like she doesn't know a thing about video games, but that wouldn't be possible, would it? She is so addicted to real life socialising that she takes a shower daily just in order that other people LIKE her. I mean, come on, you don't need to shower more than once in two weeks for hygienic reasons. Showering daily can't be healthy - she is destroying her body for nothing. And all the toxic make-up she is applying to her face already has vaporised her brain cells. But I know that she is in fact interested in video games because she uses the internet and writes posts at some forums - or does she only want to do that and nothing more? Call the police department for ethical affairs - she mustn't get away with that!" That sounds as crazy as your words sound.
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Are they socially incapable of forming something meaningful with a real girl?


Yes, at least for a person in my case.

It would be the only way possible to have an intimate relationship. And because you are not bounded by the limits of this world in a video game, it is probably more meaningful.
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I am not a psychologist, but I have to agree with some of the users stating that your friend may have an underlying issue that is being overshadowed by constantly playing video games. The soda isn't much of a contributing factor... maybe except for a high sugary intake which could lead to serious health concerns down the road.

Anyway, I don't think your friend even acknowledges the GOOD you are doing for him to try and socialize him outside of the gaming world. However, putting it bluntly, if he does not want to help himself and is more focused on games, there is little you can do. He really has to SEE the harm he is doing to himself and the life he COULD be missing out on. However, some people are very comfortable in their "own little world", and do not see anything wrong with it. If he has gotten to that point, no offense but... It is his own life, he is an adult, and if he doesn't see what he is doing wrong he may not accept the helping he's been given.

He's in his 20's, right? Maybe it hasn't occurred to him that he NEEDS to start socializing more and video gaming less. If he lives with his parents, and his parents are ready to have him man up or leave, he may be in for a rude awakening.


Posted 10/25/12

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justanotherguy_2005 wrote:

I also have to ask...how old is this guy?


He is in his early 20's, plus he drinks a lot of soda, to stay up all night to play games!


Take this or leave it, not really my place to give you advice but... this dude sounds like a douche and you need to elevate your level of company. I mean, he's ignoring you. You should have left him and found someone better the first time it happened. Though I'm just going off this post since I'm too lazy to really read further. So maybe you did and you can disregard this.
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As someone that never posts here, I saw the topic from the homepage and had to read it. I think that some of what has been said in this thread is correct in that you can't expect to change someones passions just because you don't agree with them. I am in a very similar boat as your friend, my problems coming from social anxiety disorder tho, so i can't say what causes him to do what he is doing. Many of the hardcore gamers are people that are..more intelligent than Jersey Shore, and celebrity drama or "Bros". I'm guessing that he isn't very popular in his real life either, same as me.

Games to me were an escape from everything that was going so badly in my life. I couldn't tear myself away from the screen because I just didn't want to deal with all my problems. I had no friends because I was so petrified to talk to people, and the only reason I wanted to wake up and get out of bed was to play games. Nothing in real life matters in Azeroth or in CoD so..it kind of helps you forget and focus on something else. I had many people that tried to get to know me, but I was so afraid that I just ignored them, and it made me seem like a douche in hindsight, but if you really are friends with him, just try to keep showing that you care. The only people that I seemed to notice were the ones that came back to talk over and over, not the ones that just tried and left.

I'm not saying this is everyone's case, but maybe it's something that you could consider.
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WHAT?! Who says us guys don't want real life relationships with girls?
Video games are fun of course but it doesn't and shouldn't get in the way of relationships...

Now if you'll excuse me, I have some eroge to finish and must attend to my waifu lol
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I prefer a relationship over games, relationships just doesn't prefer me apparently.
Posted 10/25/12
I always thought it was a question of maturity.
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I don't wish to sound like I'm judging him unfairly, but what you describe of him reminds me of a few pen & paper RPG acquaintances I used to hang out with over a decade ago. Addictive personalities, combined with social anxieties and a singular hobby to latch onto, led to them being only as social as they needed to be for the game at hand. They didn't easily make many new friends, either (unless said friends were also gamers.) They just sort of lived for the thrill of the next gaming session, and didn't care about much else. Hell, they didn't really even want to hang out for much of anything unless the group was also going to be gaming at some point. They were sort of social, but outside of the context of gaming, they weren't very sociable.

