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Post Reply Do you girls find shy guys attractive?
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Posted 11/4/12

vangtk wrote:

In my observation, shy guys attract shy girls. Confident guys will attract the whole spectrum. As a confident guy, I've gone out with all personalities. However, a friend of mine is shy, has gone out with less girls, and normally those girls that he does go out with tend to be shy too. Mutual female friends have told me that looks-wise, we're equal, but my confidence puts me over the top.

In my opinion, the only difference between a shy guy and a confident guy is that a confident guy doesn't care as much what other people think about him.


Confidence is the ability to trust yourself
once you do that, you begin to carry yourself with confidence.

a shy person is timid because he is unsure of his (~himself) actions and what the result might be from said actions, regardless of whether the action was right or wrong.
If you trust that action, you trust yourself, you are now confident

-over confidence = douchebag, self-centered, arrogant;

TL;DR ver.
~practice self trust = confidence
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pandrasb wrote:


vangtk wrote:

In my observation, shy guys attract shy girls. Confident guys will attract the whole spectrum. As a confident guy, I've gone out with all personalities. However, a friend of mine is shy, has gone out with less girls, and normally those girls that he does go out with tend to be shy too. Mutual female friends have told me that looks-wise, we're equal, but my confidence puts me over the top.

In my opinion, the only difference between a shy guy and a confident guy is that a confident guy doesn't care as much what other people think about him.


Confidence is the ability to trust yourself
once you do that, you begin to carry yourself with confidence.

a shy person is timid because he is unsure of his (~himself) actions and what the result might be from said actions, regardless of whether the action was right or wrong.
If you trust that action, you trust yourself, you are now confident

-over confidence = douchebag, self-centered, arrogant;

TL;DR ver.
~practice self trust = confidence


To an extent, I agree with your definitions. However, being overly confident doesn't make someone a douchebag or self-centered. It only means that their confidence is misplaced.
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Over<- as in too much confident would result in arrogance
too much of anything is a bad thing
i get this stuff from merriam webster
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I suppose that if I looked like this, I would only attract giant turtle shells...
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interesting, i was expecting girls will say they prefer confident males more
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No.. I don't like men being shy..
I want a man who's manly enough
Posted 11/4/12
its not that i am shy its just that i really cant think of anything to talk about so every1 assumes i am shy lol
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(To contribute to the above discussion):

Confidence, Loud, Outgoing, Quiet, Shy
They are all separate entities that can be attributes to another, but are intrinsically different.
A confident person may be loud, but it does not mean that they are outgoing.
They can be quiet, but it doesn't mean that they are shy.
A confident person can be shy too.
Furthermore, a quiet person is not necessarily shy.

(On topic:)

I personally associate shyness as being a type of person who avoids others and finds it hard to make eye contact without becoming nervous.
Either way, shyness is definitely not something that i personally find attractive. It is a huge turn off.
Posted 11/4/12
If I was a girl, I'd prefer Shy guys.
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I think shy guys are absolutely adorable, but is it possible that the whole "shy guy" impression is also somewhat of an illusion? Given the person and circumstances, once you start to build a relationship, they start to come out of their shell, right? And if they remain shy, what does that mean for the relationship? I mean wouldn't it be hard to maintain a relationship with someone who was shy? Regardless of whether you (the female) are shy or not, it doesn't sound like fun, but more of a pain. So I think it's the concept of a shy guy that's adorable, but that would get old after a while, especially when you begin to want more with that person. I think the allure of a "shy guy" fades, it's like the "honeymoon period" of a relationship.
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I don't think this is a fair question to girls because shy guys like me would never try to meet a girl in person, so you would never be able to formulate an opinion about us.
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Being shy myself, I feel more at ease with people who share that trait with me.
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lordseth23 wrote:

I don't think this is a fair question to girls because shy guys like me would never try to meet a girl in person, so you would never be able to formulate an opinion about us.


That might be an extreme form of 'shy'; I know some shy guys in real life, and when the OP says 'attractive', I believe they mean generally either on first-meeting, or as friends. Shy guys can have lots of girl friends as well; but in our form of answer, I think it is more like a 'would you date a shy guy?' because shy is just an attribute so whilst a person can have an opinion of someone else because of varying personality factors, the /trait/, 'shy', is something that you can find attractive or not.

On that note though, whilst I said that I am not attracted to shy guys, shy guys who have the courage to be bold for the person they like, I think that is adorable. But they I guess they wouldn't be that shy after all.
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I think in this thread, the concept of quiet and shy are overlapping, and they are actually very different.

I'm a pretty quiet guy, but I am most definitely not shy. I just follow the belief that what you say shows a lot about who you are, so I pick my words carefully and tend not to waste them.

For the record, more girls approach me than vice versa.

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They are great friends but not the type of person i would date.
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