This sort of problem has plagued the gaming community in general for as long as I can remember, though, and I've been gaming in some fashion almost every day for the last three decades. I still know when to set them aside, so I can get some work on my own game done. I call it a problem, because these gamers are very much in the minority of the community, but to many who are non-gamers, they embody a stereotype of what gamers are, and the connotation is most certainly a negative one.

It's in stark contrast to how a lot of gamers become more extroverted (or at least, more sociable in general) because they find and maintain interests beyond gaming. I know a combination of roleplaying gaming and years of theater acting helped me work through my social anxiety by the time I was out of high school. Perhaps I was one of the luckier ones, though. Of course, there's a saying regarding social anxiety which still sort of amuses me: "The problem with making new friends is that you're required to talk to strangers."
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Posted 10/25/12

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CalifCat wrote:

What you just said, really bored me also. So, happily go about your way, and click the mute button.


There you have it - the "my opinion is fact". It would be just the same if "your" guy would say "Look at that woman, she is so addicted to forming some lame relations with real people. I don't want to play video games with her, I just want her to play video games at all. I once got her into a video chat room, and all she talked about were other things than video games. Getting her to say something meaningful about video games is like pulling teeth - it's like she doesn't know a thing about video games, but that wouldn't be possible, would it? She is so addicted to real life socialising that she takes a shower daily just in order that other people LIKE her. I mean, come on, you don't need to shower more than once in two weeks for hygienic reasons. Showering daily can't be healthy - she is destroying her body for nothing. And all the toxic make-up she is applying to her face already has vaporised her brain cells. But I know that she is in fact interested in video games because she uses the internet and writes posts at some forums - or does she only want to do that and nothing more? Call the police department for ethical affairs - she mustn't get away with that!" That sounds as crazy as your words sound.


^this
Posted 10/25/12


Nope. Far as i'm concerned someone like that just goes to live on a solitude lifestyle of games and porn as a substitution for it. They're socially inept because they spend most of their time playing games rather than strengthening their abilities as a person out in the real world; they haven't done that simply because they were unmotivated to and was sucked into that mindset. Gaming is very addictive. The more you stay in that mindset the more time goes by, the more it drains you as a person and how you see 'reality'. I see people who have become like this to have developed a mental disability.

Sorry, but gaming is just a cheap way to run away from life. It's a hobby and something you do for fun, not something you use as a substitution for your every 'needs'. If you can't see it, then you're simply a weak minded person trying to protect your ever so weak self that has been sucked into that mindset. You're embarrassed to say that you've stooped to that level of life. Slowly people are starting to uptake these mindsets and not do anything about it because gaming has become such a huge industry. In a sense, people don't realize it but it's almost as though it's indoctrination.

This is not a biased opinion at all either. I love games and have been gaming ever since I was born, it's been a huge part of my life; but I know the difference between right and wrong. Imagination and reality. To solely dedicate yourself to imagination is not right, you need to see reality and face it. Live life at it's best, not the lowest. Do something with your life, the world is a huge place.
Posted 10/25/12
lol i will never put video games be4 women its not that i dont really like taking i just never have anything to say but if some1 else starts the conversation then iam a very good listener and i will talk 2 them about what they are talking about
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Posted 10/25/12

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Are they socially incapable of forming something meaningful with a real girl?


you might want to rephrase your question. its like me saying why are all girls this or that. its obvious not all girls act or do certain things and the same applies to us guys.
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Damn, a real VRMMORPG can't come soon enough.
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I really don't think that's true...

I'm sure any guy would love the companionship of a girl if they ever found that feeling.
Even the hardcore gamers...
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